Aunque seas soltera y fabulosa, estas 6 cosas apestarán

No estás soltero porque nadie te quiera o porque no estés destinado a ser amado. Eres soltero por decisión propia.

It doesn’t matter whether you need some extra time to heal from a devastating heartbreak from the past, decided to take some time off from relationships, or simply don’t feel ready for anything serious right now.

The important thing is that you’re making the best out of your vida de soltero. Most of the time, you’re not even lonely.

You know you don’t need a man to complete you and you’re using this time to get your life in order.

Sin embargo, no importa lo fabuloso que sea ser soltero, hay algunas cosas que apestan al respecto. Aquí tienes 6 de ellas.

1. 2. Otras personas

Let’s face it. The biggest problem about being single is not the feelings and thoughts you have, it’s the society around you.

The truth is that, if you’re in your twenties and have been single for a while, most people in your surroundings act like they feel sorry for you.

They treat you like you’re a second class citizen – that since you haven’t been able to find a romantic partner, you’re obviously not good enough for anything else either.

Even your closest friends and family members think that you’re miserable on your own.

You’re aware that they mean well, but after a while, them looking down on you just because of your relationship status becomes tiring.

In fact, you feel like they’d rather see you in an unhealthy, toxic relationship than strong enough to go through life by yourself.

De este modo, según ellos, cumplirías unas normas sociales imaginarias, pero, por supuesto, a nadie le importaría un bledo cómo te sientes.

That is exactly why you shouldn’t care about other people’s opinion.

You don’t need their pity and you certainly shouldn’t feel like they’re better than you just for being romantically involved.

2. Contar sólo con uno mismo

You’re a strong, independent, and powerful woman who has the capacity to go through life by herself.

You don’t need anyone pushing you forward, holding your hand through the hard times, or anyone resolving your problems.

Oye, eso es algo de lo que estar muy orgulloso. Créeme, no muchos podrían lograrlo.

Sin embargo, para ser sincero, a veces el hecho de no tener a nadie en quien confiar más que en uno mismo es un poco asqueroso.

It doesn’t mean that you are not capable of being your biggest support.

It’s just that it would be nice to have someone you can count on every once in a while. Of course, you have your friends, family, and even coworkers.

Nevertheless, you don’t have a life partner – a man to be your teammate through thick and thin.

Even though this is the last thing you would ever admit, the truth is that there are times when you wish to have a man who will be there to have your back. You don’t need him to guide you or be your savior.

Te vendría bien alguien que vaya por la vida a tu lado, hombro con hombro.

3. No tener un acompañante

¿Qué pasa con todas esas bodas, fiestas de cumpleaños y otras celebraciones a las que siempre tienes que ir solo? Es una putada no tener un acompañante, ¿verdad?

It’s a pain having to choose whether you’ll go alone, look for a date months ahead just so you don’t have to go through those series of boring questions regarding your love life, or ask a amigo to tag along just so you don’t look desperate.

4. Falta de intimidad física

When you say that you’re tired of sleeping alone, most assume that you’re just horny and that one raunchy night would solve all of your problems.

El problema de la soltería es algo más profundo que un deseo carnal.

In fact, what you miss is physical intimacy. Whether you like to admit it or not, it’s not always easy going home to a cold, empty bed with nobody waiting for you.

Not only that, you also can’t remember the last time you kissed or hugged someone.

Lo que más echas de menos es acurrucarte y despertarte junto a tu ser querido.

Of course, you could be sleeping around to have the physical satisfaction, but that’s simply not your cup of tea.

Además, incluso entonces, seguirías sintiendo la ausencia de un vínculo físico real con otro ser humano.

5. No estar enamorado

Por mucho que disfrutes de tu soltería y le saques el máximo partido, tienes que admitir que la sensación de estar enamorado también mola.

Recuerdas el buen tipo de nerviosismo, el mariposas in your stomach, the sweating of your palms, and the sensation you get when you know you’re about to see your crush?

Well, sometimes you can’t help but miss all those feelings. You miss liking a man, being attracted to him, and wanting him to become yours.

However, just because nostalgia hits you from time to time, it doesn’t mean that it should serve as an excuse to jump into a new relationship.

Porque adivina qué: estar infelizmente enamorado es mucho peor que no estarlo en absoluto.

6. El mercado de las citas

Among other things that are a drag when you’re single – even though you’re killing it – is the dating market.

It’s not that you’re obsessed with the idea of finding a boyfriend, but you didn’t shut your door to love forever either.

Así que, de vez en cuando, sales en un par de citas. Sin embargo, cada vez vuelves más decepcionado que antes.

Everyone around you keeps setting you up on blind dates and men hit on you. But, not one has what you’re looking for.

It’s not that you’re too picky. You just have sus normas y se niegan a conformarse con menos, lo cual es genial.

Sin embargo, a veces sólo deseas no volver a tener otra cita de mierda nunca más.