8 maneiras de se concentrar no que quer e atingir os seus objectivos

Com que frequência deixa que os pensamentos negativos o dominem e se interponham no seu caminho? E quantas vezes se concentra naquilo que quer, sabendo que o resultado final valerá a pena?

Recently, I’ve noticed a toxic habit of mine. In times of struggle, I tend to dwell on the very things that are pulling me down, instead of shifting my perspective toward positive things.

Alguma vez se sentiu a seguir o fluxo das coisas, por mais prejudicial que isso possa ser para o seu bem-estar?

Sometimes it’s easier to just let go and hope it all works out somehow. But you don’t know that it will. You need to make conscious choices that will keep bringing you closer to achieving your goals.

Don’t be a passer-by in your own life. Snap out of it and shift your focus toward o que pretendeem vez de ficar a pensar no que é mau.

In an effort to tip the scales in my favor, I’ve created 8 reminders to keep me on track and redirect my focus whenever I lose perspective.

It’s made a huge difference thus far and my hope is that it can resonate with you too. 

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Mantenha-se totalmente empenhado e é provável que a motivação o acompanhe

In order to reach your end goal, first, you need to decide just how committed you’re willing to be.

É um mero desejo sem o qual pode viver ou é algo que deseja profundamente? Dependendo da sua resposta, o seu empenhamento deve estar de acordo com essa resposta.

People tend to expect things to just happen without putting in the work. But that’s not how it goes. You cannot give up when you’re halfway there, just because there is an obstacle.

A vida está cheia de obstáculos inesperados e aparentemente intransponíveis. Mas se queremos mesmo alguma coisa, continuamos a insistir!

You don’t give up at the first sight of trouble. You don’t pack your things and go the first time it gets rough. That’s a sign that you’re not as committed to your goal as you think you are.

Antes de iniciar a sua viagem, qualquer que seja a sua natureza, pergunte a si próprio o seguinte:

– How important to me is achieving this?

– How is it going to make me feel if I give up when I’m so close?

– What if I simply shift my perspective, stop finding reasons to stop and start finding reasons to keep going?

Ultimately, it’s all up to you. We all get dealt a bad hand sometimes. But YOU are the one who decides whether it’s worth the struggle or not.

Concentre-se na sua viagem, NÃO no destino

When embarking on a new journey, it’s all about the excitement, ability to learn, educating yourself and experimenting. There is a lot of importance on the journey itself.

If you’re able to shift your focus to that, instead of the results you’re seeking and the destination you’re eager to reach, the motivation will follow. 

Desta forma, será mais fácil aproximar-se dos seus sonhos, uma vez que a viagem até lá é, por si só, cheia de emoção.

Concentre-se sempre em o que pretende but don’t let the final destination hinder your ability to enjoy the process.

Essa forma de pensar acaba com a motivação e queima-o de imediato. Continue empenhado em aprender, alimente a sua mente, corpo e alma e pare de imaginar o objetivo final por um segundo. 

You’d be surprised how much you could learn about yourself and your surroundings by just being present in the moment. 

Life isn’t about constantly waiting for something good to happen; it’s about learning to embrace what’s in front of you and finding happiness where you never thought possible.​

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Livrar-se de pensamentos negativos

Todos sabemos que os nossos pensamentos são a principal fonte de stress e ansiedade a que por vezes estamos sujeitos, mas também têm a capacidade de determinar a forma como vemos o nosso trabalho.

Se optar por deixar que os pensamentos estagnados dominem a sua mente e suprimam a positividade, não terá qualquer hipótese de ter qualquer tipo de paz de espírito.

No entanto, tem a opção de cortar esses pensamentos pela raiz. Tem a capacidade única de mudar a sua perspetiva, concentrar-se no objetivo e encontrar formas de lá chegar.

Vai deixar que a negatividade domine a sua mente? Vai deixar-se ficar emocionalmente preso ou vai concentrar-se em avançar e sair da sua zona de conforto?

We all have fears and doubts. We all give in to them sometimes. But the thing is, at some point, you have to snap out of it. If you don’t, you’ll remain emotionally stuck and unfulfilled.

Do what scares you the most and let your comfort zone be home to someone else. Push your limits, be a daredevil and don’t look back.

Os pensamentos negativos são a única coisa que o impede de realizar verdadeiramente os seus sonhos. Deixe que a parte positiva da sua mente assuma o controlo e faça o que nunca pensou poder fazer.

Praticar o amor duro

I’m familiar with so many individuals who choose the tough love approach when it comes to raising their kids. And if it’s within normal limits, I’m 100% down. 

Mas sabia que também pode praticar o amor duro consigo próprio? 

Temos tendência a manter uma distância segura de situações complicadas, difíceis ou incómodas para não nos queimarmos. E, até certo ponto, isso faz sentido. Mas oiçam-me.

Por vezes, precisamos de nos colocar em situações desconfortáveis para crescer. Por vezes, temos de suportar essas circunstâncias difíceis para nos aproximarmos dos nossos objectivos.

It’s not going to kill you; quite the contrary. I’m all for practicing tough love. Don’t be too kind to yourself, as that will keep you well within your comfort zone. 

Branch out. Tell yourself what you really need to hear, despite your fears and insecurities. Challenge yourself even when you’re certain that you’ll fail.

Without it, you’ll never get where you want to go. Focus on what you want and do whatever it takes to get there, even if it means getting a little burned.

Quando muito, isso só o vai motivar a chegar lá mais depressa.

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Don’t let distractions get in your way

There are probably a million things you’d rather be doing right now. Everything seems easier and more comfortable than the journey you’re on.

Those are called distractions. If you’re currently unhappy with where you are, distractions will only keep steering you in the wrong direction.

There will always be some appealing time-wasters who will keep getting your attention. And instead of focusing on new, meaningful projects, you’ll be tempted to give in. But don’t. 

Learn to differentiate between what really matters and what’s in your way.

Empenhe-se, mantenha a sua concentração intacta, ignore as distracções e tenha consciência do seu objetivo final.

No matter what you’re embarking on, the drill is the same, whether it’s a new job in a different country, leaving your toxic lover once and for all, coming out to your nearest and dearest or branching out business-wise.

Nenhuma destas coisas é fácil. É preciso força, dedicação e vontade para nos mantermos fiéis ao que queremos e para o darmos a conhecer.

There will always be something keeping you from doing that thing but at some point, you’re going to have to decide that it will never be the right time until you make it so.

Deixar de depender dos outros e proteger-se a si próprio de uma vez por todas

Alguma vez tiveste a sensação de que alguém está sempre à espera de tu para fazer algum tipo de diferença nas suas vidas?

As if something you’ll do or say or the way you’ll make them feel could possibly make their life make sense. 

The thing is, until you’re perfectly happy on your own, nobody will be able to fulfill you.

E nunca se deve esperar que alguém seja o fator decisivo para a nossa felicidade.

Be your own wind beneath your wings. Be your own biggest cheerleader. Push yourself when you feel like giving up and don’t look to anyone else to do it for you.

Until you learn the importance of independence, you’ll never reach that final goal of yours. 

Everyone is busy with their own lives. Nobody has time to be at your beck and call 24/7 and it’s selfish to expect them to. People need to learn how to rely on themselves and be their own best friend.

Your friends will always support you and lift you up but it’s all on you; seu motivação, seu força de vontade e SEU sonhos.

You wouldn’t have time to hold someone else’s hand every day throughout their journey, right? The same goes for them. 

Depend on yourself and you’ll appreciate your success more than you ever would if someone led you there. After all, the amount of effort you put in will be reflected in the number of gains you make.

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Planear tudo com antecedência

Ser organizado é fundamental. Quando se tem um plano concreto e se sabe exatamente quando, o que e como, chegar lá torna-se significativamente mais fácil.

Know your every step and plan for possible problems. Have a plan B in case your plan A doesn’t pan out, as things can get in the way and you’ll have to think on your feet.

However, when you have a backup plan, failing won’t be as disastrous as it inevitably would be without it. Know your every step. 

O que é necessário para lá chegar? Que caminhos terá de percorrer e quanto tempo irá demorar? Preencha o seu calendário e anote tudo o que conseguir prever.

Scheduling things might seem like you’re sucking all the fun out of the journey but you’re not; you’re merely preparing yourself for every possible scenario precisely so that you can thoroughly enjoy the process.

This will help you revise what parts of your plan needs improving, where you’re the strongest and how long this is estimated to take.

O planeamento cria uma oportunidade para descobrir novas ideias e estratégias que, de outra forma, talvez não tivesse pensado.

Traz ordem e clareza, ajuda a fazer as coisas acontecerem de forma eficiente e expõe quaisquer pontos cegos imprevistos.

Sem um certo grau de disciplina e uma perspetiva clara, começa-se por ser o último da lista.

Make sure you don’t burn out in the process

When your motivation is at its peak, it’s that much easier to burn out sooner rather than later. 

Focus on what you want but also observe your body language and recognize when it’s telling you to take a break. We all need to carregar no botão de pausa de tempos a tempos e repor.

You’re not a robot and therefore, you can’t keep going without taking care of your mind, body and soul in the process.  

When you take the much-needed time to rest and recharge, you’re improving your chances to get what you want. It’s important to know yourself enough to know when it’s time for a break.

Don’t let your ambition be the end of you. It’s great that you’re driven and goal-oriented but without some rest time scheduled in your calendar, a burnout is inevitable.

Take it easy, close your eyes, focus on other things and let yourself breathe again. During your journey, you’ll encounter plenty of obstacles that will be hard to overcome if you’re not at 100% mentally.

Take care of yourself and everything else will follow. Don’t think that your lack of motivation is in any way linked to laziness or lack of commitment.

Everybody gets lost sometimes and there’s no shame in it whatsoever. 

Know yourself enough to put the brakes on when needed and continue only when you’re feeling rested, relaxed and ready for whatever lies ahead of you.

Your final destination isn’t going anywhere, so take your time. You’ll get there when your body gets a chance to catch up with your mind.

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