Deja de poner tu vida en espera por un chico que pueda vivir sin ti

I’m sure we’ve all been there. You fall in love, you live with your head in the clouds for the first few months, everything is so idyllic and you have never felt more radiant.

All of a sudden, your entire sense of self revolves around this guy who has only been in your life for a few months. You have embraced the role of his girlfriend so well that all you want to do is please his every need and be at his service. You really don’t mind and he is definitivamente sin quejarse.

You are slowly, but surely, starting to lose yourself in the comfort of your new, booming relationship and you are putting his needs above yours. You don’t even realize how much of yourself you are sacrificing for the sake of the relationship, so it’s probably wise to stop for a second and ask yourself whether what you are doing is serving you happiness or if you’re only doing it to make him happy.

If you’re the type of person who needs to be in a relationship tofeel whole, stop and take a minute and think about this. You barely know yourself outside of your relationship and it’s time to find out what it is that makes YOU happy and what floats your boat. Stop putting the guy first and get to know yourself, Then you will be much more secure in choosing the right man for you and not settle for just anyone who merely needs attention from you.

Don’t allow yourself to become just a pretty accessory on his arm. You are not a thing and you are not something to be paraded around.

Eres una mujer autosuficiente, capaz e inteligente que sabe lo que vale and no guy can take that away from you by only liking you for your looks. You are more than your physical appearance and make sure your guy knows that. And if he doesn’t, he knows where the door is.

Don’t forget about all the things you still want to achieve and all the fun you still want to experience. Don’t let him diminish your eagerness for more by putting you down and limiting your dreams. Never let him tell you what you can or cannot do. And if he does, prove to him how capable and willful you are. You are a badass woman who is not to be messed with. Don’t pause your dreams for a guy who only sees you as something pretty to pass time with.

Nunca renuncies a tu poder por nadie, sobre todo si te hace sentir que tienes que hacerlo. No dejes que tome tus decisiones y bajo ningún concepto le hagas ver que puede hacer lo que le plazca. No. Tú eres una parte igual de la relación y completamente capaz y feliz de tomar decisiones. Nunca sucumbas a lo que se espera de ti y esfuérzate siempre por conseguir más. Sé inteligente ahora para no odiarte después.

Make sure to rediscover the parts of yourself you may have suppressed in order for his big ego to flourish. Take some alone time and think long and hard about your hopes and dreams and if there is anything you may have sacrificed for the guy who doesn’t seem to appreciate you for the unapologetically fierce woman you are.

Si sientes que no se aprecia tu valía y que no se escucha tu voz, por supuesto, apunta hacia la puerta. I conozca lo sabes mejor que esto.

Estar con alguien sólo por no estar solo es diez veces peor que estar solo, pero al menos no rodeado de toxicidad. Recuerda que una relación debe añadir algo a tu vida y en ningún caso restarle valor.

Así que si sientes que tu chico te está agotando poco a poco y no te deja expresar plenamente tu singularidad, ya sabes lo que tienes que hacer. Muéstrale la puerta y vete a buscar a tu igual.