5 movimientos de poder que una mujer debería hacer si quiere una relación de verdad

Don’t you just wish you were born in an era of that old-fashioned love? It seems like it was all easier back then. If nothing else, everything was more genuine and honest.

Hoy en día, salir y encontrar el amor es un lío. El arte del cortejo y los largos periodos de noviazgo han sido sustituidos por salir y enrollarse, lo que ha desordenado enormemente nuestra vida amorosa.

Terminamos en mediocre, mediocre situaciones instead of being in a real relationship. And it isn’t like we don’t want something meaningful. It’s just that it is hard to come by.

It’s hard but it is not impossible, especially if we know what to do. There are 5 power moves a woman can pull if she wants a real relationship:

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Seguro que conoces a alguien, o conoces a alguien que conoce a alguien, que encontró el amor a través de aplicaciones de citas. Pero esas personas son realmente raras. Son excepciones.

Si usas Hinge, Tinder o algo similar, te habrás dado cuenta de todos los cretinos que hay por ahí.

Si hay alguien decente por ahí, está siendo eclipsado por todos aquellos que están tratando de echar un polvo o simplemente están matando el tiempo y en el proceso, perdiendo el tuyo.

So if you are serious about finding real love, chances are these apps won’t help you. They will just steal your time and exhaust your efforts.

Don’t settle for fake, last minute, mediocre dates

“I have nothing better to do, so I might as well hang out with her.” is not the date you are supposed to go on. You don’t need someone calling you out of the blue just because it’s convenient for them.

Make sure to tell them it’s not convenient for you, and that they should have asked you earlier. You are not one who sits by the phone and jumps as soon as it ringsl—at least you shouldn’t be.

Dates should be preplanned, thought of and give you something to look forward to. They don’t have to be luxurious or expensive—that’s not the point.

The point is that you see he put some thought into it and that he can’t wait to see you. Only a man who makes an effort is worthy of your time.

Su esfuerzo en la primera cita te dirá mucho.

Don’t let him cross the doorstep of your home too soon

Don’t go to his place either. It’s a trap. Most of us are prone to chilling and spending time in the comfort of our homes.

La mayoría de nosotros cometemos el error de invitar a alguien a esa zona de confort demasiado pronto.

This makes people subconsciously think that by doing, we are up for a more laid back and casual relationship. It’s not just about no tener relaciones sexuales demasiado pronto. It’s about turning the date into hanging out.

Don’t give all the boyfriend benefits to someone who is not your boyfriend.

Es mejor mantenerlo alejado del sofá al menos durante las primeras semanas, hasta que lo conozcas mejor. Ya habrá tiempo para sofás, mimos, Netflix y relax más adelante.

4. Déjale bajar suavemente si empieza a jugar

By now, you can spot a player from a mile away. He will play texting games. One minute he’ll be there and the next nowhere to be found. He will lead you on in all the ways possible.

Of course, you won’t put up with that. Been there, done that. There is no point in going through it again. That’s why you have to send that text you don’t really want to send, but you know you have to.

Puede ser algo así:
“ Hi there. I don’t like beating around the bush so I’ll be honest with you. I am not into casual hookups. I like real dates and I believe men who make efforts are extremely hot. I need time to get to know someone better in order to jump into bed with them and only them. If you don’t share my opinion that’s ok. I like to let people know where they stand with me.”

Know what you want and don’t be afraid to say it

Solemos mentirnos a nosotros mismos. Nos metemos en algo con alguien que no implica compromiso alguno para evitar parecer demasiado necesitado al principio.

De alguna manera ese comienzo se prolonga, y acabamos en una relación casi sin quererlo. Y lo único que hacemos es magullarnos el corazón y perder el tiempo.

Don’t let somebody put words in your mouth that aren’t yours. Don’t say you are not into labels and that you don’t mind keeping things casual if instead, you truly want to be somebody’s girlfriend.

So be honest with yourself first, and be honest with the person you are dating. Determine your boundaries, and don’t drift far away from sus normas.

If you want a real relationship with someone who is not afraid to be in one and who is willing to match all your efforts, don’t settle for anything less.