Hombres débiles y hombres fuertes: 15 rasgos que los diferencian
For as long as you can remember, you’ve been dealing with weak men.
Men who can’t handle your fierce personality, que piensan que eres demasiado, and who can’t be your equals.
Sin embargo, el problema es que siempre veías sus verdaderos colores cuando ya era demasiado tarde.
Nunca supiste reconocer a un hombre emocionalmente débil e inseguro en el acto.
Verás, los tipos débiles son los que dicen ser duros pero no lo son ni de lejos.
En cambio, huyen y se esconden a la primera señal de inconveniente.
Por el contrario, un hombre fuerte es todo lo contrario.
In fact, there are some crucial differences between the two that can help you recognize the type you’re dealing with on time.
10 características de los hombres débiles
1. He’s intimidated by your strength
Lo primero que caracteriza a todos los hombres débiles es su forma de actuar en todas sus relaciones.
Esto se aplica especialmente a los románticos.
The truth is that these men know that they’re not strong enough to be the topdogs.
They don’t have the emotional or intellectual capacity to be the leaders.
Así que, en lugar de intentar ser mejores, ven el hecho de que seas una mujer independiente como una amenaza.
En lugar de verte como una inspiración para mejorar, te ven como una competencia a la que tienen que menospreciar.
En lugar de sentirse orgulloso de tus logros, este hombre se siente en peligro y intimidado por todo lo que logras.
He simply can’t stand the fact that you’re able to succeed on your own. He hates the fact that you don’t need his support for anything.
Lo que más le preocupa es que le elijas conscientemente.
You don’t depend on him for anything. You are not with him because you couldn’t go through your own life without him giving you a hand.
You’re emotionally and financially self-sufficient and that’s what kills him from the inside.
Therefore, he’ll do everything he can to diminish your value.
After all, that’s the only way to put you down on his level. It’s the only chance he has to feel equal to you.
2. He doesn’t take initiative
Being spontaneous can be a good quality in certain situations, especially in today’s era.
However, being laid back can’t be your real-life philosophy. At least, not if you want to make something out of yourself.
Nevertheless, that is exactly what these men do – absolutely nothing. Another trait common for all weak guys out there is lack of initiative.
Even when they’re in trouble, they expect things to work out on their own. They’re overly relaxed and go with the flow all the time.
At first, when you meet someone like this, you’re enchanted by his points of view. You’re fascinated by the fact that a relaxed and calm man like him exists in the world full of rush.
Sin embargo, cambias de opinión a la primera señal de problemas. Ves que este tipo no tiene ambición.
Actúa increíblemente inmaduramente for his age and is stuck in a dead spot that he doesn’t intend to move from.
Of course, after a while, his lack of initiative starts to bug you. You feel like you’re the only one carrying the entire weight of your relationship, while he just tags along and follows your lead.
La verdad es que un hombre así tiene miedo de no tener éxito, así que prefiere no intentarlo en absoluto.
He knows he couldn’t handle failure, so he takes a passive approach to get away from all risky situations.
3. He doesn’t know what he wants
¿Conoces a los tipos que nunca se deciden por nada, ni siquiera por ti?
The men who don’t have the decency to choose you for real, but don’t leave your life either?
¿Tramposos que juegan a juegos mentales?
Los tipos que negarse a etiquetar tu relación? ¿Quién te pone en espera y parece que te tiene como plan de respaldo todo el tiempo?
Sadly, I think we’ve all had the misfortune to have at least one man with these traits next to us.
When you find yourself in this situation, you blame yourself. You think that you’re not enough for him to make up his mind about you.
Well, the truth is actually quite different. You see, this is not a mature man – he is a little boy who doesn’t know what he wants.
Most importantly, his indecisiveness doesn’t have anything to do with you. In fact, it is nothing but a consequence of his weakness.
He is actually not brave enough to make a decision and stick with it. He doesn’t have the strength to go after what he wants and deal with the consequences of his actions.
In fact, deep down, this guy is aware that he doesn’t have the capacity to make the right choices.
4. Nunca asume responsabilidades
This is in fact another trait of all weak men – they never take responsibility for their actions or words.
De hecho, siempre echan la culpa a la otra persona y buscan la manera de salir lo más ilesos posible de cada situación.
Whenever this guy makes a mistake, he’ll try making someone else feel guilty for his behavior.
Esto es especialmente cierto cuando se trata de sus conexiones románticas.
If you’re dating someone like him, you’ll always be responsible for everything wrong in your relationship.
He’ll try presenting himself as almost perfect.
Even when he admits that he made a mistake, he’ll indirectly put the blame on you.
You’re the one who caused him to treat you that way and the one who provoked him.
Sounds familiar, right? Well, it’s just a sign that you’re dealing with an emotionally weak man who will never get to the level where he becomes aware of his wrongdoings.
Consequently, he’ll never have the capacity to at least try to correct his errors.
So, don’t expect to get an honest apology from someone like him. Trust me, even if he says he’s sorry, he doesn’t really mean it.
5. He’s unemotional
Si lo piensas bien, lo primero que siempre se ha relacionado con que un hombre no sea lo suficientemente hombre son sus emociones.
Nos guste admitirlo o no, desde el principio de los tiempos se enseñó a los hombres a no mostrar sus sentimientos.
In fact, they were almost forbidden to have any. You’re not a hombre de verdad if you cry or admit that you’re hurt.
You’re not a tough guy if you get your heart broken or allow yourself to be sad.
If a man is romantic, he’ll probably be accused of being too cheesy and pathetic. If he expresses his emotional pain, he’ll be called a cry baby.
Therefore, you’d think that weak dudes are overly emotional. However, the truth is the complete opposite.
De hecho, un tipo débil es completamente impasible. O al menos, finge serlo.
You see, this man doesn’t have the emotional strength to process his feelings. He doesn’t have the capacity to identify them, face them, and eventually handle them the right way.
Instead, a weak man will run away from his feelings. He’ll repress his emotions and pretend that they’re not there until they magically vanish.
Basically, this guy is an emotional coward. He’ll never have the courage to love you with all of his heart nor will he know how to express the depth of his feelings.
6. He’s aggressive and violent
You might think that guys who are emotionally and mentally weak don’t have physical strength either.
Well, that can’t be further from the truth.
De hecho, un tipo enorme, alto y musculoso puede tener problemas muy arraigados que le conviertan en un enclenque.
Estos hombres inseguros suelen tener un gran problema de autoestima, que intentan encubrir con agresividad.
This is a type of man who doesn’t know how to express himself verbally.
Rara vez razona lo que predica. Por eso, cree que tiene que hacer mucho ruido para convencer, lo que a menudo se convierte en abuso emocional.
As a matter of fact, every abuser is actually a weak person. It doesn’t mean if we’re talking about physical, sexual or emotional abuse, the bottom line is the same.
Estos hombres ansían la dominación y la única forma que tienen de conseguirla es mediante actos de agresión.
A weak man doesn’t have what it takes to defeat you with words. On the other hand, he is aware that he is physically stronger than you, so he’ll use that to his advantage.
Besides, he doesn’t have the ability to control his impulses. He’s not very intelligent, so he ends up acting like a wild animal led by primal instincts.
7. He’s never there for you
If you plan on relying on a man like this during hard times, think again. When you’re with a weak person like him, be prepared that you’ll be left all by yourself at the first sign of trouble.
Don’t get me wrong, I know you’re a strong woman who doesn’t need a man protecting her.
However, you don’t want to share your life with someone who will back out on you either.
This is exactly what this man will do. He’ll leave you to fight alone when the first major inconvenience occurs.
It will be the same no matter what happens. Don’t expect him to stick around if you lose a loved one, get fired, go through a financial crisis, fall sick, or anything else.
I assure you that in all of these situations, he’ll hide in his rabbit hole until the storm passes.
His only goal will be to protect himself and he won’t give a damn about what you’re going through.
He won’t be there to hold your hand and you’ll know that you can’t count on him.
In fact, it’s likely that he’ll expect you to babysit him on top of everything else you’re going through.
In fact, moments of crisis are actually the best test for a man’s strength. Sadly, these times are when many guys fail.
8. He’s selfish
One thing no weak man has is empathy. He’s incapable of taking other people’s feelings and needs into consideration.
Therefore, this is the type of guy who only thinks about himself. He’s self-centered and often egoistic.
When you’re involved with someone like this, you can’t expect him to share your problems or make any sacrifices for you.
Instead, he expects everyone to serve him. He thinks he is the center of the universe and doesn’t have the emotional capacity to take a walk in other people’s shoes.
However, that’s not in any way a justification for his actions. This hombre egoísta doesn’t even try to be better.
In fact, he is perfectly okay with his selfishness and doesn’t plan to do anything about it.
9. He doesn’t stand up for his beliefs
A man who is not strong doesn’t have firm points of view regarding anything in life. In fact, he changes his opinion as the wind blows.
He is not consistent nor does he have any moral values and principles he sticks to. This man doesn’t have the strength to stand up for what he believes in.
In most cases, he doesn’t have the courage to speak up and express his opinion. This is especially the case if most people around him disagree with his views.
No es lo suficientemente valiente como para destacar entre la multitud. En cambio, sigue ciegamente a las masas, aunque piense de forma diferente.
Aunque es el primero en atacar a un eslabón más débil que él, en cuanto se topa con un oponente decente, retrocede y se retira.
This is the man who doesn’t have an attitude regarding most things in life. And even he does, he is too much of a coward to say it out loud.
Don’t get me wrong. Nobody is suggesting that he should be an idealist who is ready to die for his ideas. However, behaving like he has no moral compass of his own is not an option either.
Nevertheless, that’s exactly what this type of guy will do. He’ll give up on everything he believes in the moment he sees another flow is more convenient.
Knowing all of this, it’s no surprise that he’s a born traitor. He changes sides and is ready to stab everyone in the back for a little personal gain.
10. He’s obsessed with other people’s opinions
En consecuencia, un tipo débil siempre está obsesionado con lo que los demás puedan pensar de él.
He’ll never admit the truth, though. In fact, he’ll act like he doesn’t give a damn about other people’s opinions.
However, a man like this will spend his entire life trying to please society’s standards. Of course, he’s not doing it because he cares about other people’s feelings or is trying not to hurt anyone.
Es un complacer a la gente because he can’t stand being judged. This is the guy who walks on eggshells around everyone, telling them what they want to hear.
Le aterroriza ser un marginado y ese miedo le convierte en un hipócrita de dos caras.
5 características de los hombres fuertes
1. Te empuja hacia adelante
En lugar de sentirse intimidado por tus logros, todo hombre badass se sentirá orgulloso de la mujer de éxito que tiene a su lado.
Instead of putting you down, he pushes you forward. Instead of holding you back, he’s the wind to your wings.
This guy is happy when you achieve a new goal. He’s your inspiration to do more and better.
Don’t get me wrong, he won’t try changing you. However, he won’t discourage you in your dreams either.
Instead, he’s supportive to the point where he becomes your number one fan.
This is the man who makes you become the best possible human being you can be. Next to him, you’ll grow as a person and as a woman.
He makes you become the woman you were always meant to be. He believes in you when nobody else does and won’t lose faith even when you do.
You know why he acts this way? Because he is aware of his strength and he wouldn’t settle for anything less than having a strong person by his side.
Quiere una pareja igualitaria. Quiere que los dos caminéis por la vida hombro con hombro.
2. Se hace cargo
Un tipo fuerte suele ser un macho alfa...un top dog. Significa que tiene cualidades de liderazgo con las que toda mujer sueña.
Posee un conjunto específico de habilidades que le permiten tomar las riendas cuando es necesario.
No, he won’t try to turn you into a submissive woman. Instead, he knows when to take initiative and when he should be the dominant one.
This guy has amazing problem-solving skills. He knows how to get things done and he’ll always find a solution to all of your problems, even when you don’t see a way out.
When you’re involved with someone like him, you have the luxury of feeling like a real woman. You know you have a real man by your side who knows what he wants from his own life. Most importantly, he knows how to get it!
3. Te protege
Equality is important in every relationship, especially a romantic one. That is something I don’t plan on arguing against.
Sin embargo, la verdad es que los hombres nacen protectores. Al menos, los hombres buenos lo son.
Tienen una necesidad instintiva de proteger sus seres queridos en los momentos difíciles y su pareja sentimental es el primero de esta lista.
That’s exactly the vibe they send – next to them, you feel safe and sound.
Even though you’re a strong girl who doesn’t need a man saving her, it’s nice knowing that you have a partner you can rely on.
Este hombre es alguien con quien puedes contar, pase lo que pase.
He won’t back out on you and will take care of you with all of his power and strength. Your well being comes first and he’ll even put your needs in front of his own.
Un hombre así siente que tu seguridad es su deber. Se siente responsable de ti y siempre te cubre las espaldas.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about physical security here only. Of course, that’s how things were in the primitive ages, but now, safety has become much more.
Tener un hombre que te proteja significa que cuide tus sentimientos y tu salud mental.
It means having a partner who won’t abandon you when you need him the most. A good man who sticks by your side through hard times, through thick and thin, just like he promised.
4. Respalda sus palabras
Since we’re talking about promises, here is another personality trait common to all strong men: They keep their promises.
Estos son los tipos que respaldan lo que predican.
When you’re involved with a strong man, his actions will always match his words. You won’t be listening to endless false excuses and justifications.
In fact, you can expect to hear the truth from him, even if it’s bitter and harsh. This is the man who knows what he’s doing in every situation and who has what it takes to take responsibility for his actions.
Besides, he won’t make a move if he thinks it’s something he should hide. He won’t do anything he may later be ashamed of.
5. Expresa sus sentimientos
Por último, otra característica de todos hombres fuertes are their emotions. These guys don’t have trouble being in touch with their feelings and they never run away from them.
A strong man will always let you know where you two stand. He’ll be honest about his intentions and you’ll always know how he feels.
As far as he is concerned, there are no such things as mind games and mixed signals. He won’t play hard to get just so you’d fall for him.
This guy won’t lead you on and he won’t fake his love for you just to get in your pants.
Por otro lado, cuando se enamore de ti, te lo dejará muy claro. No es uno de esos hombres inseguros que empiezan a alejarte en cuanto empiezan a sentir algo.
He’s got enough self-esteem not to be ashamed of his feelings and see them as a weakness that should be hidden.
He doesn’t think that his emotions make him any less of a man and he is completely right.
In fact, it is one of the first things that make him this strong. This guy has the capacity to confront his emotions, including the ones he doesn’t like.
He doesn’t bury them deep inside nor does he try to chase them away in an unhealthy way. Instead, he acts like a grown-up: He looks them straight in the eye and finds a mature way of dealing with them.
Por qué quieren los hombres débiles Mujeres fuertes…
If you look closely, you’ll see that there is this strange paradox very common in the dating world. Namely, most weak men actually go after women who are stronger than them.
Irónico, lo sé. Entonces, ¿por qué es así?
First and foremost, some people subconsciously search for a partner who has the traits they’re missing. Without being aware of it, sometimes we look for someone to fulfill us and fill the blanks in our personality.
This is exactly what’s going on with these guys. Once they meet a mujer fuerte who is everything they’re not, she knocks them off their feet.
A muchos tíos débiles les fascinan las mujeres independientes. De hecho, esperan convertirse en tipos duros como ellas.
…And Why They Can’t Handle Them
However, the problem arises once a weak man finally gets the woman of his dreams. Sooner or later, he realizes that he doesn’t have and never had the ability to handle a girl like her.
That is something he can’t take.
Por mucho que este hombre intente estar a la altura de su pareja, es sencillamente incapaz de hacerlo. Por lo tanto, hace todo lo que está en su mano para ponerla a su nivel.
The moment this man realizes that he can never become like the girl he’s dating, he proceeds to lower her worth.
Todos los chicos débiles se sienten constantemente como los sumisos en sus relaciones.
Consequently, they become aware of the fact that their significant other can do much better and that is something they’re not ready to allow.
