No temas volver a amar: no todo el mundo será como tu ex

I know you’ve been through hell. Maybe you were a victim of abuse. Or you were involved with a narcisista manipulador .

Or you got cheated on. Or you were with someone who never appreciated you and didn’t love you enough.

En cualquier caso, la cuestión es que dejaste entrar al hombre equivocado, pensando que era el adecuado para ti. Amaste a un hombre tóxico con todo tu corazón y él solo utilizó tu amor en tu contra.

Confiaste en él y traicionó tu confianza de la peor manera posible. Planificaste un futuro con un hombre que acabó aplastando todos tus sueños y esperanzas.

You gave him your best and he still thought it wasn’t enough. You prioritized a man who didn’t have the decency to choose you.

Llevabas el corazón en la manga y él te lo rompió, sin pensar en las consecuencias. Le diste todo sin recibir nada a cambio.

All of this crushed you to pieces and it made you question your judgment. Everything this man did left deep wounds on your soul and now, you are convinced that you’ll never mend your broken heart.

I know that now you see all of this as the end of the world but these things simply happen. Everything doesn’t always go as you planned.

La gente resulta ser diferente de lo que imaginas.

Y te rompen el corazón. Pero todo eso forma parte de la vida.

And a failed relationship doesn’t equal a failed life. A broken heart doesn’t have to mean that you are broken for good.

I know that you think that you’ll never recover from everything that has happened to you. I know that you’ve lost all faith in people and that you don’t believe in finding love again.

Para ser honesto, para usted, la mera la idea de enamorarse de nuevo es aterrador como el infierno. You are terrified of diving into a new relationship ever again and you are afraid of getting your heart broken once more because that is something you couldn’t take.

Y estás dispuesto a hacer lo que sea necesario para asegurarte de que nunca ocurra. Todo lo que quieres hacer es proteger tu corazón de pasar por todo este dolor devastador que ya experimentó.

Estás seguro de que la única forma de mantenerte a salvo es renunciar por completo al amor. Que lo mejor para ti es mantenerte en guardia y actuar sin corazón.

Besides, you are convinced that you’ve missed out on your chance to be happy. If things hadn’t worked out with your ex-boyfriend, why would it be any different with anyone who comes after him?

Estás convencida de que todo el mundo te tratará igual que tu ex y de que todos los hombres son iguales.

¿Adivina qué? No lo son. Y si te permites seguir pensando así, significa que ha ganado.

It means that he has managed to change you and that he succeeded in leaving a permanent mark on you. It means that he has impacted your entire life and that you’ve allowed bitterness and fear to take over you completely. It means that you are still a prisoner of everything he did to you.

Don’t get me wrong—this is not me trying to convince you that letting a new man in will be easy or that you are wrong or weak for being scared because that is a completely natural reaction to all the pain and disappointment you’ve experienced.

Y definitivamente no te estoy diciendo que te lances a una nueva relación sólo para demostrarte a ti mismo que realmente lo has superado.

Sólo te estoy aconsejando no renunciar al amor en conjunto sólo porque amaste a un chico equivocado y no para privarte de la oportunidad de ser feliz sólo porque te rompieron el corazón en el pasado.

Te digo que veas esta relación fallida como una dura lección. Que lo veas como una oportunidad para encontrar a un hombre que realmente esté destinado a ser tuyo para siempre, porque todo sucede por una razón.

Te digo que un hombre que piense que eres digna vendrá along, even though you don’t believe it now. That you’ll find un hombre que curará tu corazón roto and who’ll show you what it means to be loved.

And when he comes, he’ll show you how wrong you were for thinking that everyone is the same. He’ll show you how foolish you were for thinking you should give up on love.

Because true love really does exist. And when it finally happens to you, you’ll see that it is worthy of everything.