¿Por qué los chicos dejan de enviar mensajes y vuelven a hacerlo? 19 razones

Hmm… Por qué los chicos dejan de enviar mensajes de texto and then start again? I’m sure it all starts like this:

¡Felicidades! You’ve been texting for weeks/months now and you’re 99% sure your relationship is on its way to becoming something more. Y entonces ¡BUM!

Ya no te responde. Ha dejado de enviarte mensajes de repente sin decirte por qué, para que sepas si debes alarmarte o tomártelo a la ligera.

Como mujer, seguro que sé que el pánico es lo primero que nos viene a la cabeza en estas situaciones. I mean, it’s really a BIG DEAL when someone you really like suddenly stops texting you for no reason!

Do you know what’s even more confusing? Cuando empieza a enviarte mensajes de nuevo después de un cierto tiempo (tiempo que solemos pasar pensando demasiado y dramatizando).

Yes, in our head there isn’t one valid reason for such a selfish act but today, we’ll try to look at things from a different perspective.

Today we’ll answer the famous question: Why do guys stop texting and then start again? Take a deep breath and let’s get to work! ?

¿Por qué los chicos dejan de enviar mensajes y vuelven a hacerlo?

I would be more than happy if there was only one reason why guys stop texting and then start texting you again. Unfortunately, there is a list of common reasons why they do that. I’m sure the following reasons will bring you some clarity:

1. He’s mentally preoccupied with other things

One of the most common reasons why guys suddenly stop texting is that they are bad at multitasking! I can confirm the validity of this statement because the guy I’m seeing right now is going through this.

He’s preoccupied with other things and that’s why we no longer text as frequently as we did before. A veces, me manda mensajes al cabo de dos o tres días, o incluso de una semana.

He admitted that he’s really bad at multitasking and he needs to redirect all his focus on the thing he’s doing at the moment. He also told me that, once he’s done with it, he’ll go back to his normal texting behavior. ?

2. He’s scared of how much he likes you

¿Te preocupa su hábitos de envío de mensajes? Puede que esté preocupado por sus sentimientos. Sus altos niveles de afecto hacia ti en realidad lo asustan.

Yup, that’s actually possible. There are guys who are afraid of their feelings because vulnerability is not their strongest attribute. They’re simply not ready to admit to themselves that they are crazy about you.

Por eso, optan por ignorarte durante un tiempo y luego vuelven. Muy molesto, estoy de acuerdo.

3. He’s testing you

Why do guys stop texting for a few days, back off, and then start texting you again? It could be that he’s actually testing you. Espera, ¿por qué haría eso?

Because he’s not sure whether you like him or not. Then, why doesn’t he simply ask you? Porque los hombres. ?

So, if you show concern when he stops texting you, he’ll take this as confirmation that you like him. He knows that a woman who is not interested in a man would never bother about him not texting her any longer.

4. Jugar duro para conseguirlo

We all know that playing hard to get is primarily a woman’s sport but men are not excluded either.

¿Se está haciendo el duro? ¿Cree que no enviarte mensajes durante unos días hará que le persigas?

Well, he’s probably right about it. We women are really suckers for men who shower us with attention and then make us beg for it.

If he’s playing hard to get, you can do the same! Fortunately, two can play this game and it’s only a matter of time before someone will admit that they’ve had enough. That’s when the real game begins!

5. He’s busy texting others

Or maybe the reason why he’s ghosting you is that he’s busy texting other ladies. That and him being a player are the two worst reasons for his selective texting.

Let’s say that he no longer texts you because he suffers from the el síndrome de la hierba más verde.

In other words, he thinks there are more attractive and prettier women out there and he doesn’t want to miss out.

Because of that, he’s sitting on multiple chairs until he falls down. Luego se levanta de nuevo y empieza a mandarte mensajes otra vez. El consejo del día: Don’t be anyone’s second choice.

6. Por algo que hiciste

¿Por qué los chicos dejan de enviar mensajes y luego vuelven a hacerlo? Puede que el motivo seas tú. Quizá le dijiste algo que le enfadó o le insultaste involuntariamente.

Literally, it could be anything, and since I’m not a seer by profession, you’ll have to find the reason on your own. You’ll do that by evaluating previous communication and any arguments that you might have had.

If you find out that you’re the reason why he stopped texting you, make sure to apologize to him. And remember that this is totally okay. We all make mistakes because we’re human beings, right?

7. Quiere ir un poco más despacio

Every single one of us has our own pace when it comes to dating and relationships. What’s fast for him may not be fast for you and vice versa.

Así que una de las razones por las que dejó de enviar mensajes de texto es que decidió ir más despacio con los mensajes de texto y todo eso.

Además, presta atención a los tiempos. Un chico nuevo que conocí solía dejar de enviar mensajes a mitad de la conversación. Cuando le pregunté por qué lo hacía, me dijo que quería ir más despacio.

8. Se te acabaron los temas interesantes

“He texted me every day, and then he stopped.” What’s up with this guy? Why did he suddenly decide to ghost you after so many interesting conversations you had?

Puede que simplemente se te acaben las cosas interesantes y emocionantes de las que hablar. Si a tu chico no le gustan las conversaciones triviales, lo entiendo perfectamente.

Tal vez algunos textos coquetos will tickle his imagination and you’ll no longer have to worry about him stopping texting you.

9. Necesita espacio

¿Necesita espacio? Maybe that’s the reason why he decided not to text you for a couple of days.

Ten en cuenta que no todos los hombres hacen esto cuando necesitan espacio. Algunos te lo dicen de verdad (como uno de mis amigos).

Shout out to all those guys who tell honestly what’s on their minds!

10. He’s just not that into you

I always say: If he’s not that into you, his texting behavior will show it.

Or maybe you went on a date but it didn’t go well. If that’s the case with you, then you know he’s just not that into you.

And yes, he’s kind of a coward for not telling you honestly how he feels but he chooses to ghost you. That’s why you’re better off without him anyway.

11. Quiere que anheles su presencia

¿Qué significa que un chico deje de enviarte mensajes todos los días? Podría significar que quiere que le eches de menos.

Because of that, he no longer texts you, and he’s no longer responsive on social media (he no longer likes your posts) and things like that. Hace todo esto para que anheles su presencia.

He wants you to miss him because he’s either unsure about your feelings for him or he’s seeking attention.

12. He’s unsure of your compatibility

“Dejó de mandarme mensajes.” “I have no idea why and what I should do about it.” Maybe you should give him some time because he might be unsure of your compatibility.

Do you think that you’re compatible? Is there any reason why he would think otherwise?

I’ve noticed that, when men are unsure of their feelings or your overall compatibility, they immediately pull back.

Van a pasar tiempo en su cueva de hombres para aclarar las cosas. After doing that, they either text you back or subtly let you know that you’re simply not meant for each other.

13. Intentos de validación y búsqueda de atención

¿Sabes qué tipo de hombres suelen buscar validación y atención? Hombres con baja autoestima. Chicos que buscan constantemente la atención femenina puede ser una verdadera carga.

Están literalmente dispuestos a hacer cualquier cosa para obtener una dosis de validación y atención de los demás. No mandarte un mensaje y volver a mandártelo al cabo de un tiempo es uno de sus métodos favoritos para llamar la atención.

To us, it’s one of the most annoying things we have to deal with but that’s just how it goes. We’re talking about a vicious cycle that isn’t easy to break.

I’m talking about one of the verdades psicológicas sobre el ghosting by Psychology Today: “People who are ghosted become more likely to do the same to someone else.”

14. He’s intimidated by you

Is it possible that he doesn’t text you back because he feels intimidated by you? Sure. There are many guys nowadays who feel intimidated by a successful and independent woman.

Here’s what I have to say to them: “If you feel intimidated by me, then you definitely don’t deserve me. If you play texting games with me, I won’t be interested in you.”

Only weak men are intimidated by powerful women. Don’t fall to their level. Find a man who is strong enough not to be intimidated; someone who is proud of you.

15. He’s bad at texting

¿Por qué los chicos dejan de enviar mensajes y luego vuelven a hacerlo? Mi primer encuentro virtual con un chico que es malo enviando mensajes de texto was truly annoying. I thought the guy didn’t like me at all!

¿Cómo puede gustarte alguien y no tener ganas de mandarle un mensaje? A mí me parece contradictorio, pero para ellos tiene mucho sentido.

If that’s what’s happening to you at the moment, then face-to-face communication or phone calls are great alternatives.

Whatever you do, just don’t force him to text you back because this can only make things worse.

16. He wants to see how you’ll react

Seriously? Are you telling me that he wants to see how my reaction will be once he stops texting me? I bet that’s what you’re thinking right now. ?

¿Qué significa que un chico deje de enviarte mensajes? Sometimes it means that he wants to see whether you’ll become overly needy or clingy.

When he no longer sends you good morning texts or those random texts he used to send you, he wants to see whether you’ll notice it. He wants to see how you’ll cope with it.

¿Seguirás adelante inmediatamente? ¿Te enfadarás con él? ¿O te desesperarás?

Como siempre, la elección es suya.

17. Quiere ser misterioso

Why do guys text less after a while? Well, one of the reasons is that they want to add some mystery to the equation. Perhaps he’s scared that he’ll start boring you; hence all those disappearing acts.

I know this is one of the weirdest reasons why a guy would stop texting you, but it’s definitely one of the possible reasons.

Advice to guys: There are other ways to preserve the mystery. You don’t need to ghost a woman in order to get her attention.

I hope they’ll understand the absurdity of their actions.

18. Indisponibilidad emocional

You’re being ghosted because he’s emotionally unavailabley, por lo tanto, no está preparado para algo serio.

He’s not ready for a new relationship, he has some major overthinking sessions in the background, and that’s when he decides to stop contacting you.

I’ve had a fair share of dealing with emotionally unavailable guys and my only advice to you would be: CORRE POR TU VIDA.

Don’t even think of texting him until he figures out exactly what he wants at the moment. If he’s not ready for something serious at the moment, don’t wait for him.

19. He’s a player

¿Por qué los chicos dejan de enviar mensajes y luego vuelven a hacerlo? ¿Te enviaría un jugador un mensaje de texto todos los días?

Si he’s playing mind games with you, chances are he’ll text you intensely in one moment, and in the other, he’ll ignore you completely.

Muchas mujeres acaban enviando mensajes a un jugador sin ni siquiera saberlo. Una cosa es segura: If you’re dealing with a player, heartbreak is inevitable.

This kind of guy will text you only when it’s convenient for him because he doesn’t care about other people’s feelings. You deserve better.

Qué hacer cuando deja de enviarte mensajes de texto

Bombarding him with “I love you” texts is not a solution. Mensajes dobles tampoco es una solución, ya que esto podría dar lugar a un montón de mensajes de texto sin respuesta de él.

I won’t make this complicated because there’s no need for that. Instead of offering you a list of possible things you could do when he stops texting you, I’ll summarize it all into two choices:

• Talk to him.

Todos sabemos que una comunicación sana es la clave para evitar dramas. You’re two adults and if your affection is mutual, I don’t see a reason why you couldn’t solve this through an honest and open conversation.

Dile lo que piensas de que ignore tus mensajes. Se lo dije a un chico y me dio toda la razón. Lo entendió.

So, what you need to do is let him know what he’s doing is just not right (unless he has a valid explanation for it). After you’re done talking, then it’s up to him how he’ll take it.

¿Decidirá cambiar? ¿Será capaz de llegar a un acuerdo?

Por supuesto, esto depende en gran medida de los niveles de su afecto hacia ti. Créeme, si de verdad le importas, hará lo que sea para hacerte feliz. (En realidad no cualquier cosa, pero me entiendes).

• Walk away from him.

If talking to him doesn’t bear fruit and his reasons for ghosting you are not valid, then consider walking away from him. You don’t deserve to be someone’s second choice.

Te mereces un hombre que siempre encuentre tiempo para responderte. Un hombre que no te preocupe ni te haga pensar demasiado. Merece la pena quedarse con un hombre así.

If he stops texting you for no apparent reason, his message to you is very clear: “I stopped texting you because I don’t really care about how this will make you feel.”

Don’t give him the benefit to stop texting you whenever he wants. Instead, marcharse y haz que suplique tu atención.

¿Por qué me ha vuelto a enviar mensajes de repente?

The most common reason why guys suddenly text you again is that they’re interested in what’s going on in your life. They want to know about your love life, future plans, you name it. They text you again to see whether they have a chance with you or because they’re legit players.

Dicho esto, aquí hay dos sub-razones por las que los chicos de repente te vuelven a mandar mensajes:

• Because he likes you.

Obviamente, un chico al que le gustas te enviará un mensaje porque le gustas y quiere formar parte de tu vida.

Depending on the reasons why he stopped texting you, now he wants to see whether you’re still available. More importantly, he wants to see whether you’re still interested in him.

If you’re interested in him, then feel free to text him back. Still, you shouldn’t ignore the fact that he ignored you for some time. Pídele que justifique su comportamiento y luego decide si debes o no darle una segunda oportunidad.

• Because he’s playing with you.

Another reason why a guy might text you again is that he’s playing games with you. He doesn’t like you but he needs you to like him.

¿Es un narcisista disfrazado?? It’s definitely not excluded. What he’s doing is soplando frío y calor. Te da lo suficiente para mantenerte interesado y luego desaparece.

As you’re craving his presence, he comes back again. I’m pretty sure every single woman on the planet is sick and tired of such behavior from men. Yo primero.

If he’s playing with you, don’t think twice about cutting off all communication because life is too short to be surrounded by gente tóxica.

No se preocupe

Le ruego que no se preocupe demasiado por esta cuestión, “Why do guys stop texting and then start again?” Let me explain…

If he likes you, he will text you back or he will have a valid explanation why he didn’t. If he isn’t into you or he’s a player, he will text you when it’s convenient for him and he won’t care about how you feel.

En lugar de preocuparte por los chicos que dejan de mandarte mensajes y luego vuelven a empezar, preocúpate por tu bienestar. Make sure that you’re living your life to the fullest and everything else will fall into place (including your love life).

Y sí, te mereces que te contesten and if he doesn’t know it, then he’s not worthy of being with you. It’s as simple as that.