A todas las chicas que creen que es difícil amarlas

You’ve been hearing this for as long as you can remember. All the men you’ve encountered in your life have told you that you are challenging, that you are hard to love and difficult to put up with.

You’ve been told you are a handful, that you expect too much of everyone and that you are a perfectionist. And you think this cannot be a coincidence—debe haber algo de verdad en ello.

Con el tiempo, empezaste a creerles y empezaste a verlo como algo negativo. Pensaste que era culpa tuya, que era algo que hacía que los hombres huyeran de ti.

Así que dejaste que te definiera. Empezaste a culpar a esta cualidad tuya como la razón por la que ninguna de tus relaciones tuvo éxito.

You started blaming yourself for all the bad treatment you were getting and everything you’ve been through in life.

But I am here to tell you it’s time to stop feeling this way.

Estoy aquí para decirte que no eres difícil de amar. Sólo eres fuerte, mujer independiente con sus propias opiniones y actitudes. Es alguien que lucha por sí misma y por lo que considera correcto.

You are a woman who relies on herself only and a woman who doesn’t trust everybody who comes into her life.

No eres alguien que se deja definir por los hombres y no eres alguien que cambiará la esencia de su ser sólo para ser más agradable a algún chico o para encajar en los estándares de la sociedad.

You have a very strong intuition and you don’t get fooled easily. You are not easily lied to, because it offends your intelligence.

Te respetas a ti mismo y exiges que todos en tu vida te respeten y te aprecien. Nunca permites que te den por sentado o te traten con condescendencia, porque conoces tu verdadero valor.

But that doesn’t make you hard to love.

Sus cualidades sólo hacen hombres inmaduros feel insecure about you. They feel threatened and as if they aren’t man enough.

Estos hombres son conscientes de tu fuerza de carácter, son conscientes de tu poder y valentía y saben muy bien que nunca podrían manipularte como les gustaría.

But their fragile ego doesn’t allow them to accept that, nor say it to you. So, they choose to blame you for everything. They choose to persuade you to feel guilty for being difficult to handle or hard to deal with.

What those men don’t know is that you hide a heart full of love. They don’t know that your strength is something that would help them get through life.

They don’t know that you being a fighter means that you would also fight against everyone and everything just to preserve your relationship.

They don’t know that you would never leave their side and that you would hold their hand through all of life’s difficulties.

They don’t know you would never disrespect them, if they respected you.

They don’t know that you would believe in them, even when everyone else stopped.

They don’t know that you would love them unconditionally and that you are someone who would make sacrifices for their well-being, if they proved to be worthy of your love.

Así que, por favor, deja de culparte, de pensar que eres difícil de amar, porque no lo eres.

You are just hard to love for men who don’t deserve you and who are not worthy of you.

You don’t expect too much from people—sólo eres alguien que da mucho y espera el mismo trato.

You know that you shouldn’t be el único que pone todo su empeño en una relación y eso está más que bien.

You don’t want to prioritize the people who treat you as an option and that is what you should continue doing.

I know you don’t believe me now but trust me, vendrá un hombre que pensará que mereces todas las molestias.

It will take you some time and a lot of patience but you will let him get close to you because you’ll feel that his intentions are sincere and that his feelings are real.

Cuando entre en tu vida, este hombre te verá tal y como eres y verá lo valiosa que eres. Verá todas tus cualidades y se esforzará para que dejes tu escudo.

Este hombre te amará hasta la luna y de vuelta exactamente por lo que eres. Amará todas tus imperfecciones y te amará como mereces ser amada.

But most of all, he will fight all your insecurities away and he will show you that there is much about you to be loved. By doing this, he will teach you how to love yourself again. When this man comes along, you’ll never again think you’re hard to love.