¿Qué atrae a una mujer de un hombre a primera vista? 14 puntos clave
If you asked ten women to think of the first thing they notice in a man, you’d probably get eight or nine different answers. But is it really that complicated to find out what attracts a woman to a man at first sight?
Cada mujer te dará una respuesta distinta porque no hay dos mujeres iguales, así que a cada una le atraen cosas y cualidades diferentes. A algunas les gustan los chicos empollones, a otras los deportistas; las hay a las que les gustan los chicos guapos y las que prefieren los de tipo serio.
Pero todas las mujeres tienen algo en común: a todas les gusta un tipo auténtico que aprovecha al máximo lo que tiene y cuya compañía disfrutan. Here’s how you can become a man who’s attractive to women at first sight.
¿Qué atrae a una mujer de un hombre a primera vista?
The type of person someone finds attractive depends on their taste, dating history, age, sexual preferences, lifestyle – everything you can think of influences what we’re attracted to.
Most people aren’t so superficial as to be attracted to nothing but looks, but even to those who are, there’s always something that makes one good-looking person more attractive than another.
What attracts a woman to a man at first sight? Women like men who have that “something” that’s difficult to put into words, but what is it? It’s a combination of qualities that together create a whole that’s more than the sum of its parts and lead to atracción magnética entre dos personas.
The good news is, most of those qualities are something a man can work on and improve. So let’s dive in.
1. Cara
Let’s get it out of the way: your face is the make-or-break quality when it comes to attraction. En lo primero que se fija una mujer de un chico es en su cara. If she likes your face, you’re halfway there.
So how not to get eliminated because of your face? You’re born with it, and short of going under the knife, what can you do with it? Puedes mostrarle la persona que hay detrás de la cara. If your face isn’t immediately attractive to her, you’ll have to get her to give you a second glance.
¿Por qué tu cara es lo más importante?
Think about a girl you like – her face is probably the first thing that comes to mind. Is her face cute, or elegant, or striking, or does she have that girl-next-door kind of look? It’s not unusual to like a girl’s features, but the reason why you prefer her face is that it leaves a certain impression.
Las chicas se fijan en tu cara porque habla de quién eres. Features alone aren’t what makes a girl like a guy, but the impression his face makes.
What if there’s a discrepancy between what you’re like and what your face looks like? Do you have a resting angry face, but you wouldn’t hurt a fly?
Si este es el caso, puedes relajar la cara o sonreír más o tratar de curar tu mirada inexpresiva de alguna manera, pero it’s better to be yourself and give women the benefit of the doubt that they won’t judge you until they get to know you.
If your face doesn’t immediately show off your qualities, let her know what you’re like in other ways.
2. Sonríe
A smile can change a scary face into a kind one, but if it’s not genuine, it can also make you look even scarier. So don’t fake a smile! There’s nothing more inviting than a real, warm smile.
The sight of a dimple can make a girl feel the butterflies in her stomach and twirl her hair while smiling back at you. Even if you think your smile is goofy, don’t suppress it. Cuando sonríes, te vuelves más atractivo, pero también sonreír te hace sentir más feliz.
The key to a winsome smile is that it must be inspired by your real feelings. The smile that makes all the ladies swoon is one that makes your eyes scrunch, glittering with joy, the corners of your mouth lifting helplessly as you look at her. A fake smile makes you look like 😬️
It doesn’t have to be a huge, toothy smile, but it has to come from the heart. How to achieve that? Be present in the moment. Enjoy being where you are. Look at her and feel grateful that you get to do so. Feel happy in your skin – you’re an attractive guy who likes his life and there’s an amazing woman in front of you.
3. Ojos
Women immediately notice your eyes because that’s where it’s all happening: your mood, your feelings, your thoughts; it’s all in your eyes. Your eyes tell her what you’re like and reveal your personality more than anything else.
Have you ever wondered why some people seem cold and others seem inviting and friendly? Even if she can’t tell what’s so magnetic about your eyes, she’ll be drawn to them if you let your eyes show who you are.
El contacto visual es donde atracción emocional empieza. When you look into her eyes, you show her what you feel and what you want. She’s drawn to the person she sees in your eyes. Attraction is not about the shape or the color of your eyes but about what looking into your eyes reveals to her.
4. Grooming
Sólo tienes una oportunidad para causar una primera impresión, y nunca sabes cuándo aparecerá a la vuelta de la esquina la chica de tus sueños. If you always look your best, you don’t risk blowing your one chance of making her fall for you.
I’m not saying that you should wear your best clothes all the time or always have perfect hair. What I mean is that you should consistently take care of your grooming so that you’re never a mess. Las mujeres quieren hombres que cuiden de sí mismos.
Tener el mejor aspecto posible significa cosas diferentes para cada persona, pero 10 de cada 10 mujeres están de acuerdo en que la limpieza es necesaria.
Fundamentos del autocuidado
This is basic, so I hope you already know, but being a rugged, smelly guy isn’t attractive. Shower daily. Always wear clean clothes. Take care of your teeth meticulously.
A algunas mujeres les gusta la barba, otras prefieren un look bien afeitado, pero a todas les gusta que cuides tu vello facial. Mantén el orden. Córtate las uñas y cuida tu piel.
Deshazte de la idea de que el cuidado de la piel es sólo cosa de mujeres. To keep your skin healthy, at least use a cleanser and moisturizer daily, and if you want to make yourself look good – and feel good! – include other products as well.
Ser meticuloso con tu aseo personal hará que te veas mejor, pero también que aprendas a apreciarte más. Self-care raises self-esteem, and when you look at yourself in the mirror and know that you’ve made an effort, it will give you confidence.
5. Detalles sexys
There are a few little things women notice about men that aren’t crucial when it comes to attraction but that make a guy extra sexy. These little details contribute to his sex appeal, but they’re really just a cherry on top.
In other words, if a guy is obnoxious and disrespectful, they won’t give him any points, but if he’s a good guy who makes an effort, they can catapult him to the next level of attractiveness.
Aroma
This could have been included in the grooming section, but it’s separate because it’s a step above basic self-care and something women specifically find attractive in a man. Un hombre que huele bien puede hacer que una mujer se desmaye.
When a guy has a sexy scent, a girl notices it immediately. Find a cologne or perfume you like and up your sexiness game by leaps and bounds! Just please don’t forget that, in the case of scent, less is more, so go easy and be subtle.
Cabello
Hair is one of the things women notice as soon as they see a guy. Some women don’t care about what your hair looks like exactly and others have strong preferences, but all of them notice whether or not you’re taking care of your hair.
Un peinado que te siente bien, bien cuidado y mantenido, contribuye en gran medida a la impresión que das. Even if that hairstyle is no hair at all, if you carry it with confidence and keep it neat, your hair – or lack thereof – is a part of your style and vibe.
Manos
Guys, I don’t know if this is a secret we’re keeping from you or if you know, but your hands make girls bite their lips and wonder how those hands feel. Puedes estar seguro de que una mujer se fijará en tus manos incluso antes de vuestra primera cita.
Your hands can be big or small, soft or rough, elegant or stubby – there are as many preferences as there are girls, but trust me when I say that girls are going to like your hands regardless of their type. Keep your fingernails clean and let her see your hands, and that’s it!
Voz
A las chicas les encantan los chicos con voz sexy y la forma en que suenas contribuye a tu atractivo más de lo que crees. Piensa en alguien con una voz extraordinaria y piensa en la impresión que causaría si hablara de una forma completamente distinta.
¿Cómo tener una voz sexy? Controla el volumen, baja el ritmo, relájate. Don’t gasp for air – make a pause when you run out of breath. You don’t need to pretend that your voice is deeper or smoother than it is; just use your voice intentionally.
6. Cuerpo
Los rasgos de personalidad son una parte crucial de la atracción, pero sería falso ignorar que la atracción física es importante in the same amount. Both of these types of attraction can be improved if you work on yourself, so don’t worry if you’re not happy with your physical features.
Lots of men have the wrong picture of what girls find attractive when it comes to a guy’s body. Un cachas de mandíbula cuadrada, fornido de GQ o cualquier otro estereotipo que los hombres crean que atrae a las mujeres no tiene nada que ver con el tipo de hombre que atrae a la mayoría de las mujeres.
Women prefer regular guys who treat them well. That’s all there is to it.
Of course, women like guys who look good and take care of their bodies, but you don’t have to be a fitness model to be attractive. If you respect your body and treat it well, it shows not only in the way you look but also in your posture and the way you carry yourself.
Cuida tu aspecto todo lo que puedas y las mujeres se interesarán por ti. As I mentioned in the beginning, it’s all about the effort.
7. Altura
Height. A sore subject for many men. The never-ending discussion people are always obsessing over. I’m sure you’ve heard a variation of “If you’re under 6’, don’t apply.” Height is to men what weight is to women: the one thing people feel it’s okay to hate on.
So let me tell you the same thing I tell chubby girls who have been told they’d be cute if they lost a little weight: si te gusta alguien y te dice que esta única cosa importa más que todo lo demás de ti, esa persona estaría equivocada para ti aunque fueras más delgado o más alto.
Incluí la altura como algo en lo que se fijan las mujeres por la razón por qué se dan cuenta.
¿Por qué algunas mujeres sólo ¿Te atraen los chicos altos?
The standard answers you’ll hear are: because his size makes him seem physically stronger and more capable of protecting them, so they feel safe. Or, they like to feel delicate and feminine next to their men.
Pero déjame decirte la verdad. La mayoría de las chicas que sólo como los chicos más altos que ellos creen en estereotipos. She’s been taught that the guy is supposed to be taller than the girl, and she’s not questioning it.
A girl who has a very strict preference for tall guys isn’t thinking about you as an individual. It has far less to do with atracción sexual de lo que parece.
So don’t let your height stop you from approaching a woman. If you’re a similar height to hers, taller or shorter, go for it. If she rejects you for something as superficial as your height, it’s her loss and you’ve dodged a bullet.
If your height is a deal-breaker, what are this girl’s priorities? You don’t need that in your life.
8. Estilo
Obviously, a guy in a wrinkled t-shirt and stained jeans that don’t fit him well can hardly be attractive, but there’s no need to wear a suit everywhere you go or only own designer pieces. Puedes hacer lo que quieras siempre que sigas el mínimo de estilo: ropa limpia, cuidada y que te quede bien.
If you’re rolling your eyes because you’re already there and más allá de, then you know the impact your style can have and the impression it makes. Your clothes aren’t there only to keep you warm and non-naked; they also send a message.
Tu atuendo anuncia quién eres. Your dressing sense is how you present yourself to the world. A woman can tell a lot from your clothes, so it’s natural that they are crucial in attraction.
Cuando una mujer te mira, se da cuenta por tu atuendo del esfuerzo que dedicas al cuidado de ti mismo y a tu presentación; si quieres ser percibido como guay, moderno, accesible, profesional, estricto, elegante, etc.
So carefully consider your style and the message you want it to convey – it can be just the thing you need to become more attractive.
9. Vibe
What’s your vibe? Una vibración es una impresión general que dejas. The first time a woman sets her eyes on you, she won’t notice any details about you unless they’re very prominent, but she’ll be able to say what vibe you give off.
Even if it sounds very vague, a guy’s vibe is one of the cosas que atraen a una mujer de un hombre. En general, it’s the energy you give out, the way you affect others and the kind of person you seem to be at first sight.
Your vibe can be positive, negative or neutral, and not everyone is drawn to the same one. For example, when someone meets you, they might say you seem friendly, serious, cool, angry or creepy. Some people are drawn to someone who’s chill, while others are more attracted to someone who’s energetic.
Needless to say, your vibe can be the complete opposite of what you’re like, but you can work on changing that. Para enviar más vibraciones positivas, empieza por pensar en positivo. Esto puede parecer una tontería, pero pruébalo.
El pensamiento positivo incluye la gratitud por todo lo que tienes en la vida, no exagerar ni restar importancia a tus logros ni ser demasiado modesto o arrogante, ser consciente del momento presente y encontrar algo positivo en cada situación.
10. Lenguaje corporal
A man’s body language gets a woman’s attention because it’s the best indicator of how he feels about himself, about her and about the situation. Even if she’s unaware of the meanings of certain body language signs, she’ll still be able to read him because body language is universal.
If you stand tall using confident body language, you’ll leave a much different impression than if you’re slouching and looking at your feet. If you’re facing away from her and never glance at her, she won’t be able to notice your interest in her. If you’re tapping your foot and looking at your watch, she’ll think you don’t want to be there.
A lot has been written about body language of attraction, and it can’t hurt to learn a little bit about it. Here are the lenguaje corporal señales de que le gustas para empezar, y siga explorando este tema si despierta su interés.
11. Sentido del humor
Are you shocked that this is included on the list? Of course not. It’s common knowledge that a el buen sentido del humor es sexy, but what to do if you’re not funny? How to make her laugh and make her eyes sparkle when you’re not witty and capable of clever comebacks?
• The first step to developing a funny bone is figuring out lo que te hace reír. Is it slapstick? Do you like unexpected twists? What’s your favorite funny movie? Is it puns that get you going?
• Next, intenta encontrar algo divertido en cada situación. Por ejemplo, si derramas la bebida, puedes enfadarte y avergonzarte o puedes reírte de ello. Piensa por qué puede ser divertida esa situación.
• Don’t think that it’s necessary to have well-crafted jokes to be funny. Just seguir construyendo sobre la situación y continuar viéndola de forma relajada. Cada vez que un chico me ha hecho reír hasta llorar ha sido con una sola palabra que ha hecho que toda la tonta situación cerrara el círculo.
- Don’t take yourself seriously. This is really important if you want to be funny. Ego will sap all humor out of the conversation, but if you’re ready to laugh at your expense, people will laugh with you, not at you.
You also need to realize that being funny isn’t about laughing at other people and feeling superior. If your sense of humor is about stereotypes and prejudice, you should invest time in thinking about why this is so. I assure you that no woman finds sexist jokes funny.
12. Actitud
Don’t believe what you’re told by guys who can’t get girls – women don’t prefer jerks. If you placed two identical guys in front of any woman and one of them was kind and the other treated them like dirt, she wouldn’t pick the mean one.
La amabilidad te hace más atractivo. Don’t confuse kindness with niceness, though. Being nice doesn’t always mean being kind, and guys who like to brag about being nice often expect something in return.
Sinceridad en lo que haces y en cómo te acercas a ella es otra cualidad atractiva que debes tener. Da lo mejor de ti en todo y pon todo tu corazón en ello para que brille la belleza de tu personalidad. La deshonestidad es una de las rasgos de personalidad que desaniman para todas las mujeres.
Tener modales y mostrar respeto, don’t judge her and others and adopt a positive attitude for a massive upgrade in attractiveness – showing what’s inside makes you sexier.
13. Confianza
¿Tenemos que decir siquiera que la confianza es una cualidad que las mujeres encuentran atractiva? Confident men are interesting to women because they aren’t afraid. A lack of confidence stems from feeling like somehow you’re not good enough for something you want to do.
A refuerza tu confianzaprimero conócete a ti mismo y aprende a gustarte. Then be authentic and passionate and live your life the way you want to live it. Your mental health will improve and your attractiveness will skyrocket as soon as you realize that you’re as valuable and worthy as everyone else.
La otra cara de la moneda es la arrogancia. Evitar caer en la prepotencia and feeling better than others because that’s even more off-putting than a lack of self-esteem.
14. Aproximación
¿Recuerdas que en la introducción mencioné que las mujeres se enamoran de hombres cuya compañía disfrutan? Bueno, esto es todo.
Make her feel good, and she’ll be attracted to you. If you show interest in a woman and make her feel good around you, she’ll be more attracted to you than if you were playing cool and ignoring her. Trying to impress women is far less effective than trying to get to know them.
Muchas de las cosas que los hombres pueden hacer para que las mujeres se sientan cómodas están relacionadas con las habilidades comunicativas. Dedícale tu atención, piensa antes de hablar, escucha lo que tiene que decir, hazle preguntas reflexivas, participa en conversaciones interesantes.
Don’t act arrogant or be needy, don’t try to get her interested using some game. Flirt with her playfully and compliment her honestly. Be genuine and attentive. Be upfront about your intentions and emotionally available. Share your feelings and thoughts and don’t ignore hers.
Para terminar
Entonces, ¿puedes resumir por ti mismo qué es lo que atrae a una mujer de un hombre a primera vista? Todo el artículo era una elaboración de lo que te dije al principio: sé sincero, esfuérzate y haz que se sienta bien. Si haces esas tres cosas, tu vida sentimental mejorará enormemente.
