La verdad es que puedes echar de menos a alguien con quien nunca saliste

Mucha gente te dirá que necesitas tener recuerdos reales con alguien para poder echarle de menos.

They will tell you that you need to share a life with someone so you can feel their absence and so you can suffer for them. They will tell you can’t lose someone you never had.

Y aquí estás, sufriendo por el tipo con el que nunca tuviste una relación.

Whether this is just someone you were madly in love or someone you had some kind of almost relationship with, no strings attached, or someone you were friends with benefits with—the point is that you two were never exclusive and you never labeled things. But despite that, you know you miss him like hell.

You feel like someone has ripped a part of your chest out and you feel like your heart has literally been broken. You can’t breathe knowing that you never had him and that you never will and you can’t sleep knowing that the next day will give you the same pain all over again.

Entonces te preguntas si estás loco. ¿Qué te pasa? ¿Cómo puedes echar de menos a alguien que nunca tuviste y a alguien que nunca fue tuyo?

You keep telling yourself that you don’t have any memories with this guy, you don’t have anything to hold on to. You keep telling yourself that you are overreacting and that this pain is not something you should be feeling.

Sigues diciéndote a ti mismo que eres un mujer madura y que él es cualquier cosa menos merecedor de esta cantidad de sufrimiento. Incluso te sientes avergonzada por permitirte sentir tanto dolor por alguien con quien nunca has salido.

Te avergüenza compartir tus pensamientos y sentimientos con cualquier persona de tu entorno e incluso intentas ocultártelos a ti mismo. Crees que este dolor desaparecerá si huyes de él el tiempo suficiente.

But time has passed by and nothing has changed. You’ve tried everything but it appears that this pain only gets stronger and stronger with every day that passes by.

Y ninguna de estas cosas que te repites te ayuda. Aunque tu mente te diga todo esto, tu corazón tiene su propio camino.

No matter how hard you try to fight it, you know that this pain is real and you simply don’t know what to do about it.

Pues déjeme decirle que no hay nada de qué avergonzarse. Y déjame decirte que no estás loca. Porque puedes sufrir por alguien que nunca fue tuyo.

Y puedes echar de menos a alguien que nunca tuviste. Although there is no scale or measurement for the amount of pain someone is feeling, it is possible to miss someone you were never with more than someone you’ve had.

It’s not that you only suffer for that person. You suffer for all the hopes and dreams you had about him that are now sadly shattered. You suffer for all the ‘what ifs’ and ‘could have beens’.

You miss everything you guys didn’t share—every memory he wasn’t a part of and your entire future he won’t be in.

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You suffer because you don’t have any pictures of the two of you together, because there don’t exist any songs that will remind him of you, because there don’t exist any places in which you two were together.

Pero sobre todo, sufres porque nunca tuvisteis una oportunidad juntos. Habría sido más fácil para ti si él te hubiera dado una oportunidad, si hubieras podido ver qué se sentía al tenerle en tu vida.

It would have been easier for you to know that the two of you were not meant to be or to know that things simply couldn’t work out between you two. It would have been easier for you if one of you guys grew tired of each other, if you could have seen each other’s flaws and imperfections.

Pero de esta manera, usted sabe que tiene que seguir adelante sin el cierre quieres tanto porque nunca tuviste el principio en primer lugar. Y eso es lo que más te duele.