8 maneras de mantenerte soltero inconscientemente
¿Te encuentras pensando: ¿Encontraré alguna vez el amor verdadero?
El amor es algo que todo el mundo necesita. Todo el mundo quiere sentirse seguro y cuidado.
When you have a significant other, it’s easier to face challenges and everyday life is happier and more comfortable overall.
If you’re one of those people who is losing hope when it comes to their love life, ask yourself if these things are subconsciously keeping you solo:
1. You haven’t really gotten over your ex
You know he wasn’t the one but that doesn’t keep you from feeling nostalgic over the time you spent together.
It may look good in your mind, in your memories, but in reality, it’s probably better you’re not together.
Be honest with yourself and think about this possibility; if that doesn’t help, remember the reason why you broke up in the first place.
2. Escuchas a tus amigos más que a ti mismo
Ok, so you meet a guy and you like him; naturally, the first person you’re going to talk about it to is your friend and sometimes friends project their own experiences and worries onto us.
Friends mean us no harm but that doesn’t mean they can’t do any harm. Listen to your friend but listen to yourself first.
If you like someone, go for it; you don’t need permission from anyone.
3. Sus normas no son racionales
Maybe it’s because you were hurt before or maybe you’re just stubborn but setting irrationally high standards doesn’t make sense.
Every person is different and every person has their good and bad sides. We can’t think our perfect person into existence; that’s not how it works.
For love to be true, we need to accept the fact that everyone makes mistakes and the fact that what we think is best for us isn’t always best for us.
4. You don’t believe good men exist
Obviamente, esta lógica está causada por malas experiencias con su pareja anterior o con figuras masculinas de su vida.
It’s hard to believe in the goodness of men once we experience terrible things. However, the reality is that good men do exist.
Once you start believing in the existence of good men, they will appear in your life. Don’t judge all men based on one experience. Give them a chance.
5. You’re afraid of being hurt again
Se trata de una reacción normal cuando se trata de sobrevivir a algún tipo de trauma.
Maybe you’re telling yourself you want to be alone but the truth is you’re just scared of being hurt.
El miedo a que te hagan daño puede perjudicar enormemente tu vida amorosa. Hay que curarse y seguir adelante. Cuando el verdadero amor llame a tu puerta, ¡prepárate para abrirla!
6. You’re too focused on your career and other things in life
Relationships need effort to work out. When you’re busy with things like your career or some type of time-consuming business, you’re putting aside your love life.
That’s okay—if that’s what you want! If that’s not what you want, think about the priorities in your life.
Nothing is set in stone, you’re free to change your life if you want to.
7. Romantizas las relaciones y confías en el destino
Creer en el destino y en el amor verdadero es algo positivo. En cambio, esperar que alguien o algo haga el trabajo por ti es delirante.
Asume tu responsabilidad y emprende acciones que puedan conducirte a tu objetivo. Para que algo suceda, primero tienes que crear la posibilidad.
8. Te quedas demasiado tiempo en casa
I know there are introverts among us but that shouldn’t stop you from finding the love of your life.
Si te gusta quedarte en casa y pasar el tiempo leyendo un libro o viendo películas, puedes estar seguro de que en algún lugar hay una persona a la que le gusta hacer lo mismo.
Sólo tenéis que encontraros.
If you don’t like clubs or bars, try online options. List your interests and try your luck; why not?
To sum this up, here’s what I need to say: Don’t deny yourself love.
Be open and good things will come your way. Love takes courage so be brave and don’t give up.
