Ecco perché è più difficile dimenticare un quasi che un ex

Le rotture non sono mai facili per nessuna delle persone coinvolte. La fine di una relazione con una persona a cui si tiene profondamente è una delle cose più dolorose che esistano.

Il vostro cuore si frantuma in un milione di pezzi e non c'è nulla che possiate fare.

Ma che dire della rottura con una persona con cui non si è mai avuta una relazione?

What about cutting ties with a man who was never your official boyfriend and about finally accepting that this almost isn’t leading you anywhere?

How many times have you heard that you can’t lose someone you never had?

That you don’t have the right to suffer for someone who was never yours and that you can’t cry over a relationship which was never real?

Ebbene, io la chiamo "stronzata". La verità è che un crepacuore è un colpo al cuore.

It doesn’t matter if it was caused by someone you called your boyfriend or by someone whose presence in your life never had a label.

Even so, sometimes it is even harder to get over an almost ex than a real ex. I should know because this is exactly what I’ve been through.

When you end things with your almost ex, it never happens because you’ve gotten tired of him or because the butterflies in your stomach are gone.

It doesn’t happen because your relationship has gotten into a rut or because you feel like you’ve had enough of being committed to the other person.

You see, when you are crying over your almost, you don’t only suffer because you miss them.

You don’t only lament over all the things you guys have been through together and over all the memories you had which will never happen again.

When you are trying to get over someone you could have never truly called yours, you are also getting over all the things that might have happened between the two of you but didn’t and over all the potential you guys could’ve had as a couple.

Over all the should haves: over all the places you didn’t visit, over all the anniversaries you’ll never celebrate, over all the memories you didn’t have the chance to create together, over all the missed opportunities, and over everything you guys didn’t become.

You are also getting over the fact that you’ll never know how it would be to hold this man’s hand in public, how it would be to be his plus one and how it would feel to really be a part of his life.

Stai piangendo per il chiusura you’ll never get, over all the explanations you are still waiting for, and over all the questions that were left unanswered.

Quando cercate di dimenticare il vostro quasi ex, cercate allo stesso tempo di amare di nuovo voi stessi.

State cercando di scacciare tutti i pensieri sul fatto che non siete destinati a essere amati, le domande sul perché non siete mai stati abbastanza perché lui vi ami davvero, e tutti i dubbi e le insicurezze che questa relazione vi ha portato.

You are crying over the fact that you guys failed before even trying and because you’ll never know if your relationship might have succeeded if you were just brave enough to give it a shot.

Over the fact that you’ll never find out if a relationship with this man would have made you happy.

So, please don’t ever beat yourself up for suffering over a man whom you mai frequentato.

Don’t feel like a fool for lamenting the relationship that never existed because the truth is that it was more than real for you.

Remember that you don’t owe any explanation to anyone besides yourself.

You don’t have to look for justification for the fact that you need this long to get over a man who wasn’t your boyfriend nor should you beat yourself up for all the emotions you are feeling.

La verità è che avete il diritto di soffrire tanto quanto una ragazza qualsiasi.

Avete il diritto di fare le cose al vostro ritmo e di prendervi tutto il tempo necessario per guarire.