Si te quieres de verdad, no dejarás que nadie te haga estas 8 cosas

La mayoría de la gente dice que se quiere a sí misma. Desgraciadamente, that isn’t true love with most of us. Damos demasiado de nosotros a algunas personas.

We change ourselves completely for our loved ones. We lose ourselves when we’re in a relationship.

That’s not how el amor propio es supuestamente. Si realmente quiérete a ti mismonunca permitirías que nadie te dijera cómo debes cambiar por completo.

It’s not important who goes or stays in your life; you’re all that’s important. You’re the only constant in your life.

That’s why you have to know your worth. You have to be aware of what you deserve and never settle for any less. In light of that, you should never let anyone do any of the following things to you:

Hacerte dudar de ti mismo

Self-love comes from self-worth. You should never let anyone make you doubt yourself and tell you that you can’t do certain things.

Puedes conseguir más de lo que crees. Puedes hacer lo que te propongas. Sólo tienes que creer en ti mismo y no permitir que nadie apague tu luz.

menospreciarte delante de los demás

I honestly swear that some people really enjoy doing this. And I’ll never be able to understand why. Do they think they are better than others or what?

Irrelevant. The important thing is that you shouldn’t allow this from anyone. If you allow one person to undermine you, then someone else will think that you’re okay with it and do the same to you.

Utilízate

Not all people have a pure and clean heart like you – you have to be aware of that always. You’ll meet some people that will only try to use you and your naivety.

That’s why it’s important never to let your heart control your mind, otherwise you won’t be able to realize when someone’s only using you and your feelings.

Maltratarte

De nuevo, tienes que ser consciente de tu autoestima. Know your value and don’t settle for any less than you deserve, no matter how much you love someone.

Stand up for yourself. Don’t try to fool yourself. If someone mistreats you, that means they don’t respect you. And donde no hay respeto, realmente no hay amor.

Burlarse de ti

A little teasing among friends is normal. But if it’s only one-sided, then that is not just playful teasing. It’s bullying and that’s something you should never allow.

Show others that you’re confident. Put an end to that constant taunting and tell the culprits that you aren’t okay with it. Tell them that their teasing hurts your feelings and that you won’t put up with it anymore.

Controla tu vida

Very often, when people fall in love, they let their significant other control their life. And they don’t become aware of it until they realize that their relationship has become toxic and unhealthy.

Por mucho que quieras a la otra persona, siempre debes quererte más a ti mismo. La vida es impredecible y nunca se sabe lo que nos deparará el futuro.

You can never be sure that you’ve met your soulmate or that you’ll stay with that person forever. If you let someone control your life other than yourself, you’ll feel lost if they ever had to break up with you.

Afectar a sus decisiones

We have all different opinions about certain things and we also have all the right to voice them. It’s good to hear out someone’s advice, especially if it’s coming from those close to you.

However, you are the only person who is in charge of your life and you should be the one to make your own decisions and choices. Don’t let other people’s opinions affect your decisions.

Abusar de ti

No matter how much you love someone, never – I repeat – never let them abuse you in any kind of way. 

Physical violence isn’t the only form of an abusive relationship. There are so many other types and that’s why sometimes we don’t even realize that we’re being abused by our significant other.

Ultimátums constantes, comportamiento controlador, celos irracionales, guilt trips, verbal abuse, constant criticism…

Todos estos son signos de una relación malsana y abusiva, y de un comportamiento que nunca deberías consentir si realmente te quieres a ti mismo y te importa tu propio bienestar.