8 consejos para dejar de atraer a los chicos equivocados

It doesn’t matter how many times we get broken, somehow we still keep attracting men who aren’t really good for us. Of course, every relationship teaches us a valuable lesson for our life—but why does it hurt this bad?

Esos tipos simplemente nos marcan para el resto de nuestras vidas y ¡todos estamos hartos de ellos! Así que aquí van algunos consejos y trucos sobre cómo deja de atraer a los tipos equivocados:

1. Know what you’re looking for

Most of the time, we settle for guys who don’t really fit the profile of the man we’ve been dreaming of, but we still want to be with him, thinking that he might change for the better.

No. Deja eso.

Sepa lo que quiere and what you deserve in a relationship. If he’s doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends or is super-crazy jealous, those are red flags that are telling you to run for the hills, because those things stay for life.

2. Ten confianza en ti mismo y conoce tu valía

Again, we settle for regular men who look cute, but are toxic as hell, because we don’t know what we deserve.

It’s very important to know that you are an awesome individual who can do anything that she dreams of! So don’t forget that!

You want a man, you don’t need one. It’s just more fun when he does something for you, even when you can do it yourself.

Don’t be desperate by running into a man’s arms. Know that there is nothing in this world that is even close to being as beautiful and unique as you are.

3. Don’t be afraid of commitment

Esto puede sonar extraño, pero el otro día estaba saliendo con una de mis amigas y me dijo que ella siempre elige a los chicos equivocados porque tiene miedo de casarse y comprometerse.

Recordé mis relaciones anteriores y eso era exactamente lo que estaba haciendo sin darme cuenta. Puede que miedo al compromiso as well, it’s just that you didn’t realize it until now.

4. You can’t find a right guy in the wrong place

If you’ve fallen in love with a man who you met in a club, drunk and surrounded by other women, then there is no chance in hell he’s the right one.

You can’t want a guy who was drunk when you met him, when you don’t like drinking at all. So, if you want a lasting and loving relationship with a man who is well-read, you will find him in a library, not a disco.

5. Realize that you don’t need approval

I don’t know if this is the case in your past relationships, but many struggle with the need for approval in relationships. Girls will start a relationship with anyone who gives them attention and approval just because it feels good; don’t be one of them.

This is, of course, not the fault of the woman, but the fault of important male figures in her past who didn’t give her the recognition she needed.

6. Saber que se puede romper un patrón

Even if all your previous boyfriends were bad boys who just needed you for their own pleasure, that doesn’t mean that it’ll be this way for the rest of your life. You can break that pattern now and start anew.

Even if you got familiar with the feeling of being in a toxic relationship and you got used to the pain, you don’t have to live in it forever. You will be happy and you will feel much more satisfied in a new kind of relationship with someone who appreciates you.

7. Conozca los factores que rompen el trato

So, he came home smelling like another woman. Don’t just hide in the corner and cry, no.

You face that D-bag and tell him what’s up.

If he doesn’t give you enough attention that you deserve, then there is no need for me to tell you that you need to move on. He’s not worthy of your efforts and energy. Know your limits when it comes to relationships and don’t cross them.

8. Tómate un descanso

Tómate un descanso del mundo de las citas para conocerte realmente a ti mismo y tus necesidades. Sepa que hay alguien ahí fuera que está hecho solo para usted y que nadie puede robárselo.

Just give yourself time to think and don’t push yourself. Being pushy with yourself can lead to a whole lot of unhealthy decisions.