6 lecciones que aprendí después de salir con un follamigo
1. Me di cuenta de lo que quiero de una relación
Tras mi traumática experiencia con un fuckboy que se aprovechó de mí, aprendí lo que realmente quiero de una relación sentimental. Aprendí que la honestidad, el amor, el respeto y la comprensión son cosas que importan y que debes obtenerlas si se las das a tu ser querido.
But, unfortunately, I was the only one who gave all of this but got nothing in return. That’s why I will never ignore all those red flags telling me that I should be more careful. Next time, I will choose more wisely.
2. Aprendí a ponerme en primer lugar
In a toxic relationship like that, I learned that putting first someone who doesn’t even give a damn about you is the worst thing you can do to yourself. That’s how I learned that I need to start loving and respecting myself and that I should give my trust to the ones who work hard to earn it.
Ahora sé que el amor propio no es algo egoísta y que realmente lo necesitas para ser capaz de amar a los demás. Y aunque esa lección fue dura, al menos nunca volveré a cometer el mismo error.
3. I learned I shouldn’t go too fast
In all my previous relationships, I moved too fast, dreaming of big things even if I didn’t know my boyfriend very well. That’s what I did with the fuckboy as well. I gave him my love, my trust, and my support. In fact, I gave him all of myself but he never reciprocated in the same way. He ignored me to get my attention.
He played mind games to win me over. And he was damn good at all of that. It surely wasn’t his first time but even if I was bruised and broken, at least I learned a valuable lesson that will save me in the future.
4. Aprendí que no todo es el aspecto físico
Por alguna razón, las chicas siempre se enamoran de chicos malos who happen to look great. They somehow miss all those shy guys who have a lot to offer but who don’t look like top models. That’s how I made the mistake. I fell for a man who had a perfect body but a wicked mind.
Y sabía que me quedaría con él sin importar lo que me hiciera, ya que me volví adicta a él. Y lo hice. Hasta que descubrí que me había estado engañando mientras teníamos una relación. Y con ese tipo de comportamiento, simplemente se pasó de la raya. Después de dejarlo, juré que prestaría atención a todos los chicos y no sólo a los que tienen un aspecto increíble.
5. I learned that if I don’t respect myself, others won’t do it either
While in a relationship with a fuckboy, I didn’t respect myself at all. He was my number one priority and I did everything to make him happy. But I soon realized I couldn’t live like that any longer, not because I couldn’t but because he didn’t see my efforts.
Y cuando rompí con él, me di cuenta de que durante todo ese tiempo que estuve con él, no hice ningún esfuerzo por mí misma. Y cambié eso. Esa fue la mejor decisión de mi vida.
6. Aprendí a ser fuerte
After all that I went through in that relationship, I learned that I need to be strong for myself because others won’t do it for me. I learned that life is not easy and that I need to fight for every single good thing I want to happen.
After he broke me, I decided I couldn’t stay down, crying and being frustrated, but that I have to stand up for myself and fight for a better future. And that’s what I did and I still keep doing now. Even though this lesson was extremely painful, it only made me a stronger and better person.
Christine es autora de ‘Mirar fijamente a los ojos de la ansiedad y la depresión’Un libro que cambiará tu forma de combatir la ansiedad y la depresión.
