11 errores en las citas que ahuyentan a los hombres (y cómo evitarlos)

Cuando nos enamoramos, tendemos a cometer errores que normalmente no cometeríamos, porque, admitámoslo, el amor nos vuelve un poco estúpidos.

From blowing up his phone, to making him feel like he’s a suspect being interrogated, just because it feels good to have someone by our side and we want to see more of him.

Así que hemos reunido algunas de las más comunes errores que cometemos para evitarlas y así no ahuyentar a los hombres.

Volar su teléfono

Admit it ladies, we’ve all done this. Texting with him all the time feels amazing, because you have so much to talk about and it just feels good to have that silly grin on your face when your phone buzzes.

But it’s best to avoid blowing up his phone, because it could get annoying really quick and he will run away.

Ser pegajoso demasiado pronto

Esto va de la mano con el bombardeo telefónico. Dale la oportunidad de respirar y de echarte de menos. If you’re clingy e intentar pasar cada momento que puedas con él, sólo te hará parecer necesitada.

Men need to feel the excitement of the chase, and if he’s not chasing you, there’s a good possibility that he will lose interest soon.

Necesitándolo

It’s one thing wanting to be with someone and wanting to spend some time with that person, but needing them is a whole different aspect of a relationship.

Necesitas a alguien que te arregle o para hacerte sentir bien contigo misma no es justo, ni hacia ti ni hacia él.

Make sure that you don’t depend on him, because no one will stick around for long if they feel like they’re being used.

Hablar de tus ex todo el tiempo

If he asks, keep your answer short and not in an accusatory tone. No one loves to listen to someone they’re considering dating siguen hablando de sus ex o incluso hablar mal de ellos.

It’s important to respect the fact that at some point you had love for those other men and that no matter how badly things ended, you can take the high road now.

Analizar demasiado la situación

Tendemos a hacer esto todo el tiempo, no sólo con los hombres con los que salimos. La mayoría de las veces, las cosas no son lo que parecen en nuestra cabeza, así que si tienes dudas, pregúntale.

It’ll be so much easier for both of you and you’ll create a habit of discussing issues, not ignoring them.

Hablar demasiado de uno mismo

When we’re nervous, we talk too much and mostly nonsense. Take a deep breath and ask him to talk about himself.

It’s easy to get too involved with yourself when you have someone who shows interés in you, but it’s important that he feels like you’re actually there with him, that you want to know about him too, not just keep up a monologue about yourself all the time.

No respetar los límites

Whether they’re your or his boundaries, respect them. If you said no, stick to it. If he said he needs space or time, respect it.

Don’t push too far with your love, because you’ll corner him too soon and he will definitely start looking for the escape route.

Esperar que te lea la mente

If you’re upset and he doesn’t seem like he knows why that is, tell him.

You can’t expect him to know what you’ve been through or to know what he did wrong if you just met—you need to be open and tell him what the problem is.

Si sigue haciendo las cosas mal, déjalo. Pero la mayoría de los hombres intentarán evitar situaciones en las que tú acaban heridos, because they’re not all total assholes.

Criticar a otras mujeres

There’s a good reason why they say, “The way you talk about others, says more about you than it does about them.” If you have the need to put someone down or shame them, just to make you look good, stop and think about it for a second.

Keep in mind that you’re already amazing and have his attention, because there’s a reason he’s with you. So, let everyone live their lives in peace, because that’s what you would want them to do for you.

Compartir en exceso

Avoid sharing your deepest and darkest memories at the beginning. It’s okay to let him know about your past, but being fully intimate right at the start is not good to do.

Su alarma de novia pegajosa saltará, porque compartir demasiado al principio a menudo parece precipitarse.

If it comes naturally, because you clicked, do it. But still keep in mind that you don’t know this man so well and it will seem weird that you decided to open up right away.

Interrogándole

You want to know everything about him, because it’s important for you to see if he’s just another time-waster, but don’t bomb him with questions so he feels like he’s being interrogated.

Sigue el hilo de la conversación y dale también la oportunidad de conocerte.