11 maneras de perderse cuando se está enamorado

Las relaciones pueden ser dinámicas y cambiar a menudo. Por eso es normal que cambies algunas cosas por tu pareja.

However, you shouldn’t change everything about yourself for the sake of the relationship.

It’s nice to change some little things that your partner doesn’t like, but even those changes shouldn’t be made too often.

Change is part of our growth process but constant adjustment will make you into a whole new person, and that’s not healthy for your relationship.

You can’t force someone to be with you, but un hombre que te ama se quedará contigo pase lo que pase.

Si quieres averiguar si has cambiado negativamente en tu relación, pregúntate si te identificas con alguno de los siguientes aspectos:

1. You ALWAYS put your partner’s needs ahead of yours

If you want to show your man how much you appreciate him, of course you’ll put him ahead of your own needs sometimes.

You want to make him happy so you’ll do something that he likes, even if you don’t like it.

But if you always do that, it means that you’re not caring for yourself the way you used to.

Your partner has become the center of your universe (that’s nice, don’t get me wrong) and you have forgotten about all your own needs and wishes.

Ten cuidado, tu hombre podría acostumbrarse a esto y también podría gustarle.

If he realizes what’s happening, he may appreciate you less because he’ll see that you don’t appreciate yourself enough to stay true to yourself.

2. Buscas la aprobación de tu hombre para todo lo que quieres hacer

You want to know your partner’s opinion about everything you do, and you’ll change your mind if he is not okay with it.

You’ll even ask him his opinion about what clothes to wear and if he says that your choice isn’t the best, you’ll immediately change your clothes.

Esto podría llegar a ser muy peligroso porque podría acostumbrarse a aprobar todas tus acciones y tu aspecto.

Una situación así puede hacer que tu relación se vuelva tóxica y que acabes culpándote por no ser lo suficientemente bueno.

3. Traicionas tu moral por él

Tu moral es lo que te define. ¿Qué serías sin ellas, o si están en constante cambio? ¿Serías realmente la misma persona?

You think it’s okay to neglect and change your beliefs and morals because of the man you love.

You’ll do everything necessary to be with him, even if it means that you have to change the most important thing about yourself.

If you lose yourself this way, you won’t be able to fully enjoy your relationship.

A veces piensas en cambiar tu moral sólo para evitar una pelea con él. Tienes miedo de entrar en conflicto con él en caso de que te deje.

Bueno, si lo hace, significa quehe doesn’t deserve you because he thinks that your opinion doesn’t matter.

4. Te callas lo que sientes

You’ve always talked about your feelings and you don’t regret it. You’ve even encouraged others to do the same.

So, what’s happened? Why are you keeping quiet now?

I’ll tell you what’s happened: Your fear of losing the man you love. You are afraid that if you talk with him about what’s bothering you, he won’t understand or he’ll be angry.

Expresar los sentimientos es la parte más importante de toda relación. Te ayuda a afrontar los problemas.

Instead, you’ve chosen to bury your feelings. Like that will make them go away.

It won’t. You’ll feel stressed and uncomfortable, but you’ll deal with all the negative emotions because you think that opening up to your partner could be risky for your relationship.

5. Ignoras tu intuición

De nuevo, esta es una de las cosas que haces porque you are afraid he’ll leave.

Empiezas a dudar de su lealtad. Incluso encuentras alguna pequeña prueba y tu instinto te dice que algo va mal.

Empieza a llegar tarde a casa y empiezas a dudar aún más de que no te esté siendo leal.

But somehow, you’ll choose to ignore all of the signs and to mute your intuition because you don’t want to argue with him. You want to believe that he loves you the same way you love him.

6. Su confianza se tambalea

Your self-esteem is compromised by everything you let your partner do for you. You don’t see yourself the way you used to. Now, the feeling of not being good enough is always with you.

You’ve become totally dependent on your partner because you are not sure that you’ll do anything well by yourself.

Your self-love is also compromised by lots of new changes. You don’t feel comfortable in your own skin anymore.

Estos nuevos sentimientos son desagradables para ti y puede que tardes meses en volver a enamorarte de ti misma.

7. Olvidas a tus viejos amigos

You are in a relationship, not in a prison. So, why don’t you continue to hang out with your friends? Remember, they #were there for you before your boyfriend.

People grow up and drift apart – that’s normal. But if you are able to keep your friendships you really should.

Deberías estar agradecido a tus amigos por todo lo que habéis pasado juntos, por todos los bonitos recuerdos de la infancia que habéis creado juntos.

8. Dejas en suspenso tus sueños y objetivos

¿Recuerdas que estabas lleno de sueños y pasiones para el futuro? Ahora que

has all changed. You’ve put it all on hold because you want him to succeed first. You can wait a few years.

Pregúntate a ti mismo, ¿estaría satisfecho contigo ahora el que tenías 16 años? Si la respuesta es NO, empieza a cambiar tu comportamiento.

Tienes que trabajar para hacer realidad tus sueños. Te lo debes a ti misma. Se lo debes a esa niña que estudió mucho porque quería terminar la escuela y convertirse en una mujer de éxito.

9. Dejas pasar oportunidades de trabajo por él

You’ve finally gotten a good job offer but decided that you won’t accept it because you’ll be miles away from your significant other.

It’s your choice but remember how long you have waited for a good opportunity like this. If it really is true love, a long-distance relationship shouldn’t be a threat.

El antiguo tú aceptaría encantado la increíble oportunidad, sin pensárselo dos veces.

10. You can’t stand it when you argue with your man

As we’ve already said, you’ll do whatever you can to avoid conflict. Most of the time you just shut up and let him say what he wants.

Every time you have an argument with your man, you immediately start crying. All you can think about is how he’ll leave you.

You don’t want to argue with him because you are temiendo cómo terminará la lucha.

11. Siempre hablas de él y de vuestra relación

When you are hanging out with your besties, don’t talk about your man all the time. They’ll think that you are too clingy and that you can’t be without him for even a minute.

It will seem like you don’t have any other things in life except him. And that’s not true.

You still have many interesting things in your life to talk about with your friends, you’ve just forgotten about all of them because you’ve put your SO at the center of your universe.

Para terminar

Si te identificas con alguna de estas señales, ésta es tu llamada de atención.

Perderse en una relación sólo hará que sea disfuncional y poco saludable.

Then, when it ends – and it will because your partner will become bored with you – you’ll have nothing left to give to your next love. You’ll feel empty inside.

Prioriza. Tu relación contigo mismo debe ser siempre lo primero.

El amor propio es la base de cualquier otro amor. Cómo puedes amar a otra persona si no eres capaz de amarte a ti mismo?

Nunca cambies por un hombre. Conoce quién eres y cuánto vales. Mantente siempre fiel a ti misma.

Recuerde, si un hombre te ama de verdad, he’ll accept you for who you are.