Elige siempre perder a un hombre antes que perder la cabeza

I’ll be honest with you here: Love is important. Whether someone likes to admit this or not, it’s nice having a man whom you care for and who cares for you back.

It won’t magically put your life in perfect order, but a healthy romantic relationship will make you happier – there is no doubt about that.

Sin embargo, ¿sabes qué es aún más importante? La relación que tienes contigo mismo.

Esa es la relación que simplemente debe ser sana, exitosa y satisfactoria si quieres siquiera pensar en el romance.

Entonces, ¿por qué sigues anteponiendo a tu hombre a ti misma y cuánto tiempo piensas seguir haciéndolo?

Sé que te consideras duro. You’re strong and, at first glance, it appears that you’re handling this awful situation you got yourself dragged into surprisingly well.

De alguna manera te las arreglas para lidiar con todas las rupturas y reconciliaciones.

You keep your head above the surface despite all the insults, arguments, and toxicity. But let’s be real.

You can’t go on like this forever. Sooner or later, you’ll see the damage all of this is leaving on you and you’ll start feeling the consequences of this hell you’re going through.

So, ask yourself if it’s really worth it. ¿Merece la pena perder la cabeza por mantener a un hombre?

You see, there will be plenty of men in your life, even though you probably don’t think that way now.

Tarde o temprano, te olvidarás de este hombre y empezarás a amar a alguien nuevo con la misma intensidad con la que lo amabas a él.

Sin embargo, nunca podrás reemplazarte a ti mismo. Time will do its trick and heal your broken heart. Sooner or later, you’ll stop missing this guy.

But you can’t find a new woman to live your life, once you lose yourself.

Te prometo una cosa: You can make it without anyone, including this guy. But you can’t make it without yourself.

Recuerde que you don’t need him – you chose to give him a place in your heart – but you do need yourself.

Sobrevivirás aunque le dejes marchar, aunque las cosas no lo parezcan en este momento.

Sé que ahora mismo quieres mantener a este hombre a tu lado.

You’re ready to do whatever it takes just for him to remain in your life.

Sin embargo, en lugar de hacer eso, para variar, céntrate en mantener la cordura. Céntrate en preservar tu salud mental y emocional.

Céntrate en ser feliz y considera tu paz interior como la prioridad número uno.

Por favor, ser lo suficientemente inteligente como para elegir perder a un hombre antes que perder la cabeza.

Trust me, nobody – and especially not someone who doesn’t appreciate you – is worth you going crazy over him.

Así es exactamente como seguirán las cosas si te quedas atrapado en este círculo sin fin.

That’s what will happen if you stay in this toxic relationship, full of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and constant fights.

Ya sabes, if it happens, he won’t stick around to help you.

He won’t be there to give you a hand or pull you out of your darkness.

He won’t put an effort into fixing your heart, even though he’s the one who broke it.

He won’t be there to glue you back together, even though he’s the one who crushed you.

He won’t have your back to catch you when you start falling.

He won’t stand by your side to help you heal, even though he is the one who destroyed you.

He won’t be there to bring you back to life, even though he’s the one who spiritually killed you.

Before you know it, this man will be gone and you’ll be left all alone to fight with your demons and traumas.

You won’t just lose precious years of your life, you’ll also have to deal with depression, insecurities, and anxiety, which is much worse.

Sooner than you might think, you’ll look around and see that the girl you used to be is nowhere to be found.

She’ll be replaced by a negative and bitter woman who’ll need ages to fully recover from everything she’s been through.

Así que, por favor, sálvate a ti mismo on time. Ditch his sorry ass and pull yourself out of this misery before it’s too late to be sorry.