¿Cuánto tiempo después de una ruptura los chicos empiezan a echarte de menos?
“I wonder, ¿me echa de menos mi ex después de la ruptura? Se arrepentirá de perderme? He probably misses me… He can’t move on that fast. Or, can he? I don’t know what to do.
I wish I could ask him what’s going on inside his head, but I shouldn’t contact him. He might think of me as desperate. I wonder if we’ll ever get back together…”
Como mujer que soy y maestra del exceso de pensamiento, puedo decirte una cosa: The more you overthink, the less you’re sure of anything (even the things you certainly know). So, stop doing it.
I’m aware that this is easier said than done, but it was an attempt to help you stop worrying about te echa de menos. I know it was a failed attempt, and I’ll try to make it up to you in the following paragraphs.
¿Cuándo empiezan a echarte de menos tras una ruptura? ¿Te echan de menos cuando no hay contacto?? Do they ever miss you at all? Hmm…
There’s nothing I would rather do at the moment than tell you that every single man on earth is bound to start missing you after a breakup, but I would be lying both to myself and to you. So, here’s the thing, my dear ladies:
Sí, algunos los chicos empiezan a echarte de menos después de una rupturapero esto depende en gran medida de cada relación individual.
Permítanme que me explaye.
If he cheated on you, chances are he won’t miss you (unless he starts feeling really sorry about it and decides to change).
If you didn’t have any major relationship problems, chances are high that te echará de menos tras una ruptura (suponiendo que aún sienta algo por ti).
Así que, cuando por fin (y si es que lo hace) empiece a echarte de menos, ¿CUÁNDO puedes esperar que ocurra?
Another factor that greatly affects a guy’s ability to miss his ex is his character. Every single guy is different with a unique mindset and set of skills.
Some of them are artistic, shy, introverted, extroverted, (players?), you name it. Still, don’t let these things confuse you. The majority of men can be categorized into the following sections after a breakup.
Esta categorización te ayudará a entender cuándo y si tu ex novio empezará a echarte de menos:
• Independent
Independent guys lead interesting lives, they have not one passion, but a few. They discover new interests every day, and their hobbies are a synonym for a man cave. Independent (read: confident) types of men don’t seek validation from others.
Actually, they don’t give a damn about what others think of them as long as they have high value for themselves.
Este tipo de hombres son emocionalmente fuertes, y sólo te echarán de menos tras una ruptura si se dan cuenta de que siguen enamorados de ti.
Independent men won’t start missing you just because they’re feeling lonely, but they will miss you only if they still have feelings for you. I’ll give you some time to absorb this and then we can switch to the next one.
RELACIONADO: Etapas de la ruptura - Dentro de la mente de quien inicia una ruptura
• Insecure
Insecure men don’t sound like the type of men women are crazy about, but they have their own unique qualities as well. Such men only feel complete when they are in a relationship.
They are always on the lookout for things that will make them feel self-worthy, and they do care about seeking other people’s validation. So, let’s say that you break up with an insecure man. What can you expect to happen?
Pues bien, puedes esperar el siguiente caso hipotético:
Probablemente empezará a echarte de menos enseguida.
The problem with that is the fact that you will not know whether he genuinely misses you because he still loves you or he’s just missing the relationship and how it made him feel about himself.
Cuando un hombre inseguro pierde algo que le hace sentirse seguro, querrá recuperarlo sólo para volver a sentirse completo. Pero, ¿estuvo alguna vez completo después de todo? Ésa es la cuestión.
• Indecisive
Con diferencia, este tipo de hombre es mi favorito (es broma). Los indecisos no son ni independientes ni inseguros. Se encuentran en algún lugar de la zona gris, lo que los hace aún más complejos de lo que realmente son.
El mayor problema de este tipo de hombre es que siempre piensa que la hierba es más verde al otro lado de la valla. En otras palabras, quiere estar tanto contigo como con otras mujeres.
Actually, he doesn’t really know what exactly it is that he wants, and that’s why he wants to experience it all (if that even makes sense). If not, then read again.
Cuando rompes con un chico indeciso, lo más probable es que empiece a salir con otras justo después de la ruptura sólo para ver qué quiere exactamente.
Después de eso, las probabilidades de que acuda a ti rogándote que le des una segunda oportunidad son realmente altas.
He will realize that you were the only one he ever wanted, but sometimes, he will realize it when it’s already too late. Por lo tanto, este tipo de chico probablemente empezará a echarte de menos al cabo de unas semanas o meses.
Cuando eso ocurre, tienes dos opciones:
- If you don’t intend on reuniting, you can tell him that it’s too late for apologies, and you don’t have time to deal with indecisive men.
- Puedes hacer que se esfuerce para volver a ganarse tu confianza. Si no consigue ser el novio que te mereces, puedes cambiar fácilmente de opinión y seguir adelante. En cualquier caso, tú ganas (en cierto modo).
Entonces, cuando por fin (y si es que lo hace) empiece a echarte de menos, ¿CÓMO lo sabrás?
This is a tricky question, I know. It would be great if we had a device that would tell us when our exes start missing us, but I’m afraid we’re not that advanced yet.
As a matter of fact, you don’t need any magical devices or other thingamajigs in order to know when your ex starts missing you. All you need to do is pay attention to all those little clues and his overall behavior.
Uno de los los mayores signos de que tu ex aún te quiere y te echa de menos es si todavía sigue todas tus redes sociales. Ahora, pregúntate por qué haría eso si estuviera cien por cien preparado para seguir adelante con su vida y aplicar la norma de no contacto?
Déjame contarte un pequeño secreto: Cuando un chico decide que quiere pasar página, borra todo lo que tenga que ver contigo (si puede, claro).
Hay cosas que no puede borrar, como los recuerdos contigo, y tardará algún tiempo en procesar todo eso.
But, he can surely unfollow you / block you or whatever you can do on these social networks nowadays. When guys decide that it’s over, they don’t look back. They do everything in their power to move on as fast as possible.
This means that he can’t allow himself to still check your profiles ten times a day because he wants to forget you (no matter how harsh it sounds).
So, if a guy still has you on his social media accounts, this is a good sign. It means he’s not ready to say goodbye to you yet, and he still wants to be a part of your life in a passive way for the time being.
You can be sure that he probably checks your profile a few times a day because he’s still interested in what is going on in your life. It’s only a matter of time when he will tell you that he misses you.
What if he misses you badly, but won’t admit it?
This is one of the most confusing things that can happen to you. Sometimes, guys are so proud about themselves that they won’t admit it to you even if their life depended on it.
En ese caso, vuelves a tener dos opciones:
- Ignóralo y sigue adelante.
- Puede prestar atención a estos clear signs he misses you badly, but won’t admit it.
If you choose the former option, there’s nothing I can do about it.
But, if you choose the latter option, here are some things you need to pay attention to because they are true indicators that he genuinely misses you (even if he doesn’t want to admit it), accompanied with my humble comments in the brackets:
- Deja comentarios y likes en tus redes sociales. (Hello? We’re no longer together. Why would you keep liking my pictures and reading my posts? I know why… because you miss me. That’s right.)
- Te llama borracho.(Seriously? Why would you drunk-dial me when it’s obvious that we’re no longer together? Am I constantly on your mind, and the only time you gather the courage to admit it is when you’re drunk? Well, ‘In vino veritas’, my friend.)
- Habla de ti con sus amigos o con los tuyos. (Hey, you’re no longer a part of my social circle. Stop hanging out with my friends and stop talking to them about me.
Además, deja de hablar con tus amigos sobre mí también. Espera, ¿eso significa que realmente me echa de menos? Apuesto a que sí, ¡ja!)
If a man truly misses you, trust me, you’ll know it. And, if he doesn’t, don’t worry about it
When a man misses you, he becomes a little bit jealous, he drunk-dials you, and after some time, he decides to contact you. If he doesn’t miss you, then he doesn’t do any of that. It’s as simple as that.
So, if he doesn’t miss you, don’t panic. You deserve so much better, girl. If he doesn’t miss you, then he’s not worthy of being with you. Punto. Me reafirmo.
