11 señales de que mantiene abiertas sus opciones

No hablar de etiquetas se ha convertido en una especie de moda últimamente.

Puede que te encuentres en la situación de estar saliendo con alguien durante meses y aún no saber si sois exclusivos o no.

That’s where assumptions kick in. You assume that if he is the only one you are seeing and you don’t need anybody else, that he feels and acts the same.

But without having “the talk”, you really don’t know if you are the only woman in his life. Don’t assume, and get to the bottom of things.

Comprueba las señales que se enumeran a continuación y determina si mantiene abiertas sus opciones.

Keep in mind that these signs individually don’t mean much, but if he is ticking most of the boxes, you are probably not the only woman he is dating:

1. Retiene

He is still keeping you at an arm’s length. He doesn’t seem too eager to open up and let you closer.

You mostly talk about you or some other topics that don’t include him or the two of you as a couple. Whatever you have, it won’t progress any further until he lets you in.

Poder compartir y confiar en alguien es lo que diferencia una relación real de una cita.

Si te abriste a él con la esperanza de que siguiera tu ejemplo pero no has llegado a ninguna parte, lo más probable es que no sea tan serio sobre tiu como tú quieres que sea.

2. Sólo envía mensajes de texto

It’s easier to use texts, especially during the initial phases of dating when you are still getting to know one another.

Pero si este comportamiento continúa y lo único que recibes son algunos mensajes aquí y allá, hay algo que debería preocuparte.

Un hombre al que sólo le importas tú descolgará el teléfono y llamará para oír tu voz o hará una videollamada para verte de vez en cuando.

It’s easier to bond this way and make more profound connections—that is if you want them.

3. Utiliza términos genéricos para describir sus planes

Of course, he’ll have other plans, and he won’t be glued to you 24/7. But pay attention to the way he explains his whereabouts.

More often than not, you have no clue what he is up to. He has “a family thing”, “something at work”, “some errands to run”, “something a friend needs help with”, etc.

Además de ser impreciso sobre su paradero, nunca vuelve a contárselo después.

He never shares where he’s been, what he’s done or how it went. It makes you wonder, doesn’t it?

4. Tiene la costumbre de cancelar planes en el último minuto

Things happen. Fife is unpredictable, and it’s only natural that plans are going to get moved or canceled sometimes. Sometimes yes, but not most of the time.

If he is juggling a few women at once, it can be pretty hard to manage his schedule. That’s why he gets lost in all of it.

Presta atención. Si sus otros comportamientos parecen un poco raros, sin duda hay motivos para preocuparse.

5. He doesn’t add you on his social media accounts

Puedes averiguar mucho sobre un chico si echas un vistazo a sus cuentas en las redes sociales.

That’s why a guy who is keeping his options open will try to leave you out of it. He will come up with some great and convincing story.

He might say he usually doesn’t add people he dates, that social media complicates things and creates jealousy or something down that lane.

The odds are he is trying to sell that story to other women, too, and it’s easier to date a few people at once when they have lesser chances of finding out about one another.

6. Nunca deja su teléfono desatendido

His phone has a better protection system than the Pentagon, and you wouldn’t be able to get in even if you wanted to.

Sin embargo, nunca ha dejado su teléfono cerca de ti y ha salido de la habitación.

He also never reads his texts or answers his phone around you. He doesn’t want you to see or hear anything you shouldn’t.

He’s also not too eager to give you his phone if you need to use it for some reason. A guy with nothing to hide wouldn’t act shady in these situations.

You don’t have to know how to unlock his phone, but he will have no problem leaving it around, answering calls or reading texts when you are by his side.

7. Desaparecerá de vez en cuando

Será muy mono, atento y estará encima de ti durante un tiempo, y luego desaparecerá.

It won’t be forever. He’ll be back again, acting like nothing happened or having some lame excuse up his sleeve.

Este tipo de comportamiento es inaceptable. Te está faltando al respeto, te está tomando el pelo e incluso podría tener alguna chica de compañía. Esto por sí solo es una buena razón para deshacerse de su lamentable culo.

8. Tiene demasiadas amigas

Sure, he can have a few good female friends but they are all friends you know—or at least you will get to know—when things get a bit more serious.

But if he never talks about them, that’s a red flag right there—especially if you run into them and he introduces you as one more of his many friends. It’s more than obvious that something is off.

9. Things aren’t adding up

It’s just a matter of time before a man who multi-dates gets tangled up in his own web of lies.

Aunque dominaba la mentira como una de sus muchas habilidades, está obligado a resbalar en algún momento.

Lo primero que le descubrirá será que tiene todas esas versiones diferentes de una historia.

So one day he’ll talk about hanging out with his friends on Friday night, and if you ask him in a few days, he spent that same Friday night chilling at home watching movies.

10. Hablar de compromiso es algo que evita hábilmente

Es muy bueno con las palabras, y es capaz de dar la vuelta a cualquier situación para que le beneficie.

You might have even tried to have “the talk” with him, but he somehow managed to change the topic.

También puede que no lo diga directamente, pero mencionará que ahora mismo no está metido en nada serio.

He has a wild nature and a free spirit. He doesn’t want to complicate things. He needs time, etc.

These indirect things are pretty direct if you look at them closely. Don’t allow him to lead you on.

11. Your gut is telling you that something’s off

¿Cuántas veces has acabado en una situación complicada porque decidiste ignorar a tu instinto? Demasiadas, ¿verdad?

Don’t do it this time. If you think that something is off, talk to him directly.

Pregúntale si eres la única con la que sale y si sois exclusivos o no. La vida es demasiado corta para andarse con rodeos y juegos.

If you are not the only woman in his life as you thought you were, it’s time to wave him goodbye.