É por isso que é mais difícil esquecer um quase do que um ex

As separações nunca são fáceis para nenhuma das pessoas envolvidas. Terminar com alguém de quem se gosta muito é uma das coisas mais dolorosas que existem.

O teu coração parte-se num milhão de pedaços e não há nada que possas fazer.

Mas o que dizer de acabar com alguém com quem nunca se teve uma relação?

What about cutting ties with a man who was never your official boyfriend and about finally accepting that this almost isn’t leading you anywhere?

How many times have you heard that you can’t lose someone you never had?

That you don’t have the right to suffer for someone who was never yours and that you can’t cry over a relationship which was never real?

Bem, eu chamo-lhe treta. A verdade é que um desgosto é um desgosto.

It doesn’t matter if it was caused by someone you called your boyfriend or by someone whose presence in your life never had a label.

Even so, sometimes it is even harder to get over an almost ex than a real ex. I should know because this is exactly what I’ve been through.

When you end things with your almost ex, it never happens because you’ve gotten tired of him or because the butterflies in your stomach are gone.

It doesn’t happen because your relationship has gotten into a rut or because you feel like you’ve had enough of being committed to the other person.

You see, when you are crying over your almost, you don’t only suffer because you miss them.

You don’t only lament over all the things you guys have been through together and over all the memories you had which will never happen again.

When you are trying to get over someone you could have never truly called yours, you are also getting over all the things that might have happened between the two of you but didn’t and over all the potential you guys could’ve had as a couple.

Over all the should haves: over all the places you didn’t visit, over all the anniversaries you’ll never celebrate, over all the memories you didn’t have the chance to create together, over all the missed opportunities, and over everything you guys didn’t become.

You are also getting over the fact that you’ll never know how it would be to hold this man’s hand in public, how it would be to be his plus one and how it would feel to really be a part of his life.

Está a chorar sobre o encerramento you’ll never get, over all the explanations you are still waiting for, and over all the questions that were left unanswered.

Quando está a tentar ultrapassar o seu quase ex, está ao mesmo tempo a tentar amar-se de novo.

Está a tentar afastar todos os pensamentos de que não foi feita para ser amada, as perguntas sobre o porquê de nunca ter sido suficiente para que ele a amasse de verdade, e todas as dúvidas e inseguranças que esta relação lhe trouxe.

You are crying over the fact that you guys failed before even trying and because you’ll never know if your relationship might have succeeded if you were just brave enough to give it a shot.

Over the fact that you’ll never find out if a relationship with this man would have made you happy.

So, please don’t ever beat yourself up for suffering over a man whom you nunca namorou.

Don’t feel like a fool for lamenting the relationship that never existed because the truth is that it was more than real for you.

Remember that you don’t owe any explanation to anyone besides yourself.

You don’t have to look for justification for the fact that you need this long to get over a man who wasn’t your boyfriend nor should you beat yourself up for all the emotions you are feeling.

A verdade é que tens o direito de sofrer tanto como qualquer outra rapariga.

Tem o direito de fazer as coisas ao seu próprio ritmo e de levar o tempo que precisar para sarar.