8 maneras de centrarte en lo que quieres y alcanzar tus objetivos

¿Con qué frecuencia dejas que los pensamientos negativos te dominen y se interpongan en tu camino? ¿Y con qué frecuencia te centras en lo que quieres, sabiendo que el resultado final merecerá la pena?

Recently, I’ve noticed a toxic habit of mine. In times of struggle, I tend to dwell on the very things that are pulling me down, instead of shifting my perspective toward positive things.

¿Alguna vez ha sentido que sigue la corriente de las cosas sin importarle lo perjudicial que pueda ser para su bienestar?

Sometimes it’s easier to just let go and hope it all works out somehow. But you don’t know that it will. You need to make conscious choices that will keep bringing you closer to achieving your goals.

Don’t be a passer-by in your own life. Snap out of it and shift your focus toward lo que quieresen lugar de fijarse en lo malo.

In an effort to tip the scales in my favor, I’ve created 8 reminders to keep me on track and redirect my focus whenever I lose perspective.

It’s made a huge difference thus far and my hope is that it can resonate with you too. 

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Manténgase plenamente comprometido y es probable que la motivación le siga

In order to reach your end goal, first, you need to decide just how committed you’re willing to be.

¿Es un mero deseo sin el que puedes vivir o es algo que anhelas profundamente? Dependiendo de tu respuesta, tu compromiso deberá ser acorde a ella.

People tend to expect things to just happen without putting in the work. But that’s not how it goes. You cannot give up when you’re halfway there, just because there is an obstacle.

La vida está llena de obstáculos inesperados y aparentemente insuperables. Pero si realmente quieres algo, ¡sigue empujando!

You don’t give up at the first sight of trouble. You don’t pack your things and go the first time it gets rough. That’s a sign that you’re not as committed to your goal as you think you are.

Antes de emprender tu viaje, sea cual sea su naturaleza, pregúntate lo siguiente:

– How important to me is achieving this?

– How is it going to make me feel if I give up when I’m so close?

– What if I simply shift my perspective, stop finding reasons to stop and start finding reasons to keep going?

Ultimately, it’s all up to you. We all get dealt a bad hand sometimes. But YOU are the one who decides whether it’s worth the struggle or not.

Concéntrese en el viaje, NO en el destino

When embarking on a new journey, it’s all about the excitement, ability to learn, educating yourself and experimenting. There is a lot of importance on the journey itself.

If you’re able to shift your focus to that, instead of the results you’re seeking and the destination you’re eager to reach, the motivation will follow. 

De este modo, le resultará más fácil acercarse a sus sueños, ya que el camino hacia ellos está lleno de emoción por sí solo.

Concéntrese siempre en lo que quieres but don’t let the final destination hinder your ability to enjoy the process.

Esa forma de pensar acabará con la motivación y te quemará sin más. Mantén tu compromiso con el aprendizaje, alimenta tu mente, tu cuerpo y tu alma y deja de imaginarte el objetivo final por un segundo. 

You’d be surprised how much you could learn about yourself and your surroundings by just being present in the moment. 

Life isn’t about constantly waiting for something good to happen; it’s about learning to embrace what’s in front of you and finding happiness where you never thought possible.​

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Deshacerse de los pensamientos negativos

Todos sabemos que nuestros pensamientos son la principal fuente de estrés y ansiedad que sufrimos a veces, pero también tienen la capacidad de determinar cómo ves tu trabajo.

Si eliges dejar que los pensamientos estancados dominen tu mente y supriman la positividad, te dejarás cero posibilidades de tener cualquier tipo de paz mental.

Sin embargo, tienes la opción de cortar de raíz esos pensamientos. Tienes la capacidad única de cambiar tu perspectiva, centrarte en el objetivo y encontrar la manera de llegar a él.

¿Vas a dejar que la negatividad domine tu mente? ¿Vas a dejarte atascar emocionalmente o vas a centrarte en avanzar y salir de tu zona de confort?

We all have fears and doubts. We all give in to them sometimes. But the thing is, at some point, you have to snap out of it. If you don’t, you’ll remain emotionally stuck and unfulfilled.

Do what scares you the most and let your comfort zone be home to someone else. Push your limits, be a daredevil and don’t look back.

Los pensamientos negativos son lo único que te impide hacer realidad tus sueños. Deja que la parte positiva de tu mente tome el control y haz lo que nunca pensaste que podrías hacer.

Practicar el amor duro

I’m familiar with so many individuals who choose the tough love approach when it comes to raising their kids. And if it’s within normal limits, I’m 100% down. 

Pero, ¿sabías que también puedes practicar el amor duro contigo mismo? 

Tendemos a mantenernos a una distancia prudencial de las situaciones delicadas, difíciles o incómodas para no quemarnos. Y hasta cierto punto, tiene sentido. Pero escúchame.

A veces, NECESITAS ponerte en situaciones incómodas para crecer. A veces, tienes que soportar esas circunstancias difíciles para acercarte a tus objetivos.

It’s not going to kill you; quite the contrary. I’m all for practicing tough love. Don’t be too kind to yourself, as that will keep you well within your comfort zone. 

Branch out. Tell yourself what you really need to hear, despite your fears and insecurities. Challenge yourself even when you’re certain that you’ll fail.

Without it, you’ll never get where you want to go. Focus on what you want and do whatever it takes to get there, even if it means getting a little burned.

En todo caso, sólo te motivará para llegar antes.

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Don’t let distractions get in your way

There are probably a million things you’d rather be doing right now. Everything seems easier and more comfortable than the journey you’re on.

Those are called distractions. If you’re currently unhappy with where you are, distractions will only keep steering you in the wrong direction.

There will always be some appealing time-wasters who will keep getting your attention. And instead of focusing on new, meaningful projects, you’ll be tempted to give in. But don’t. 

Learn to differentiate between what really matters and what’s in your way.

Comprométete, mantén la concentración intacta, ignora las distracciones y sé consciente de cuál es tu objetivo final.

No matter what you’re embarking on, the drill is the same, whether it’s a new job in a different country, leaving your toxic lover once and for all, coming out to your nearest and dearest or branching out business-wise.

Ninguna de estas cosas es fácil. Se necesita fuerza, dedicación y voluntad para ser fiel a lo que uno quiere y darlo a conocer.

There will always be something keeping you from doing that thing but at some point, you’re going to have to decide that it will never be the right time until you make it so.

Deja de depender de los demás y cúbrete las espaldas de una vez

¿Alguna vez has tenido la sensación de que alguien sigue esperando usted para marcar algún tipo de diferencia en su vida?

As if something you’ll do or say or the way you’ll make them feel could possibly make their life make sense. 

The thing is, until you’re perfectly happy on your own, nobody will be able to fulfill you.

Y nunca debes esperar que nadie sea el factor decisivo de tu felicidad.

Be your own wind beneath your wings. Be your own biggest cheerleader. Push yourself when you feel like giving up and don’t look to anyone else to do it for you.

Until you learn the importance of independence, you’ll never reach that final goal of yours. 

Everyone is busy with their own lives. Nobody has time to be at your beck and call 24/7 and it’s selfish to expect them to. People need to learn how to rely on themselves and be their own best friend.

Your friends will always support you and lift you up but it’s all on you; su motivación, su fuerza de voluntad y SU sueños.

You wouldn’t have time to hold someone else’s hand every day throughout their journey, right? The same goes for them. 

Depend on yourself and you’ll appreciate your success more than you ever would if someone led you there. After all, the amount of effort you put in will be reflected in the number of gains you make.

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Planéelo todo con antelación

Organizarse es la clave. Una vez que tengas un plan concreto trazado y sepas exactamente cuando, qué y cómoLlegar hasta allí es mucho más fácil.

Know your every step and plan for possible problems. Have a plan B in case your plan A doesn’t pan out, as things can get in the way and you’ll have to think on your feet.

However, when you have a backup plan, failing won’t be as disastrous as it inevitably would be without it. Know your every step. 

¿Qué hace falta para conseguirlo? ¿Qué vías tendrá que seguir y cuánto tiempo le llevará? Llena tu calendario y anota todas las cosas que puedas predecir.

Scheduling things might seem like you’re sucking all the fun out of the journey but you’re not; you’re merely preparing yourself for every possible scenario precisely so that you can thoroughly enjoy the process.

This will help you revise what parts of your plan needs improving, where you’re the strongest and how long this is estimated to take.

La planificación brinda la oportunidad de descubrir nuevas ideas y estrategias que de otro modo no se le habrían ocurrido.

Aporta orden y claridad, ayuda a hacer las cosas con eficacia y saca a la luz cualquier punto ciego imprevisto.

Sin cierta disciplina y una perspectiva clara, empezarás en la cola del pelotón.

Make sure you don’t burn out in the process

When your motivation is at its peak, it’s that much easier to burn out sooner rather than later. 

Focus on what you want but also observe your body language and recognize when it’s telling you to take a break. We all need to pulsa el botón de pausa de vez en cuando y restablecer.

You’re not a robot and therefore, you can’t keep going without taking care of your mind, body and soul in the process.  

When you take the much-needed time to rest and recharge, you’re improving your chances to get what you want. It’s important to know yourself enough to know when it’s time for a break.

Don’t let your ambition be the end of you. It’s great that you’re driven and goal-oriented but without some rest time scheduled in your calendar, a burnout is inevitable.

Take it easy, close your eyes, focus on other things and let yourself breathe again. During your journey, you’ll encounter plenty of obstacles that will be hard to overcome if you’re not at 100% mentally.

Take care of yourself and everything else will follow. Don’t think that your lack of motivation is in any way linked to laziness or lack of commitment.

Everybody gets lost sometimes and there’s no shame in it whatsoever. 

Know yourself enough to put the brakes on when needed and continue only when you’re feeling rested, relaxed and ready for whatever lies ahead of you.

Your final destination isn’t going anywhere, so take your time. You’ll get there when your body gets a chance to catch up with your mind.

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