Fundamentos de una relación gratificante
There are a few things that you can do to make your relationship with your significant other not only last but feel secure and rewarding. Many times, things get overwhelmingly busy and we’re so focused on other aspects of our lives that it becomes difficult to center our thoughts on the things that truly matter. Tenemos que invertir en nuestra relación, sin embargo, y hacer que la persona a la que queremos se sienta querida. He aquí algunos de los fundamentos y peldaños de una asociación sana y significativa.
Refuerzo positivo. Los estudios han demostrado que las parejas felices se refuerzan positivamente, mientras que las uniones infelices suelen centrarse más en el castigo. Los que refuerzan su estado dándose la razón, riendo, aprobando, sonriendo y proporcionando otras formas de retroalimentación positiva tienden a tener vínculos más fuertes. Como sugiere la ley de la atracción, lo semejante atrae a lo semejante.Si mantienes vibraciones positivas en tu relación de pareja, es más probable que recibas positividad a cambio. Si estás demasiado centrado en la desconfianza y en mantenerte en guardia, es probable que tu pareja sienta esta energía y te ofrezca lo mismo a cambio.
Atención. We all need to know that we’re wanted, desired, and loved by our partner. It’s human nature. So, we need to devote sufficient attention to the union in order for it to last. Monogamy isn’t easy, and this is why more than half of all marriages end in divorce. Studies have actually suggested that it is statistically more likely for partners to cheat on each other than to remain faithful. That’s the sad reality of the world we live in. And, much of the desire to step outside the partnership stems from lack of attention. It is important to show the relationship is worth your while. Of course, there are a million other important obligations to tend to on a daily basis but, your relationship has to be a top priority. Make sure you’re not only offering attention, but you are receiving it as well. Las relaciones no son unilaterales y ambos miembros deben hacer que funcionen.
Toque físico. It’s a proven fact—we all need touch. It is important to be affectionate and to show your feelings in a physical way. Doing so will increase the level of attraction between you two, which must be evident for a relationship to last. Los pequeños gestos, como darse la mano o un abrazo cariñoso, pueden llegar muy lejos.
El perdón. We’re all human and we’re bound to make mistakes. Ever hear the saying, ‘Go ahead and judge me—just remember to stay perfect the rest of your life’? It’s because it’s unfair to hold anyone else to a standard we ourselves will never achieve. We wouldn’t want our partner to criticize everything we do and hold a grudge if we make a mistake. So, we too need to be willing to forgive. Nada hará fracasar más rápido una relación que castigar con rencor. Plus, when you refuse to forgive, you’re not just hurting the other person but you’re hurting yourself the most. Harboring feelings of ill-will and resentment will take a toll on your health. You must learn to forgive others in order to usher out any negativity and clear the path to lasting happiness.
Lo inesperado. Gran parte de nuestras vidas se basa en la rutina. Tenemos responsabilidades diarias en torno a las cuales giran nuestros horarios y, desde el momento en que nos despertamos, normalmente tenemos una idea general de por dónde nos va a llevar el día. Por eso, infundir un poco de espontaneidad a una pareja y remover un poco las cosas puede ser divertido. We’ve all been told to ‘expect the unexpected’ but we rarely do. You don’t have to go on a spending spree and buy lavish gifts that are sure to wow your significant other. Something as simple as offering to take care of a task that is typically on the other person’s list can make your bond grow stronger. This is a little token of appreciation and gratitude that will truly go a long way.
While we may believe we all intuitively have what it takes to make a relationship work, at the end of the day actions speak louder than words—saying and doing are two completely different things. Don’t just tell your partner how much they mean to you, show them. Work each day to make your union last.
