¿Cuándo es necesario cortar con alguien? ( + 7 consejos para hacerlo)

Cuando se trata de cortar a la gente, saber cuando hacerlo desempeña un papel importante en su bienestar y en la calidad general de su vida.

Ya sea un familiar, un amigo íntimo o cualquier ser humano que destruya continuamente tu salud mental, la toxicidad no debe tolerarse nunca.

Today, you’re going to figure out which gente tóxica necesita IR.

As someone who was forced to cut people out of her life on many occasions, I can honestly say that this will be one of the most life-changing decisions you’ll ever make.

Al principio, la idea de una ruptura con esa persona tóxica puede parecer desalentador. What if they keep pestering you? What if they can’t accept no for an answer? What if you regret it?

Déjame decirte algo: Todo eso son pensamientos inducidos por el miedo. They’re perfectly normal, I promise.

To cut people off is serious business. But if this is something you’re legitimately considering, it must mean that you’ve reached your boiling point.

There have to be healthy boundaries to what people are allowed to do to do you. If you feel that someone has crossed them, it’s time to take action.

It doesn’t matter if it’s your high-school sweetheart. It doesn’t matter if it’s a long-time mejor amigo. When you can’t be your true self, and your wellness is in jeopardy, cutting people off is the only solution.

There are types of people who’ll ALWAYS imply that usted‘re the problem. But that’s okay! You don’t want them in your social circle anyway.

If you check off the boxes below, it’s high time to put your own life first and show these people the door.

¿Cuándo es correcto despedir a alguien?

If any of the examples below ring a bell, it’s time to take control of your life and happiness. Take care of your mental health by disposing of anyone making you feel like this:

Cuando ya no puedes ser tu verdadero yo a su alrededor

Esta es la primera señal de alarma que debes reconocer. Tanto si se trata de un familiar que no deja de hacerte sentir inadecuado como de un amigo íntimo en cuya presencia tienes que ponerte una máscara constantemente, ya es suficiente.

You can’t go through life pretending to be someone you’re not. You can’t keep people around who weigh you down.

Cuando sientas una presión insufrible por interpretar un papel sólo para satisfacer a otra persona, pregúntate por cuánto tiempo.

When will you realize that if you can’t show your true self around a person, they’re not (and never will be) good for you?

Cuando estar en su compañía se vuelve agotador y agotador

Lately, you’ve been coming to terms with the fact that this person keeps draining you of all your energy.

Estar cerca de ellos ya no te hace sentir feliz. Al contrario, su presencia es agotadora y no recuerdas la última vez que te sentiste a gusto a su lado.

Lo que acabo de describir NO es un reflejo de una relación sana. Esto es obra de un individuo tóxico cuyo veneno te está arruinando.

Here’s an idea: Stop letting them!

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Cuando afectan negativamente a tu autoestima

They never make you feel good about yourself, and when you’re around them, you don’t feel supported. In fact, you never feel worse about yourself than when you’re in their company.

There are people out there who feed on others’ insecurity and lack of self-confidence. This is mostly because they don’t have any themselves, and this makes them feel empowered.

I’ve had people in my life in whose company I always felt at my worst. I’d feel ignorant, incapable, unworthy, and like I couldn’t do or say anything right.

This person was someone I’d known since high school. Today, we’re completely out of touch, and I don’t miss them one bit.

While I don’t wish harm on anyone, there’s no denying that losing certain people makes room for so much air.

Don’t be afraid to take that step. Create distance in your mind and then do it in real life too. Only after letting them go will you realize how much better life is in their absence.

Cuando no ofrecen más que ingratitud y negatividad

Las personas negativas son las peores. Claro, todos tenemos nuestros días malos, pero tienes que ser capaz de encontrar algunos positividad. De lo contrario, se convierte en algo intoxicantemente malo para todos.

If this sounds familiar, and there’s someone in your life whose ungratefulness and negative attitude weigh you down, step away from them and see how it feels.

My bet is, you’ll experience instant relief. Your mood will improve, your zest for life will return, and you’ll feel a gazillion times better about life. Sometimes, it’s THAT simple.

Cuando te desaniman en lugar de animarte

En las relaciones sentimentales, así como en cualquier otra relación significativa de tu vida, el apoyo y el ánimo son vitales.

When you don’t have that, there’s nothing the relationship can thrive on. Two people who love each other should always push the other one to reach their full potential.

Esperar en secreto que tu ser querido fracase es un rasgo tóxico que permite a la otra persona sentirse mejor que tú.

Don’t let anyone around you dissuade you from your dreams. You deserve someone in your corner who’ll cheer you on, not limit your ambitions and potential.

When you realize that you’re the worst version of yourself around them

It’s time to say goodbye the moment you start feeling like their toxicity is rubbing off on you. Don’t give them the satisfaction of knowing that you’ve fallen under their spell.

En lugar de eso, elimínate de la ecuación. En el momento en que dejes de sentirte tú mismo, pasa a la acción y ponle fin.

Estas personas son hábiles para hacer que los demás se rebajen a su nivel. Ocurre gradualmente, sin que te des cuenta al principio. Por eso debes confiar siempre en tu instinto.

Cuando algo empiece a sentirse mal, créalo y resístase. Así de sencillo.

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When you can’t depend on them for ANYTHING

La fiabilidad es muy importante. Te mereces personas a tu alrededor que estén ahí para levantarte cuando te caigas.

When you think about it, it’s not that much to ask for. You’re always there to lend a helping hand to a loved one in need.

When you promise to do something, you do it. When you’re asked for a favor, you do it, no questions asked. So why would you accept anything less when it comes to you?

If there are people in your life who flake on you, give you false promises, and NEVER show up for you, cut them off. They’ll never be what you need them to be.

Guía para apartar a la gente de tu vida

Cortar con la gente requiere una cabeza clara, una mente fuerte y perseverancia. Recuerda que se trata de una decisión de autocuidado necesaria para tu crecimiento personal y tu felicidad.

Acepta que distanciarte de las personas tóxicas es un proceso gradual

Al igual que una relación sana tarda en crecer y convertirse en lo que necesita ser, una tóxica tarda en disolverse por completo.

Por supuesto, no es culpa tuya. Las personas tóxicas son demasiado egocéntricas para dejarte ir así como así.

Don’t let this stop you from doing the right thing. Stay away from them and create as much distance as you need. Let them plead, beg, and fill your head with nonsense.

Over time, they’ll bore themselves to death, and you’ll finally be able to cut the cord for good.

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Actúa en función de lo que TÚ sientes, no de lo que intentan hacerte sentir.

A lot of times, toxic people will attempt to make you feel like you’re at fault for cutting them off. Don’t fall for it.

Te conoces a ti mismo. Sabes lo que te dice tu instinto. Haz lo que te parezca correcto, no lo que intenten convencerte de que es correcto.

Esta ruptura (sea del tipo que sea) es exactamente lo que necesitas para volver a sentirte tú mismo.

Don’t attempt to logically level with them (they’ll NEVER see your point)

Este tipo de personas nunca entenderán tu punto de vista (ni quieren hacerlo). Lo único que les importa es conseguir lo que quieren y despreciarte en el proceso.

You can try to make them understand you and your feelings all you want, but it’s a futile battle. Don’t fight it.

Instead, be short and clear about how you intend to proceed, and don’t expect them to be rational about it. They’re far too arrogant and self-important for that.

Hazlo en un lugar público (para mayor seguridad y menos dramatismo)

Poner fin a relación tóxica of any kind is always going to be exhausting. While it’s 100% what you need to do, it’s still going to take time and energy out of you.

My advice – do it somewhere public. The reasoning is quite simple, less chance of drama and to provide a sense of safety for you.

Incluso si empiezan a mostrarse excesivamente agresivos, siempre puedes levantarte e irte. Mejor aún, llama a un amigo para que te recoja y vete a hacer algo para olvidarte de este lío.

Bloquéalos en todas tus cuentas de redes sociales

Bloquearlos en redes sociales is every bit as important as blocking them in real life. Resort to ghosting if need be, but don’t let them in your life in any capacity.

Asegúrate de que no pueden ponerse en contacto contigo bloqueándolos siempre que sea posible.

It’ll give you much-needed peace of mind, plus it’s easier getting over someone without them constantly blowing up your phone.

You’re just one click away from scrolling down your feed without worrying whether their name will pop up and ruin your day.

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Don’t fall into their trap and start arguing

They will try to goad you into arguing. DON’T fall for it. A lot of people who are faced with their bad actions will stoop so low and try to make you join them.

This is their final attempt to drag you down with them. Keep a level head and believe in what you’re doing. There’s no explaining something to a person who’s adamant not to get it.

Volver a caer en la toxicidad será tentador y, para evitarlo, debes reafirmar tus límites saludables y cortar todos los lazos con ellos.

When you’ve said all you have to say, get up and leave knowing you did the right thing.

Poner por escrito todos los beneficios de perderlos para evitar que los alcances

This is something I did, and I couldn’t recommend it more. For the sake of being brutally honest, I have to say that cutting someone out of your life is in no way easy.

At the end of the day, you’re only human, and guess what? You se experimenta emociones encontradas al respecto.

This doesn’t mean that your decision wasn’t justified (it 100% was), but perder a alguienpor muy tóxica que sea, deja un hueco en tu vida con el que tienes que aprender a vivir.

Por eso es tan importante que escribas cómo ha mejorado tu vida el cortar con ellos. Te ayudará a mantenerte en el buen camino cuando sientas ganas de tenderles la mano.

It’ll remind you of all the times they sucked the energy right out of you. And it’ll be your saving grace on the days when you start questioning your decision.

Eventually, you’ll realize how liberated and profoundly happy you are without them. Until then, this move will keep you sane.

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20 frases para cortar con la gente que te ayudarán a deshacerte del drama

Estos EPIC cortar la gente citas y refranes tóxicos personas resumen perfectamente por qué cortar los lazos con la gente mala es la curación y más allá de lo necesario.

1. “Save your skin from the corrosive acids from the mouths of toxic people. Someone who just helped you to speak evil about another person can later help another person to speak evil about you.”―Israelmore Ayivor

2. “Always remember that you were once alone, and the crowd you see in your life today are just as unnecessary as when you were alone.”―Michael Bassey Johnson

3. “Cutting people out of your life doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. Not everyone is meant to stay.”―Unknown

4. “Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.”―John Mark Green

5. “People appear like angels until you hear them speak. You must not rush to judge people by the color of their cloaks, but by the content of their words!”―Israelmore Ayivor

6. “No matter how valuable you are and your ideas, fools will certainly play both of you down, so exclude yourselves from the inflammatory environs of fools.”―Michael Bassey Johnson

7. “Don’t let toxic people infect you with the fear of giving and receiving one of the most powerful forces in this world… LOVE!”―Yvonne Pierre

8. “It’s no good to physically distance yourself from someone in your life if you’re just gonna let them live in your mind.”―Curtis Tyrone Jones

9. “Toxic people choose to judge you and treat you badly, based on their assumptions and perceptions they have about you, not based on what you did or said. You will defend yourself to people whom you will never be right. It is not what you did, but it is what they think of you.”―De philosopher DJ Kyos

10. “The idea is quite simple, stay a light year away from people who make you feel less about yourself.”―Mohith Agadi

11. “I found peace of mind when I walked away from small fights not worth fighting. I stopped fighting for people who gossiped about me. I stopped fighting for those who didn’t respect me. I quit worrying about those who wouldn’t value me for being me.”―Dana Arcuri

12. “How you choose to feel today should not be dependent on others.”―Anthon St. Maarten

13. “Don’t confuse ‘familiar’ with ‘acceptable.’ Toxic relationships can fool you like that.”―Steve Maraboli

14. “The best emotional relief is not venting our problems; that only fuels the pain. It is focusing on something else, taking control of our lives and staying away from people that keep reminding us about our problems.”―Rodolfo Peon

15. “We don’t get to choose our family, but we can choose our friends. With courage, we can weed out narcissistic people. We can focus on those who do appreciate us, love us, and treat us with respect.”―Dana Arcuri

16. “I am worth more than these excuses. I am worth more than this inconsistent, unhealthy, disappointing dynamic. I am worthy of finding someone that is never going to allow us to settle into this toxic, distorted version of love.”―Liz Newman

17. “If you’ve ever met an energy vampire (and you probably have), you’ll get the distinct feeling that this person has an intense need to prey off the vitality of others. There is a kind of acute neediness present in energy vampires which can be quite overwhelming and depleting to those they come in contact with.”―Mateo Sol

18. “If you are going to hide and you will not stand against the work of the bad people, you have given them an endorsement.”―Israelmore Ayivor

19. “May you reach that level within, where you no longer allow your past or people with toxic intentions to negatively affect or condition you.”―Lalah Delia

20. “You will meet a lot of people in your life; some will laugh with you, others will laugh at you; some will love to clean your mess, others will love to mess you up! Love all, but choose carefully the one who stays close to you forever!”―Israelmore Ayivor

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Nunca te sientas culpable por dejar de lado a las personas tóxicas

As long as there are people in your life whose presence ruins your self-worth, you’ll never be able to breathe.

NUNCA debes sentirte mal por defenderte y anteponer tus necesidades. Siempre es la decisión correcta.

Durante un tiempo, me costó tragarme esta píldora. Me cuestionaba cada uno de mis movimientos y me preguntaba si lo que sentía era autoinfligido. Estaba siendo débil y tenía miedo de estar sola.

Here’s the thing about loneliness, though: Getting rid of bad people will NEVER te hacen sentir solo. Todo lo contrario, sólo te añadirá cosas a tu vida.

Cut people out when that feels like the only thing left to do. You don’t owe them a thing. Be strong and assertive, and never let your fears control you. Don’t be a bystander in the story of your life.

Don’t think about them, and never wonder how they’re doing. Why would you? They never thought about you, and they most certainly aren’t now.

When you realize how toxic people erode your life, it’ll become harder to allow them in.

With time, you’ll start fiercely protecting your peace, and that will result in your social circle becoming a safe haven.

You’ll finally be able to sé felizHaz lo que te parezca mejor y respira. Lo único que tienes que hacer es decidirte.

Value yourself over someone else’s dysfunction, and let this be a year where prioritizing your happiness trumps ALL else.

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