5 trucos para que se comprometa (y 5 cosas que le espantarán)

Compromiso. Qué palabra tan grande y aterradora.

Conseguir que un hombre se comprometa es probablemente el objetivo final de toda mujer, conseguir que se establezca en una relación para el resto de su vida.

Actually, there is nothing scary about commitment. Anyone can commit. It’s not a matter of possibility. It’s a matter of choice.

Así que, la próxima vez que alguien intente convencerte de que no puede comprometerse, ¡recuerda que es una gran patraña!

El compromiso es una cuestión de elección personal.

It’s a matter of trusting someone and putting yourself and your future happiness into someone else’s hands.

Y no sólo para ti, también para la otra parte.

Okay now, I know I’ve said commitment is a matter of personal choice, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t influence someone’s personal choice – not manipulate, but guide a person to do what they’ve probably already wanted but for some reason didn’t do.

It’s completely logical really.

En el lado positivo, al escuchar consejos sobre cómo conseguir que se comprometa y qué no hacerte convertirás en una persona mejor y más considerada.

You’ll pay attention to your actions and how they affect others. Let’s say this is definitely a win-win situation.

COMPROMÉTETE: Volarle la cabeza

Tienes que esforzarte mucho para impresionarle. Tienes que dar lo mejor de ti.

Let’s face it, if he’s not impressed, he won’t commit to you, and frankly, why should he?

You really have to show him that you’re special, that you’re not like every other girl.

I’m sure you won’t have any problems with that if you really care about him.

SCARE AWAY: You’re suffocating him

Tratar de impresionarlo es una cosa, pero estar encima de él todo el tiempo es totalmente otra cosa.

Hay que saber dónde poner el límite. Tienes que saber cuánta atención es suficiente para mantenerlo interesado pero sin ahuyentarlo.

His personal space means everything to him as it does to any man—actually to all of us.

It’s essential we retreat to our safe places and spend some time away from everyone.

If you’re all over the place trying to impress him, it’s very possible that you’ll achieve exactly the opposite.

Intenta mantener un equilibrio entre no asustarle y dejarle espacio para respirar.

COMPROMÉTETE: Diviértete

Don’t make things too serious too soon. Avoid talking about serious stuff because you’re not at that stage of the relationship yet.

Everything happens when it’s time for it to happen.

So, for starters, show him that you’re fun to be around.

That way, he won’t think twice about coming to you when he wants to relax and have fun.

Don’t be that girl who brings stress and drama in a relationship—no one likes that.

ASUSTAR SIN PARAR: Molesto

It’s never a good idea to start nagging about everything he does wrong, but it’s especially a bad idea when you do it at the beginning of your relationship.

If you’re bothered by something he does, wait for your relationship to get to a more serious level, and then talk about it like two mature adults.

If you mention it too early, you might get him to change, but that will just be temporary. Later on, he’ll probably resent you for that.

COMPROMETERSE: Prestar atención a otras personas en su vida

Si se da cuenta de que le gustas a la gente que le importa, seguro que se plantea hacer lo mismo.

Los que le rodean le afectarán positivamente hablando bien de ti y diciendo lo gran persona que eres en general.

If you’re good for his family and friends, he’ll realize you’re good for him, too.

ASUSTAR A LOS DEMÁS Ser grosero con los demás

He’s not an idiot, and he is well aware of how you’re acting to people around you.

If your behavior changes when you’re talking to someone other than him, he’ll notice it and take it as a huge red sign.

Naturally, you can’t change who you really are. So, if by any chance you are a jerk to others, good luck to you.

But, if you’re on the edge and you can control yourself, I suggest you do it—not just for his sake but for your own as well.

COMMIT: Don’t be too available

Don’t be at his disposal. Don’t come running every time he calls you because he’ll get the impression he can do whatever he wants with you.

So, play a bit hard to get, but don’t overdo it either or he might lose interest in you completely.

Also, by not being too available, you’re giving extra value to the time he gets to spend with you.

In time, he’ll only want more of you. Let him figure it out by himself.

NO SE ASUSTE: Hacer suposiciones

Don’t make any premature decisions, especially if you’re still not that close with that person.

Don’t make assumptions that the two of you speak the same language and that he has the same mindset as you do.

Nor assume that he doesn’t like you and wants to call things off. Wait to get to know him a bit better, and then assume all you want.

COMMIT: Don’t force commitment

Even if commitment means a lot to you, act like it’s not such a big deal.

Don’t throw the idea of committing in his face because you might get a completely different outcome than you hoped for.

The thing is, men don’t like to be told what to do.

Chances are if they get the impression that you’re telling them what to do, they are definitely going to do something completely different just so things don’t end up your way.

ASUSTARLE: Hacer que acepte tu comportamiento de alto mantenimiento

You’re alto mantenimiento and that’s okay, but don’t expect him to support your behavior.

Si quieres cosas bonitas y tienes un estándar que debes mantener, asegúrate de ocuparte de ello por tu cuenta.