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Por qué los hombres se alejan en las primeras etapas

¿Qué le pasa al sexo "fuerte"? A veces parece que huyen de todo con tanta facilidad.

… and they call women the weaker sex…

Comprender a los hombres can sometimes be harder than understanding women, but we don’t complain that much, do we?

It’s just that we’re left wondering what the hell went wrong for the rest of our lives more than we should, but it’s not that big of a deal.

La cuestión aquí es: ¿Por qué se alejan los hombres? en las primeras etapas? ¿Por qué todo es arco iris y sol durante un tiempo y luego se quedan en blanco de repente?

¿Qué ha pasado? Let’s imagine you were on a date or it’s been a few dates now and he seemed OK-ish or even as if he had a great time and then he disappeared. No phone call, no text, not a sound from him.

It’s not that you se volvió demasiado pegajoso; you didn’t have the time to. It can’t be that you read the signs wrong; you’ve been out there for a while already and you know dating.

It’s not that your clothes were too much; we’ve passed that period a long time ago.

1. He pulled away because you didn’t really click

una pareja se siente incómoda sentada en un banco en silencio

At first, one may think ‘this is it’, but there must’ve been something different happening in his head.

He might appear as if he’s interested and then he changed his mind all of a sudden, but didn’t bother telling you.

2. He pulled away because he didn’t like you

Mujer junto a hombre con sombrero negro

Nosotros, los humanos, tendemos a crear cosas en nuestra cabeza que en realidad no existen.

Tal vez le gustaste, pero no lo suficiente como para entablar una relación contigo. ¿Cuántas veces tu imaginación lo ha arruinado todo?

You saw things way better than they actually were. He didn’t fancy you as relationship material and you stated clearly that you didn’t want to be friendzoned, so now you’re nowhere.

3. Se alejó porque su entusiasmo desapareció

hombre con chaqueta de cuero negro de pie en la parte superior del puente con edificios de la ciudad detrás de él

Puede que esperara el momento perfecto (y usted realmente lo tenía), pero al cabo de un tiempo, su entusiasmo desapareció.

He didn’t feel as thrilled to see you como al principio. He wasn’t into going on dates with you and he didn’t want to spend any more time with you.

When that ‘whatever’ feeling got to him, he decided to disappear as well.

4. He pulled away because he’s scared of you

hombre haciendo el gesto de la x con las manos

¡Hombres, asustados, como si...! You have to admit, it’s the age of Wonder Woman and you might be way out of his league.

No tienes problemas para mantenerte y lo único que necesitas de él es respeto y amor.

You’re not dependent on him and you wouldn’t be under any circumstances.

It could be the case that he doesn’t know how to behave or how to handle such a strong female, so he’s left with only one option—to pull away.

In his head, it’s better to leave without a word than to stay embarrassed. It’s a poor decision, but there is nothing you can do about it.

5. Se alejó porque no hay puntos en común

joven pareja caminando en silencio

You’re just from two different planets and it’s hard to find any similarities.

You listen to Adam Levine, while he’s more of a country type, or you enjoy jumping into unknown situations and discovering new things by yourself, while he’s a ‘play-it-safe’ type of a guy.

Normalmente, los polos opuestos se atraen, but it’s not a must. It could be that in your case, the scenario was totally different and there was no other option for him but to pull away.

The truth is, it would be way less painful if you’d had closure or a final goodbye.

It would’ve saved you from wondering what went wrong. Maybe it’s not about the pain, but more about what is decent.

6. He pulled away because he’s too anxious to put himself out there

hombre sujetándose la cabeza al aire libre

It may sound incredible, but people are fighting their anxiety on a daily basis and sometimes it’s just too much to handle.

You are an incredible person and he did the best he could to get you to go out on a date with him, but it’s way too much stress for him.

Although he’d love to continue whatever the two of you started, it’s much easier for him to just give up.

7. He pulled away because he’s a player

hombre con gafas de sol en el exterior
And that’s what players do. He got you interested and now he wants you to chase him.

Quiere que le llames, que te preguntes dónde está y por qué no te devuelve la llamada.

You didn’t do anything wrong, it’s just the way he is and the best thing you can possibly do is to just leave the things as they are.

8. He pulled away because he’s a fuckboy

Hombre con chaqueta negra con cremallera y gafas de sol

Nunca planeó nada serio contigosólo quería tener una fase contigo y luego pasar a su próxima víctima.

Este tipo de hombres nunca sientan la cabeza, pero aún peor que eso, cuando se van, se van sin dar un cierre.
Esta puede ser la razón por la que se apartó en una fase temprana.

9. Se alejó porque consiguió lo que quería

foto de primer plano de los amantes de las manos mientras tienen relaciones sexuales

Nobody’s judging, it’s up to you how far you want to go. If he got what he wanted, that might be the reason he pulled away in the early stages.

He’d do it the moment he got what he wanted, regardless of how long you decided to wait.

10. Se alejó porque tiene miedo de ser utilizado

hombre con gafas y luces en la mano
Podría darse el caso de que nunca se molestara en ofrecerse a pagar nada o que afirmara que esperaba que fuera él quien pagara todo.

Also, if you said that you expected the guys you date to spoil you and to often buy you gifts so they’d get boyfriend privileges, no wonder he pulled away.

11. He pulled away because he didn’t want to get broken again

pareja disgustada sentada en un banco del parque

Tal vez te le apareciste como una mujer fatal y él vio que lo mirabas sólo como una herramienta para conseguir lo que necesitabas.

Mientras él estaba a la caza de su alma gemela, tú parecías ser una de esas women who doesn’t settle and he realized he’d only get broken if he spent more time with you.

12. Se alejó porque se asustó de las expectativas

foto de cerca de las manos de un hombre y una mujer de pie uno al lado del otro

Quizá sea más fan de un flirteo que una relación. Y tal vez quería mantener las cosas picantes, pero nunca quiso comprometerse de verdad.

With commitment comes big responsibilities and certain expectations he’d have to fulfill as your boyfriend and in most cases, men run away from those kinds of things.

Whatever the reason may be, you at least deserved an explanation. He shouldn’t have left you wondering what went wrong and he should’ve had the decency to be upfront.

So don’t you dare blame yourself or spend endless nights wondering what went wrong.

It’s time to stop questioning what YOU did wrong and understand that it can’t be your fault when he didn’t even give you two a chance. If he pulled away in the early stages, it’s his loss, not yours.

He didn’t get to know you well enough because he decided to give up early.

Te deja preguntándote qué salió mal y te pasas horas rebobinando la película en tu cabeza para ver qué hiciste mal.

Wouldn’t it be better if he could just ‘man up’ and say what’s on his mind?

There was no other date, there was no phone call or anything because he’s a quitter. And because of this, he doesn’t deserve you anyway.

Por qué los hombres se alejan en las primeras etapas

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