A todas las chicas con problemas de abandono

Hola, tú. Sé que decidiste leer esto en cuanto viste la palabra "abandono" en el título.

This is one of the most painful words for you to hear or read. You try to run away from it, but it’s like its haunting you whenever you look.

Sé que tienes enormes cicatrices emocionales. Desde que tienes memoria, la gente te ha dejado colgado.

Eran personas a las que diste todo lo que tenías, pero no recibiste nada a cambio. Gente que te prometió el mundo y luego te dio la espalda.

Estaban ahí mientras te necesitaban. Eras lo bastante bueno para ellos cuando te ocupabas de sus asuntos y resolvías sus problemas.

Pero, en cuanto eras tú quien necesitaba algo, no estaban por ninguna parte. Ninguno de ellos apreciaba todos los sacrificios que hacías ni todo el esfuerzo que dedicabas.

Todos te abandonaron cuando más los necesitabas y eso es algo que te marcó de por vida. Amigos, incluso familia, pero sobre todo hombres te trataron así.

And I know you’ve changed. In the past, you were someone who had a lot of trust in men, someone who believed that there was something good in everyone in this world.

But, you were proven to be wrong. So, you’ve built thick walls around you. You’ve lost trust in people in general and especially in men.

Y sé que tienes miedo. Asumes que cada hombre que se cruce en tu camino sólo buscará la forma de aprovecharse de ti. Élusarte para su ego y tener a alguien cerca.

You are positive that you’ll never find someone who will try to heal you and who will understand everything you’ve gone through.

Crees que nadie podrá quererte nunca. Estás convencido de que debes de tener algún problema, ya que todo el mundo en tu vida te ha tratado igual.

They’ve assured you that you are good for nothing and that you don’t deserve to be loved. So you’ve given up hope. You’ve given up the idea that true love will ever find you.

Crees que ningún hombre estará nunca dispuesto a soportarte. Nunca llegará un hombre que se esfuerce por curar todas tus heridas y que te convenza de que no todo el mundo es igual.

And you think it is better that way. You don’t give anyone a chance to get to know the real you because you think they will use you as soon as they see your vulnerable side.

So you carry this façade, this tough girl mask that chases men away from you—you think that is for the best.

That it is the only way to protect yourself from going through the things you’ve already gone through.

But, I am here to tell you not to give up. I am here to tell you that everything is going to be OK, although you probably don’t believe me.

Llegará un hombre que te amará, a pesar de todas tus inseguridades. Un hombre quenunca renunciar a ti. Un hombre que sabrá reconocer tu verdadero yo.

Un hombre que verá a la niña perdida y asustada que llevas dentro. Este hombre sabrá que estás esperando ser amada.

This man will know all about your fears. But, he won’t run away from them. Instead, he will fight them together with you.

He will know that your abandonment issues are a battle you can’t control and he’ll never blame you for has happened to you. Instead, he will understand.

Entenderá todo por lo que has pasado y entenderá que todo eso te ha convertido en la persona que eres hoy. Pero, lo más importante, te entenderá a ti.

Y te aceptará. Te amará incluso cuando te sientas frustrado o asustado. Te amará con todos tus miedos y problemas de confianza.

Te amará con todos tus problemas y demonios interiores. Nunca pensará en ti como una carga.

Instead, this man will see right through your armour shield. He will see that you were broken. But, he’ll never try to use that against you.

Instead, he will cherish your sensitivity and vulnerability. He will take care of you and you’ll never overwhelm him.

This man will be patient with you. He’ll understand everything you went through and he won’t expect you to open up to him right away.

He’ll know that you can’t trust him from the very beginning and he’ll put an effort to win over your trust.

And most importantly, this man will never abandon you. Even if you try to chase him away, he’ll do anything in his power to stay.

This guy will always have your back and will hold your hand through all life’s difficulties. He will never leave you alone and he’ll make sure you always know that.