Perdónate a ti misma por todos los hombres equivocados que amaste

Seamos sinceros. Cuando miras tu historial de citas, no puedes evitar darte cuenta de que has tenido algunas parejas de mierda, por no decir otra cosa. ¿Pero quién de nosotros no?

It doesn’t matter if you were involved with a serial cheater, a manipulative narcissist, an emotionally immature mama’s boy, a player who led you on, a possessive jealous man, or any other type of toxic guy who made your existence a living hell and ended up breaking your heart in million pieces – the bottom line is the same: Choosing these men wasn’t the best decision of your life.

After everything you’ve been through, it is perfectly natural that you’d like to have the ability to go back in time and do everything different.

You wish you never had met this guy who destroyed you and changed your life for good, or at least that you could get yourself a magic stick that’d magically erase this man from your past.

However, sadly, that’s not possible. And even if it were, it shouldn’t be something you desire, despite all the pain you experienced.

And you know why? Because each one of these men – these heartbreakers – shaped you into the woman you are today.

They served as a valuable lesson, helped you grow, and made you discover some things about yourself you didn’t even know existed.

Most importantly, they showed you your strength, made you realize everything you’re capable of, and made you understand what you don’t want from relationships and life in general.

Así que.., ¿por qué sigues culpándote por tomar todas esas decisiones equivocadas? Al fin y al cabo, fueron decisiones que consideraste acertadas en un momento dado y deberías respaldarlas.

¿Por qué te consideras culpable por la forma en que te trataron? ¿Por qué te consideras responsable de sus fechorías?

Don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I judge you for feeling this way. In fact, I know exactly what kind of thoughts go through your mind.

I know you still can’t believe you were that foolish and didn’t know better.

Te culpas por no hacer caso a tu instinto y seguir tu intuición, cuando estaban intentando decirte que corre por tu vida.

You can’t get over the fact that you didn’t see the signs staring right there in front of you all along.

Que te negaste a quitarte las gafas de sol de color de rosa y afrontar la verdad, por muy dolorosa que fuera.

You can’t help but blame yourself for all the endless second chances you gave away, even though you knew none of these men deserved it in the first place.

For believing they’ll change, despite knowing very well that was utterly impossible.

You regret all the effort you put into relationships that had no future, all the sacrifices you made, and all the times you attempted to stop things from going downhill, regardless of it being crystal clear that they couldn’t be saved.

Sigues machacándote por haberte engañado y creído sus mentiras de mierda, sus excusas vacías y sus falsas promesas. Por conformarte con menos de lo que mereces.

Por malgastar años de tu vida con alguien a quien nunca debiste dejar entrar. Por quererlos más de lo que te querías a ti mismo. Por ser un tonto al permitir que te trataran como lo hicieron.

Sin embargo, I’m here to tell you that you really are not guilty of anything.

After all, you never had bad intentions and everything you did was led by your heart. That’s something you should be proud of.

At the end of the day, you know that you gave your best to everyone who’s ever been a part of your life.

You know you put all of your efforts into making things work and that relationship failures aren’t your fault.

Así que, por favor, ten la fuerza de perdonarte por tus decisiones equivocadas y deja de permitir que tu pasado te siga afectando. 

Don’t think of yourself as predestined for a life of misery when it comes to romance just because you made some mistakes before.

Don’t consider yourself unworthy of another man’s love just because your douchebag of an ex wasn’t giving you enough attention.

If you were the bigger man and managed to let go of resentment against the ones who’ve done you harm, why are you so hard on yourself?

If you mustered the strength to forget about taking revenge against the ones who broke your heart, why can’t you give yourself a break too?

After all, you couldn’t have known what was going to happen.

You’re no magician and you don’t have the ability to predict the future, so the truth is that you couldn’t have known what would happen and protect yourself in time.

Además, fuiste tú quien engañadocontrolados, manipulados, engañados y maltratados de diversas maneras.

Remember that you were the victim here. And no matter what, it’s never the victim’s fault!