Por eso es más difícil superar a un casi que a un ex

Las rupturas nunca son fáciles para ninguno de los implicados. Terminar con alguien a quien quieres mucho es una de las cosas más dolorosas que existen.

Tu corazón se rompe en mil pedazos, y no hay nada que puedas hacer al respecto.

Pero, ¿y si rompes con alguien con quien nunca tuviste una relación?

What about cutting ties with a man who was never your official boyfriend and about finally accepting that this almost isn’t leading you anywhere?

How many times have you heard that you can’t lose someone you never had?

That you don’t have the right to suffer for someone who was never yours and that you can’t cry over a relationship which was never real?

Pues yo lo califico de gilipollez. La verdad es que un desamor es una angustia.

It doesn’t matter if it was caused by someone you called your boyfriend or by someone whose presence in your life never had a label.

Even so, sometimes it is even harder to get over an almost ex than a real ex. I should know because this is exactly what I’ve been through.

When you end things with your almost ex, it never happens because you’ve gotten tired of him or because the butterflies in your stomach are gone.

It doesn’t happen because your relationship has gotten into a rut or because you feel like you’ve had enough of being committed to the other person.

You see, when you are crying over your almost, you don’t only suffer because you miss them.

You don’t only lament over all the things you guys have been through together and over all the memories you had which will never happen again.

When you are trying to get over someone you could have never truly called yours, you are also getting over all the things that might have happened between the two of you but didn’t and over all the potential you guys could’ve had as a couple.

Over all the should haves: over all the places you didn’t visit, over all the anniversaries you’ll never celebrate, over all the memories you didn’t have the chance to create together, over all the missed opportunities, and over everything you guys didn’t become.

You are also getting over the fact that you’ll never know how it would be to hold this man’s hand in public, how it would be to be his plus one and how it would feel to really be a part of his life.

Estás llorando por el cierre you’ll never get, over all the explanations you are still waiting for, and over all the questions that were left unanswered.

Cuando intentas pasar página con tu casi ex, al mismo tiempo intentas volver a quererte a ti misma.

Intentas ahuyentar todos los pensamientos de que no estás hecha para ser amada, las preguntas de por qué nunca fuiste suficiente para que él te amara de verdad, y todas las dudas e inseguridades que te trajo esta relación.

You are crying over the fact that you guys failed before even trying and because you’ll never know if your relationship might have succeeded if you were just brave enough to give it a shot.

Over the fact that you’ll never find out if a relationship with this man would have made you happy.

So, please don’t ever beat yourself up for suffering over a man whom you nunca salí.

Don’t feel like a fool for lamenting the relationship that never existed because the truth is that it was more than real for you.

Remember that you don’t owe any explanation to anyone besides yourself.

You don’t have to look for justification for the fact that you need this long to get over a man who wasn’t your boyfriend nor should you beat yourself up for all the emotions you are feeling.

La verdad es que tienes derecho a sufrir tanto como la chica de al lado.

Tienes derecho a hacer las cosas a su ritmo y a tomarte el tiempo que necesites para curarte.