6 grandes diferencias entre la lujuria y el amor

Is it lust or love? How can you tell the difference when it’s so similar at the beginning of the relationship?

You feel loved and appreciated all the time with the amount of attention he’s giving you and you don’t question his intentions, even though you should.

Estos tipos de relaciones are very dangerous because you might be falling in love with him but you can’t figure out if he really loves you for whom you are or if he loves the way you two work together under the sheets.

He aquí algunas diferencias entre el amor y la lujuria que podrían ayudarte a averiguar qué es lo que realmente quiere de ti.

1. Elogia tu cuerpo, no tu mente

No para de decirte lo sexy que estás con ese vestido y mira tu cuerpo constantemente. This is a huge sign of lust, because he can’t keep his eyes off of your body and he’s just thinking about how you might look naked.

If he loves you, he will look you in the eyes while you tell him how your day was or when you’re telling him about something interesting you read the other day. If it’s love, he’ll want to get to know your mind rather than your body.

2. Cada vez que intentas hablar con él, lo convierte en una charla sexual.

Intentas hablar con él sobre vuestra relación y vuestras emociones, pero lo único que hace es convertirlo en una oportunidad para decirte lo buena que estás y lo que quiere hacerte esta noche (o algo por el estilo).

He can’t keep the conversation serious even though you would like to talk about your emotions with him. You know what happens when he’s in love?

He is very upfront about his emotions and he knows that you deserve to be treated with the utmost respect, so he doesn’t interrupt while you’re talking and he listens to what you’re saying.

3. Evita hablar del futuro

When it’s lust, your relationship is clearly just on a fantasy level for him; you both have fun and there are no serious situations involved.

But when you’re in love with each other, if he truly does love you, you will make planes de futuro en común.

Os implicaréis mutuamente en todos vuestros objetivos. Esta es la mayor diferencia entre el amor y la lujuria.

La lujuria sólo dura unos días y el amor es para siempre.

4. He doesn’t care about meeting your friends or family

Sólo te quiere a ti. Desnuda. ¿Por qué querría conocer a tus amigos?

No tienen nada que ver con tu relación ni con nada dentro del dormitorio. Así que no siente la necesidad de conocer a tus amigos o a tu familia. Sería demasiado incómodo.

Pero si te quiere, probablemente esperará un tiempo para conocerlos sólo para estar seguro de que realmente lo deseas y te acompañará encantado a una cena familiar. Hará todo lo posible para causar una buena impresión.

5. No sois amigos

You don’t play around, laugh or have a fun time together. He doesn’t even know how to sit by your side without touching you and showing you that he wants you.

Friends don’t do these things because what they want are conversaciones de calidad, a lot of laughter and so on. If he only sees you two as lovers, it’s very obvious that it’s only lust.

6. He doesn’t stay to cuddle

Isn’t it the purest feeling ever when you wake up in the morning by his side and you cuddle for hours on end? In a lustful relationship, he’ll be gone before you even wake up.

But a relationship filled with love shows that being together isn’t a burden, but an enjoyment. Even the morning silence feels beautiful, without a hint of awkwardness.