15 promesas que debería hacerse a sí mismo y cumplir para siempre

You’re very careful not to let down others, especially when you give them your word about something. You are ready to do the impossible just to fulfill your promises and to stand behind what you say. 

Well, it’s time to start behaving in the same manner towards yourself as well. Time to make some crucial promises to yourself and stick to them for as long as you breathe. 

Aquí están. 

To accept yourself…

First and foremost, you have to promise yourself that you’ll always accept your true self, without allowing others to change you. No, you’re not perfect and you shouldn’t even try to be – you have your own flaws. 

Sin embargo, debe aceptar el imperfecciones too. Be aware that even those things you don’t like about yourself have built you into the person you’re today, so please don’t dishonor them. 

Don’t change the essence of your personality for the sake of some guy you think would love you more if you were different.

Don’t do it to impress your boss or best friend, or because your family asks you to. And don’t do it just to fit in. You are you, whether others like it or not. 

…but constantly work on self-improvement

Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t aspire to always be better.

Hay una gran diferencia entre modificarse para complacer a otra persona y darse cuenta de las cosas que a uno mismo le gustaría mejorar. 

Promise to yourself that you’ll never allow yourself to be trapped in your comfort zone, just because you’re too scared to step out of it and try some new things.

Promise to yourself that you’ll always believe in your own abilities, that you’ll always be ambitious and put all possible effort into making your dreams turn into reality. 

Ponerse en primer lugar

You know how your entire life you’ve been taught that selfishness is an awful quality? That the worst thing you can do is be egocentric who doesn’t care about other people. 

And that is something I couldn’t agree more on. However, what you obviously forgot is that establecer prioridades sobre los demás es todo menos egoísta y malvado.

In fact, it’s exactly what you should be doing. 

Esto puede sonar duro, pero todo el mundo en tu vida, excepto tú, es reemplazable. Sí, debes valorar tus relaciones con los demás, pero nunca olvides que tu relación contigo mismo está por encima de todo. 

Elegir tus batallas

You’re a fighter and that is something to be proud of. That said, please promise yourself that from now on, you’ll choose your battles a little bit wiser.

No todo ni todos merecen el cien por cien de tu esfuerzo. Deja de perder los nervios por cualquier nimiedad y, para variar, a veces déjate llevar. 

Most importantly, promise yourself that you’ll stop fighting other people’s battles.

Yes, helping out a friend or a family member is great, but ultimately, it’s not your job to save anyone or resolve all of their problems. 

Preserve your inner peace and mental health above everything else because if you lose it, you’ll have to invest incredible amounts of energy and time to get it back. 

To leave the past in the past…

Carga emocional puede causarte más problemas de los que imaginas. Sin embargo, por desgracia, la mayoría de nosotros, incluido tú, llevamos esa carga a cuestas. 

Well, please promise yourself that from now on, you’ll be leaving the past behind you, where it belongs.

Acepta que algunas cosas y algunos acontecimientos sucedieron como sucedieron y que no hay nada que puedas hacer al respecto.

You can’t change your past by thinking about it or by wishing it turned out differently. In fact, the only thing that’ll get you is you allowing it to destroy your present and future. 

…but to learn from it

However, that doesn’t mean that you should forget everything that went on before this given moment. Instead, vow to learn from the past and never repeat your mistakes. 

Reconócelos, asume tu responsabilidad y analiza hasta el punto de saber qué hiciste mal y cómo puedes asegurarte de que no vuelva a ocurrir.

Take everything that’s been going on in your life as a valuable lesson. 

Don’t forget that even the bad things happen for a reason. They’re there to teach you and help you become the person you’re destined to be. 

No conformarse con menos

Una de las promesas más importantes que todos debemos hacernos a nosotros mismos es recordar lo mucho que merecemos y nunca conformarse con menos.

Esto se aplica a sus relaciones sentimentales, amigos, familia, trabajo y todos los demás segmentos de su vida. 

Deja de aguantar la mierda de los demás sólo porque esperas que cambien o sólo porque les quieres.

From now on, stop giving more than you receive and only let in the people who give you exactly the same amount of effort they’re receiving from you. 

Remember your worth and don’t let anyone try to convince you that you’re not enough. No, you’re not asking for too much and you’re not too picky – you just have standards and dealbreakers. 

Ser amable con uno mismo

You know how you’re full of understanding toward everyone around you?

¿Cómo es que nunca los juzgas, olvidas sus fechorías, encuentras justificación para su mal comportamiento y, de alguna manera, consigues perdonarlos, hagas lo que hagas? 

Sabes que siempre encuentras una forma de consolar a tus amigos and put a smile back on their face, even when they’re at their lowest?

¿Cómo les escuchas cuando lo necesitan y te aseguras de que nunca se sientan mal?

Well, why shouldn’t you start treating yourself in the same manner? Why shouldn’t you make a vow to be caring and kind toward yourself more than you are toward others?

No ocultar tus emociones

In today’s society, showing feelings has become a sign of weakness. Well, let me tell you that it is actually one of the biggest proofs of your inner strength.

It means that you have what it takes to face your emotions, including the ones you don’t like and would prefer not having.

Eres lo suficientemente valiente como para mirarlos directamente a los ojos y tratarlos de la forma más sana posible. 

That’s why I’m asking you to make a promise that you’ll never try reprimir sus emociones nunca más.

I’m not saying that you should allow them to get the best of you or overwhelm you, but please, don’t think they’ll go away if you pretend they don’t exist. 

Liberarse de la toxicidad y la negatividad

Otra promesa importante es cortar con todos los que te hacen sentir mal.

Es dejar los hábitos y las cosas que traen negatividad a tu vida, y alejarte de todo y de todos los tóxicos.

I don’t care how long you have known that friend or whether this is your sibling we’re talking about – if someone brings pessimism and darkness in your life, you have to kick them out of it, or at least reduce your contact to the bare minimum.

You don’t need emotional vampires, liars, cheaters, manipulators, narcissists, and other types of toxic people who are only making you miserable. 

Escuchar a tu corazón

I won’t lie to you – going after your heart will probably bring you more than one trouble.

So, you definitely shouldn’t blindly follow it without even taking what your brain has to say into consideration. 

However, please, promise me that you’ll at least listen to its desires and that once in a while, you’ll do exactly what it tells you.

Yes, you might fail, but you’ll know you did exactly what you wanted and that satisfaction will be more than enough. 

Pay more attention to the signals your intuition sends you and be aware that it is rarely mistaken. You don’t always have to do the right thing!

Not to live by other people’s standards

Remember: You don’t depend on anyone, so why should you listen to other people’s opinions?

Hearing out a piece of advice is one thing, but living your own life on someone else’s terms and being a people pleaser is completely different. 

Promise yourself that you’ll stop doing things just because they’re expected of you. That you won’t be worried about fitting in and following some imaginary social standards that serve you no good. 

Don’t you ever forget that you’re the only one who makes the rules – the only one who is responsible for your own life. 

Para celebrar la vida

Por favor, empieza a disfrutar de cada respiración.

No, you don’t necessarily have to spend each day like it’s your last and like there is no tomorrow, but at least sometimes, live in the moment and appreciate all of your blessings. 

Sé agradecido for the fact that you’re alive, healthy, and sane. For the fact that you’re loved and that you have more than enough for a decent life. 

Sé un poco más optimista y céntrate en las cosas buenas que te pasan, en lugar de machacarte constantemente por las malas. Celebra la vida y celébrate a ti mismo.

Respetarse y apreciarse

In theory, we all demand respect and you’re no exception. However, how can you expect others to give it to you, unless you start respecting yourself first?

That is exactly why I’m here to ask you to promise that you’ll start respecting your time, space, thoughts, desires, and dreams a little more.

That you’ll start respecting yourself as a daughter, sister, friend, woman, and individual.

Jura aprender a apreciar más tus sacrificios. Dejar de permitir que la gente te dé por sentado o se aproveche de ti. 

Respeta y aprecia tu cuerpo y tu corazón. Respétate y apréciate.

Ser feliz

Finally, promise yourself that you’ll do everything in your power to make yourself as happy as possible. Because that’s all of our final goal. 

La felicidad puede significar muchas cosas, pero lo que importa es que la sientas en lo más profundo de tu ser, pase lo que pase.

Be aware that you’re the only creator of your life and the only one who can make herself truly happy, before expecting someone else to do it. 

Make a promise that you’ll never do anything to break your own heart and that you’ll forever remain in pursuit of felicidad and inner peace. Because at the end of the day, that’s what counts.