5 cosas que hacer cuando estás atrapado en una "relación de follamigos

Lee esto sin juzgar La mayoría de las mujeres pondrán los ojos en blanco ante la más mínima mención de un amigos con derecho a roce relación, alias FWB.

The main point of view of the majority of women is that an FWB relationship doesn’t benefit women, just men.

Las mujeres lo evitan porque tienen la sensación de que se aprovechan de ellas al estar en una relación que suele implicar sólo sexo.

Bueno, la gran sorpresa aquí es que no todas las mujeres realmente quieren una relación, al igual que los hombres.

FWB relationships are not something that is restricted to a men’s club only.

Surprised? I don’t think so. Con este conocimiento, sigamos adelante.

No todas las personas, hombres o mujeres, quieren lo mismo. No todos quieren una relación duradera y un final feliz para siempre.

Algunos quieren estar en un relación sumisaalgunos anhelan un follamigo.

The point is, it should be their choice. After all, it’s their life, and they should do whatever makes them happy.

So, if there is someone in your life telling you what to do and how to live it, telling you whether it’s good or bad to be in an FWB relationship, then you have a very amigo celoso.

Nevertheless, don’t limit yourself by only thinking about relationships in an old-fashioned way, ‘the right way’.

If that is not something you’re up for at the moment, something you currently don’t want, then listen to your gut, and do whatever the hell you want. The point is to be happy.

So, if you feel that you want to be more than a fuckbuddy, that you’ve changed your mind about ‘no strings attached’ sex, if you think you have feelings for him, then you should do the following:

1. Siempre puedes dejar

Nadie te obliga a mantener una relación FWB. En cualquier momento, sabes dónde está la puerta y puedes marcharte.

It’s your choice that you’re in one, and if you start looking him differently like you want a relationship with him, think about what he feels about that before you make a move.

If you think that’s not a good idea, then leave him because staying his fuckbuddy while having deeper feelings is torture, and it’s not going to end well.

2. Despréndete lentamente

Start distancing yourself. Spend less and less time with him. This can be his indicator that you’re not up for it anymore. He can take a hint, so he might play along and stop calling you.

You don’t want to be desperate and beg him for attention when your relationship has been defined as nothing serious from the start.

Don’t try to talk to him about your feelings if he didn’t do that first. If he saw that you’re distancing yourself, he would have tried to keep you if he is more serious about you.

But if he did nothing and let you go, then you can be sure you’re just a fling.

3. Don’t turn it into a one-sided relationship

Don’t be the one who initiates things. Don’t try to talk him into doing something you want and he doesn’t. This way you’re turning your relationship into a one-way street.

He has no deeper feelings for you, and if you develop some for him, it’s not going to end up good for you.

The more you try and the more you get rejected, the more you’ll hurt. Your anxiety will grow, and you’ll become vulnerable.

You won’t be able to control your actions and your behavior, and you’ll probably do something you’ll regret later.

4. Provocar una reacción

Igual que puedes provocar ansiedad en ti, puedes provocar una reacción en él.

Haz que se tome la molestia de preocuparse más por ti. Haz que intente ganarte como a un premio, que intente seducirte.

Si muerde el anzuelo y va a por ello, puede que le dirijas hacia donde quieres que vaya.

You just might provoke him to react. If he has the slightest romantic feelings for you, he will react and try to win you over. If he likes you, he won’t risk losing you.

5. Quiérete a ti mismo

Piensa en ti mismo, sé egoísta. Sé el creador de tu propia felicidad.

You don’t need a man to be happy; you know that. If the relationship is not going in the direction you want it to, don’t adjust to it. Do your own thing, and leave.

As I’ve already said, a man won’t define your happiness. Moreover, if a man sees that you are one dominant and independent woman happy all by herself, he will want you even more.

He knows that if he gets together with you, he won’t be responsible for making you happy.

He won’t be the one who’ll run around you in circles or walk on eggshells making sure he doesn’t say something that’ll hurt you.

El hecho de que te quieras lo suficiente como para cuidarte es increíblemente sexy y atractivo para cualquier hombre.

If you look at it right, it’s a win-win situation. You love and respect yourself if you leave a relationship that doesn’t suit you, and you’ll be attractive as hell to all men out there if you do so.

Do what makes you happy. Stay or leave. It’s up to you.