Cómo hacer que una persona evasiva te eche de menos: 10 técnicas probadas

Hay que aclarar una cosa antes de empezar. Hay muchas personas que tienen un estilo evitativo, pero nadie puede ser evitativo del amor.

The truth is – PUEDES HACER QUE CUALQUIER HOMBRE TE ADORE.

Avoidant individuals can avoid intimacy, relationships, or any kind of commitment but they can’t avoid love. Love is a feeling that can’t be controlled.

When love happens to someone, matter how much they try to deny it, it won’t go away.

Las personas evasivas pueden parecer frías al principio, pero créeme, tienen los mismos sentimientos que todos nosotros.

If you have fallen in love with an avoidant, you’ll have to be very patient and make their feelings for you and their desire to have you bigger than their fear of commitment.

Utilice Su obsesión secreta– a guide that lets you in on the best-hidden secrets of avoidant psyche. Learn more about him so you know how to make him commit to you.

Now, the real question is how you can make an avoidant miss you and want you. Before we skip to the answer to this question, let’s first take a look at what attachment theory is.

Teoría del apego

La teoría del apego se refiere al vínculo emocional entre las personas.

En particular, se centra en las relaciones (especialmente las de larga duración) entre parejas románticas, así como en el vínculo entre un padre y un hijo.

An attachment style is how we attach ourselves to the people we love. It’s the bond we create with those who are close to us.

That style affects our relationships more than we think. That’s why knowing and understanding the different attachment styles can benefit your love life in many ways.

Hay cuatro estilos de fijación:

– Estilo de apego evitativo – these evasivos desdeñosos are high on avoidance, low on anxiety. They always put their own needs first – that’s why they like independence.

They don’t want to commit to or start a romantic relationship with anyone.

– Estilo de apego ansioso – these anxious avoidants are high on anxiety and low on avoidance.

They’re all about drama. It’s not a problem for them to be in a romantic relationship, but they’re always very insecure about their relationship.

– Fijación segura – these people are low on both anxiety and avoidance. They are comfortable with physical intimacy and starting a serious relationship.

– Estilo de apego temeroso-evasivo – these people are high on both anxiety and avoidance.

Fearful avoidants are almost always in a close relationship, but they are always worried that their partner isn’t being honest with them.

Sé que la teoría del apego no es algo en lo que pensemos normalmente, pero deberíamos conocer sus datos más importantes porque afecta a nuestras vidas de muchas maneras.

Now, let’s get back to your question. If you’re wondering what to do to make your avoidant partner miss you, here are some proven methods that will most surely help you.

1. Don’t chase him

Perseguirlo es algo que NUNCA debes hacer. A los evasivos les gusta que les dejen en paz. They think that they can’t be understood by someone else, so they like to be left alone with their thoughts for some time.

They are also intimacy avoidant and they’ll use their distancing strategies whenever they see that you’re trying to take your relationship to the next level.

Let him do that. Don’t chase him. I guarantee he’ll be back after a while. He’ll want to continue the relationship with you the way it used to be.

You’ve picked an pareja evasiva for yourself. You’ve chosen to love him. Now, no matter how much it hurts, you have to be reasonable with him too.

His fear of intimacy is real and you have to be patient and talk with him about it. Tell him how much it hurts you and your relationship. If it’s necessary, you can even go to a few couples therapy sessions.

Lo importante es que sepas que siempre estarás a su lado.

Sometimes, it’s going to be difficult because he’ll try to push you away but that’s when you should be the most patient and reasonable.

If he wants some space, give it to him. Don’t suffocate him. Show him that you are understanding and that you get him.

He’ll miss you but he’ll also be able to open up to you and talk about his mental health.

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2. Ganárselo utilizando el juego de la espera

Se ha distanciado de ti de repente y ahora, ¿qué haces? Empiezas a pensar en llamarle o quizá en enviar un mensaje a alguno de sus amigos.

Mal y mal. Su única opción es esperar. Espera a que haga el siguiente movimiento.

You already know that he loves you, even if he pulls away sometimes. He knows it too, and when he sees that you aren’t contacting him, he’ll be afraid of losing you and that’s when your phone will ring.

Don’t waste your time lying in bed with your phone, waiting for his call all day long. You have a life besides your relationship.

Tienes tus propios intereses. Tienes otras personas en tu vida que te importan y ahora sería el momento ideal para salir más con ellas.

Hay que ganar en el juego de la espera porque de lo que se trata es de haz que te eche de menos¿Recuerdas?

While you’re waiting, you must enjoy yourself and find a way for him to see that you’re having a great time.

It will drive him crazy because he is sure about his feelings for you, but he isn’t sure about himself. Waiting will make him regret that he pulled away.

3. Ponga en pausa sus actividades en las redes sociales

One of the reasons why he is behaving avoidantly is because of social media. There is so much pressure there and sometimes he just can’t handle it.

It’s even worse if you’re very active on your social media and you ask him to post a photo of you every time you go out on a date.

You have to be aware that he has a shy personality. He doesn’t like people commenting on his photos.

He’ll never tell you that, but he isn’t okay with revealing too much about you and your relationship on your social media.

También, pausar sus actividades en las redes sociales hará que sienta curiosidad por saber dónde estás y qué haces.

Maybe he is used to your movements by now – even when he distances himself from you and from your social media.

But now… nothing.

Don’t share your photos or post your location. He misses you already for sure, but not knowing anything about what you’re up to will make him contact you immediately.

4. Dejar siempre una dosis de misterio

I totally agree that in a healthy relationship you should be able to communicate openly. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to tell him every little thing about yourself.

Si realmente quieres hacer que un hombre evasivo te eche de menos, tienes que guardarte algo para ti. Tienes que mantener vivo un poco de misterio en tu relación.

It’s how you’ll keep him interested in you. Play a little hard to get. He’ll appreciate you more.

And he’ll most definitely want to spend more time with you, to get to know you completely.

5. The natural look isn’t an option when you know you’re going to see him

There is nothing wrong with a natural look, but it’s just not enough when you know that you’re going to see him.

Tienes que mostrarle lo que se está perdiendo. Déjale sin aliento y haz que se dé cuenta de que te echa de menos en cuanto te ve.

Antes de hacer que te eche de menos, tienes que hacer que se arrepienta de haberte dejado o de haberte perdido. Ponerte guapa cada vez que os veáis te ayudará a conseguirlo.

Todos sabemos que los hombres son criaturas visuales, así que tienes que asegurarte de que le va a gustar lo que ve.

Ir a la peluquería y date un capricho. Hazte un nuevo corte de pelo, una manicura y una pedicura, y cualquier otra cosa que creas que te ayudará a llamar su atención.

Get a complete makeover. Buy yourself some new clothes. It’ll help you feel great about yourself as well aso look stunning for your avoidant man.

In his eyes, you’ll be more attractive and gorgeous than ever and the picture of you will be stuck in his head until the next time you meet.

Make him jealous by getting the attention of other guys around you. Jealousy is a strong emotion and no matter what your attachment style is, most of the time we aren’t able to handle it as we should.

He’ll start missing you like crazy. He’ll want to be closer to you. He’ll want to spend every minute of the day with you because he’s realized that he made a mistake.

6. Deja que tu cuerpo hable por ti

Nunca hay que subestimar el poder del lenguaje corporal.

Body language is also a weapon in making him miss you. Unfortunately, your anxious partner’s body language is not so great.

He doesn’t have self-esteem. He isn’t confident. His posture tells the world that he is a shy man and not so sure of himself.

You can give him many signs through your body language or you can make him think that you don’t miss him at all and that you’re enjoying life more than ever.

Show him that you’re relaxed about communicating. Lean in a bit when you talk with him but pull back fast.

Keep your arms relaxed and don’t make gestures with your hands all the time. It’ll only make you seem nervous when you’re around him.

7. Don’t rush him

If he’s told you that he needs some space or some time apart from you to think about you and your relationship, you have to accept and respect his decision.

Don’t bore him every day with the same question – has he thought about it. When he feels ready, he’ll call you and ask you to have a serious talk.

Tienes que entender que estás saliendo con un hombre que tiene miedo al compromiso. Un hombre que tiene miedo a la intimidad.

Un hombre que se echará atrás cada vez que vea que vuestra relación se ha vuelto más seria.

I’m not saying it’s going to be like that forever. You can talk with him and make him change some things that are hurting you.

It’s important that you do it slowly, though. You have to be aware that you’ll need a lot of patience to keep an avoidant man.

8. Aumentar su ego

His ego is connected with his low self-esteem. And that’s the reason why he pulls back so often.

He thinks that he isn’t good enough to be with you, so it’s better for both that he distances himself.

Si le ayudas a sentirse bien consigo mismo y aumentar su ego, you’ll make him insanely attracted to you and he’ll start missing you like crazy.

Debes asegurarte de que sabe que es el único hombre de tu vida. Debes asegurarte siempre de que sabe lo que sientes por él.

Si te gusta su inteligencia, su belleza, cómo te trata o lo bien que te cuida, tienes que hacérselo saber.

Even if you’re on a break, you have to speak nicely about him.

When you hang out with your mutual friends and they start talking about him or your relationship, say that he was a great boyfriend and that he always treated you well – or something along those lines.

Le dirán cómo le has piropeado y esos piropos le levantarán el ánimo y le darán confianza.

He’ll remember how you have always been his biggest cheerleader. A person that has always supported him. How could he not miss having a person like that in his life? How could he not miss YOU?

Even though he is very shy and doesn’t know how to receive a compliment, he is just a man. We all like it when someone compliments us.

9. Déle mucho espacio

A lo largo de este artículo, hemos repetido que hay que darle espacio. Pero honestamente, tener su propio espacio es realmente lo más importante para las personas evitativas.

If they ask you to spend some time apart, don’t start imagining things. It’s not because they have someone else.

It’s not because they want to date other people. It’s not because they don’t love you or aren’t sure about their feelings.

Trust me, it’s only because of their constant fear that things are going too fast and getting too serious.

It’s only because they realize that they have fallen for you already, and they don’t want to get attached to you.

Si le das espacio and respect everything he asks you for, he’ll see you as a reasonable woman.

If you remain single in that break, he’ll appreciate you even more. If you don’t talk to anyone about him and don’t reveal your secrets, you’ll get his trust.

Soon, he’ll be able to talk with you about his problems and you’ll be able to solve things in the way it suits your relationship.

Of course, when your avoidant partner sees how incredible you are, he’ll start missing you immediately.

10. La paciencia es tu aliada

So what if you have to wait several hours for a reply? They won’t not reply. It’s just that they have had difficult times communicating with their significant others.

You have to be patient but you don’t have to wait for his call all day long. Go out and do something fun. Show him that you can live without him.

If you want to establish a good relationship with your avoidant partner and make him miss you every time you aren’t together, you have to understand that it’s not going to be an easy job.

Todos sabemos que no es tan fácil ser el amante de una persona evitativa. Pero, nosotros elegimos a nuestras parejas, ¿no? Luego tenemos que lidiar solos con las consecuencias.

How do you make an avoidant miss you? Be patient, follow these methods, and don’t hurry them. That’s the only way you’ll make your avoidant ex want you back.