Si quieres ser la persona a la que nunca olvidará, no juegues a su juego

The dating scene today is messy, to say the least. It’s filled with players and their manipulative juegos fríos y calientes.

Naturally, most women don’t see much choice in the matter other than playing along.

Al hacer eso, se quedan atrapados en esta red de amor a medias que los jugadores construido que nunca será suficiente para hacerles felices.

Let’s see if some of these scenarios sound familiar: You receive a text message and then you wait a bit to text back; you do your best to make him jealous; you give him attention then you pull away and pretend like you don’t care.

In a nutshell, you are giving him a taste of his own medicine. And while that works for a bit, it doesn’t give you the result you need, it just keeps you in the game.

Correct me if I am wrong but inside of the game isn’t somewhere you want to live. It’s exhausting and tiring to always keep your guard up.

Quieres una relación normal y cariñosa. Quieres calidez, respeto y honestidad que seas capaz de devolver.

You don’t want to think ahead and strategize your every move. You want love that flows, not one that is full of dams.

That’s why you shouldn’t play his game. You should have your own rules and do your own thing.

No hay necesidad de que entres en manipulaciones y juegos mentales y te rebajes a su nivel.

Debería ponerse a tu altura y tratarte bien o abandonar tu vida para siempre.

Don’t change your essence, stay true to yourself but by all means establecer algunas normas.

La única forma de obtener el amor y el respeto que mereces es queriéndote y respetándote a ti mismo en primer lugar.

Having standards means demanding that at all times. It means not putting up with somebody’s poor treatment.

Significa quererte lo suficiente como para alejarte de situaciones que te hacen desgraciado o infeliz.

Be the one who isn’t afraid to close her eyes, fall in love and hope for the best.

Sí, tu caída puede ser mala y puedes hacerte daño. Pero también puedes seguir levitando si el amor es verdadero.

You shouldn’t pretend like you don’t care or act like a bitch to make somebody like you.

Sé el que se niega con elegancia a estar en algo a medias.

If he wants something laidback, casual, or no strings attached, tell him that’s great for him but it doesn’t quite work for you.

Wish him luck and send him on his way. Someone who will give you everything will come along but you won’t be able to notice if you are playing games that will lead you nowhere.

Sé tú quien ame sin contenerse. La que lo dará todo para que las cosas funcionen.

The one who doesn’t give up easily but knows that sometimes enough is enough and it’s time for her to go.

Sé la que persigue sólo si la persiguen. Don’t go after somebody who doesn’t go after you.

Don’t be the girl waiting by the phone hoping to hear from him. Don’t be the one who drops everything when he calls.

It’s not playing games, it’s not prioritizing somebody who never puts you first.

Sé tú quien construye su propia vida. Sea el usted del que se sienta orgulloso.

Be someone who conquers her fears and thrives in spite of everything that’s holding her back.

Be the one who doesn’t allow sadness to stay in her life for too long. Be the one who laughs from her soul and smiles with her heart.

Sé tú quien espere el mismo respeto, amor, honestidad e inversión que ella está aportando a la relación.

Don’t settle for lame excuses. Don’t buy into stories that players use to lure you in. Don’t participate in the game… leave.

Don’t let him treat you like a toy and you won’t be remembered as one.

Un día ese jugador al que estás enganchado ahora mismo se cansará de sus juegos. Cambiará.

Te buscará when you lose all interest in him. He will look for you when you find your home in somebody else’s arms. He will remember your warmth. He will miss your smile.

Pensará en todas las cosas que podría haber hecho de otra manera para que tal vez ahora estuvieras a su lado. Permanecerás encriptada en su mente como la que se le escapó.

Verás, lo que pasa con los jugadores es que sólo saben lo que tenían cuando ya lo han perdido para siempre.