¿Te sientes un desastre emocional? (y cómo evitarlo)

A sensitive heart can be a heavy burden. Your heart is so fragile, so gentle, and so delicate that even the smallest things can disrupt its balance. But that’s okay.

You are crying now and you can’t focus your mind, right? I know the feeling.

That feeling where you’re choking on your own fears, emotions, and tears. It’s like your own body can’t handle itself. It’s an emotional state almost impossible to escape. 

Sometimes I feel like it’s just anxiety playing with me, or that it’s the people around me who are the only ones to blame for my emotions.

Pero, al fin y al cabo, ¿importa realmente la causa? ¿O importa más cómo reaccionas ante ella?

Can I just tell you: what I’ve learned that helps the most in these moments is accepting that minute of feeling lost and out of your mind.

Siempre estás muy ocupado, quieres conseguir algo en tu vida y te estresas por todo.

Haces planes, organizas cosas y, al llegar la noche, te duermes agotado por todo lo que has hecho ese día.

At the end of the day, you completely ignore your mental health and can’t understand that you’re under a lot of unnecessary stress.  

But let me just tell you that being productive and following your dreams doesn’t always mean that your heart is protected.

Basta con que una persona en tu vida diga algo antes de pensar o haga algo que te haga preguntarte si alguna vez te quiso, para que caigas de rodillas y sientas cómo tu corazón se rompe bruscamente dentro de tu pecho.

Él te lastimó. Te hizo esto. Cuando miras atrás, recuerdas aquella vez que estuviste a su lado cuando estaba tan perdido.

Desearías que estuviera a tu lado y te ayudara a superarlo. Pero no lo está.

He’s not there with you and you know that he won’t even come.

You’ll be crying your eyes out for a while, but that is fine. You’ll feel that churning sensation like you’re about to throw up.

But it’s all normal. You shouldn’t be blaming yourself for this emotional moment.

Your mind is blank, isn’t it? You feel everything so deeply that your mind has shut itself down, because there’s nothing it can think at this moment to make you feel better.

Así que deja que sea yo quien te lo diga: ¡Acéptate por lo que eres en este momento! Usted es un naufragio emocionalAsí que, ¡aprovéchalo!

Cuanto más intentas silenciar tus emociones, más intentas esconderlas del mundo, más daño causarán en tu cuerpo, mente y alma. La destrucción no es cuestión de segundos.

It’s a matter of months, or even worse – years. It’s so slow that you don’t notice it coming!

¡El daño irá más allá de las lágrimas porque seguirás llevando esas emociones contigo allá donde vayas!

Isn’t it better to just let it all go? It feels awful right now, but in the morning you will feel relieved! You’ll feel lighter, like you have let go of a huge burden.

You shouldn’t be angry at yourself for feeling all of these things! You’ll only be adding another emotion, and anger aimed at yourself isn’t going to do you any good right now.

Lo que necesitas ahora es incondicional, amor duradero para ti. Lo necesitas ahora más que nunca.

You need to realize that even though it’s harder to breathe through all these tears, even though your face is swollen and blotchy, there’s still no reason for you to not love yourself.

Cuando te levantes por la mañana, con esas bolsas bajo los ojos, recordarás cómo te sentiste y te respetarás lo suficiente como para no dejar que te vuelva a ocurrir.

You won’t let anyone treat you that way again, because duele demasiado ser defraudado por alguien a quien amabas con toda tu alma.

But at this moment, it’s better to let it all out than to  drag it along with you, because you’ll meet someone and want to give them everything, but you won’t be able to due to your emotions being held inside for so long.

That’s why you have to let go of all of it. And this is how you’re going to achieve that estado natural de bienestar.

Cómo dejar de ser un desastre emocional: 

1. Distraerse 

Todos sabemos que cuando no tienes nada que hacer, piensas en cosas.

Cuanto más piensas, más te preocupas. La ansiedad se apodera de ti y empiezas a pensar más de la cuenta. 

Therefore, if you’re determined to avoid becoming an emotional wreck, the smartest move you can pull is to distract yourself.

Find something to do on social media – there are always interesting things on every platform. 

Google things you’ve always been interested in, but never quite investigated. Try things for the first time – you never know what you might like.

Maybe exactly that turns out to be your new hobby that will help to distract you and enable you to move on from the terrible emotional state you’re in. 

2. Alejar la negatividad 

Are you in a toxic relationship? Break up – it’s not as hard as you think. Get rid of all the things that are causing you pain in life. No one is forcing you to be unhappy. 

Esa negatividad de la que te has rodeado sólo te está arrastrando hacia el fondo.

It’s so dark there… when you hit rock bottom. Sadly, many never find their way back to the top. They get stuck in. 

Why you made certain choices is your secret to keep. You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone.

Al final, ¿realmente tienes que dar explicaciones por querer que tu vida sea menos miserable? 

3. Culpa a quien tengas que culpar

Although this doesn’t look quite healthy at first, in-depth it really is. By blaming someone, but only platonically blaming, you’re doing yourself a favor and you’re healing faster.

It’s always easier to point your finger at someone and blame them for your problems. 

The end result of this is – you appear to become a victim because it’s not your fault, it’s someone else’s.

Si las cosas llegan tan lejos antes de que te des cuenta de que debes asumir tus propios errores, entonces te encuentras potencialmente en una peligrosa situación de autoengaño. 

If you have a close friend, you should use them now to snap you out of this while it’s still not too late. 

4. Analice su situación

By analyzing what has happened to you, you’ll be able to find a solution to feel better.

Succeeding in achieving that is called personal growth – when you finally realize by yourself what is best for you and which way you have to go to fulfill things you’ve dreamed of.

For example, you’ve gone through something extremely painful. Now, you’re dealing with it, but instead of lying back and letting what happened to you disappear, you’re obsessing with it.

You put so much pressure on yourself that at some point you become a loner. You refuse to hang out with anyone because you’re only stuck in your head. 

You’re only thinking about what happened to you over and over again. Do you really think that things would be different if you knew about the betrayal or that person’s intentions towards you?

Tienes que decidir mejorar. Tienes que salir del agujero negro al que te arrastra ese horrible estado emocional.

Porque un día, cuando conozcas a alguien que merezca por completo cada pedacito de ti, te arrepentirás de no haber sido capaz de darle todo lo que eres.