Darle otra oportunidad significa darte otra decepción

Sé que le quieres. Sé que más que nada, quieres que las cosas entre vosotros funcionen.

A pesar de que tu mente te dice lo contrario, tu corazón quiere creer que cambiará. A pesar de que tu mente te dice que miente, tu corazón quiere creer en sus promesas y justificaciones vacías.

From this point of view, you can’t imagine your life without this man by your side. You keep on forgiving him things you know you shouldn’t.

Sigues mirando para otro lado cuando comete un error, todo con la esperanza de que algún día vuestra relación sea diferente. Dejas que te mienta, y lo que es peor, te mientes a ti misma, confiando en él.

Así que sigue dándole segundas oportunidades. You keep praying that this time it will be the last time—that this time he’ll come back to you as a new man, as the man you want and need him to be.

That this time, things will finally fall into place; that he’ll see he can’t live without you either and that he’ll finally learn to appreciate and respect you.

Por supuesto, cada vez que vuelve a las andadas, te prometes a ti misma que ésta fue la última vez que caíste en sus engaños; la última vez que te humillaste aceptándole de nuevo.

Sin embargo, antes de que te des cuenta, te encuentras de nuevo en el círculo interminable de rupturas y reconciliaciones; en el círculo interminable de sus mentiras y tus esperanzas; en el círculo interminable de segundas oportunidades interminables que él siempre encuentra la manera de echar a perder.

Don’t worry, I won’t be a smartass who will try to tell you that it is easy to turn down a man you’re crazy for because it is without a doubt one of the most painful and bravest things a woman has to do.

I know that he begs, that he cries, and that he doesn’t leave you alone until le dejaste arrastrarse de nuevo en tu vida. Por supuesto, todo eso te pone las cosas mucho más difíciles.

Olvidar a un hombre que amas ya es bastante difícil. Sin embargo, olvidarle mientras sigue apareciendo en tu puerta y pidiendo constantemente otra oportunidad parece imposible. Pero es posible.

You just need to realize that every time you give this guy another chance, you’re actually giving him a green light to keep on breaking your heart. Every time you llévalo de vueltale estás dando permiso para alejarse de ti cuando le apetezca.

You’re showing him that you’re not going anywhere—that no matter what he does, you’ll be right there where he left you, patiently waiting for his sorry ass to come back. That no matter what he does, you’ll always find a way to forgive him.

That no matter how badly he hurts you, you’ll always keep on loving him.

 

Every time you give him another chance, you’re showing this man that you’re perfectly fine with the situation you two are in because let’s face it—you aren’t doing much to change it. You’re showing him that his behavior is acceptable and that there is nothing wrong with being a selfish asshole.

Every time you give him another chance, you show him that he can count on you at all times and on all occasions; that you’ll forever be his red de seguridad y su plan de respaldo.

What is even worse, that your status in his life doesn’t bother you at all. You’re showing him that you’re satisfied with the crumbs he’s been giving you and that you’ll always crave more.

Most importantly: every time you give this guy another chance, you’re showing him that you have no self-respect. You’re telling him that you don’t value your time, efforts, and sacrifices.

You’re showing him that your tears obviously don’t matter, since you can forget about them easily. That all the heartbreaks he’s put you through are not such a big deal because you are always ready to care for him, as if nothing has happened.

Every time you give this man another chance, you’re showing him that you don’t love yourself, since you’re more than willing to put yourself through all of this pain over and over again.

Dime una cosa: si no tienes amor ni respeto por ti misma, ¿por qué iba a tenerlo él?