21 señales de una buena primera cita y cómo acertar en la segunda

A veces, los signos de una buena primera cita are so obvious that words don’t do them justice.

La conversación fluye, el lenguaje corporal lo es todo y su sentido del humor mola.

Si bien los expertos en relaciones coinciden en que estos signos reveladores son indicadores totales de una inminente segunda citaPero también hay muchos signos sutiles que pueden haber pasado desapercibidos.

And that’s what I’m focusing on in this article.

Quieres un comienzo sólido y bueno para tu posible relación, así como asegurarte de que las citas sigan llegando, ¿verdad?

Great! Because since those good signs are easy to miss when you’re in your head too much, I’m here to save the day!

First dates are all about exploring the territory, uncovering potential red flags, and figuring out if they’re a keeper through casual small talk.

While it’s difficult to be certain if this new person will be a good fit long-term, it is possible to detect positive signs that suggest great compatibility.

Para asegurarte de que tu primera cita ha sido estupenda, descubre qué señales de alarma debes tener en cuenta y aprende a conseguir la segunda cita, keep reading. I’ve got it all covered.

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¿Tu primera cita fue un éxito? 21 señales de que lo fue

Find out if your date was as awesome as you think it was through these foolproof signs! If you can check the majority of these off your list, congrats, there’s definitely potential!

La cita duró mucho más de lo que habías previsto

Esta es sin duda una de las mejores señales que existen. Sé lo terribles que pueden ser las primeras citas.

No dejas de insistir en la charla y en cómo mantenerla interesante hasta el punto de volverte loco.

Así que cuando su cita supere sus expectativas de longevidad, felicítese.

You’ve found someone interesting enough that made you forget about the hours that went by just like that. Química en la primera cita ¡es realmente fuerte con ustedes dos!

Su sentido del humor estaba perfectamente sincronizado con el suyo

I don’t know about you, but if my partner can’t make me genuinely laugh my booty off, I stop wasting my time.

Tenéis que ser capaces de reíros juntos.

If it’s all seriousness, deep stuff and they can’t break you out of your bad mood, just leave.

La falta de risa es una rompe tratos and never settle for less. Especially if they can’t make you LOL so early on.

Ambos estaban realmente interesados en lo que el otro tenía que decir

Esto es lo bonito de vuestra cita. Ninguno de los dos estaba interesado en interrumpir al otro.

Ambos querían de verdad oír hablar al otro y la conversación fluyó de maravilla.

Este es uno de los signos más preciados de una buena primera cita.

En una relación, se necesita una pareja que sepa comunicarse. Y este es un gran indicador de una de esas personas.

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Hubo MUCHO contacto visual por ambas partes.

No había ninguna incomodidad en este sentido. Te sentías totalmente cómodo mirándoles directamente a los ojos mientras hablabas y te sentías realmente bien. Ellos también lo hacían, y era casi como magia.

You don’t want to get ahead of yourself, but so far, this seems to be a really great first date. Can you keep it up?

Fuiste capaz de ser tú mismo sin esconder nada de ti.

One of my least favorite things about dating is having this feeling like you can’t be completely yourself from the get-go.

It’s really challenging to get to know a person while not being true to your own self.

When you’re able to overcome that and show all your quirks without feeling judged, that’s a success and you can be sure that you’re close to conseguir novia o novio.

People fake it way too often out of fear of being misunderstood too soon. But for me, if I have to fake anything, I’m out.

Definitivamente hubo contacto físico (un toque sutil de una mano, etc.)

Al principio dudaste, pero cuando viste la oportunidad, la aprovechaste. Encontraste una bonita excusa para tocarle la muñeca por encima de la mesa y sin duda surgió la chispa.

Then, they returned the favor and “accidentally” brushed up against your leg while changing seating positions.

Cosas así son verdaderos indicadores de que dos personas se gustan.

Véase también: This Is Why It’s So AWESOME To Date An Introverted Girl

The whole time you felt like you’d known each other for ages

One of the most amazing things that can happen on a date is precisely this. Meeting them for the first time but feeling like you’ve known them for ages.

La conversación es muy fluida y natural, transmiten muy buen rollo y el ambiente es enardecedor en el mejor de los sentidos.

Este tipo de cosas casi siempre conducen a algo grande. Asegúrate de seguir adelante, ya que algo tan único merece ser explorado.

Ni una sola vez has querido coger el móvil o salir corriendo.

Sentir la necesidad de estar pendiente del móvil durante una cita es muy mala señal. Por suerte, has disfrutado tanto con alguien que te has olvidado por completo del móvil.

And if you’re being honest, that’s a rarity. You can’t remember the last time you met someone who genuinely made you forget your smartphone.

¿Qué te dice eso?

Escucharon atentamente e hicieron un montón de preguntas de seguimiento.

Tenían un montón de preguntas cada vez que compartías algo sobre ti o tus allegados. Y no del tipo invasivo.

Parecían realmente interesados en lo que estuvieras hablando.

And since there are lots of narcissistic types out there who can’t wait for their turn to shine, this is pretty cool!

Se hicieron amigos tuyos en las redes sociales la misma noche

And you probably totally freaked out, right? (Who wouldn’t?) In fact, your own reaction says it all.

If you didn’t like them, you’d be annoyed at seeing their friend request.

But if you quietly went crazy and maybe even squealed a little, that’s one of your best signs of a good first date.

Está claro que quieren Conoce más te vale, ¡por supuesto que sí!

Reflejaron tus acciones (y viceversa)

Tú cogiste un vaso de vino y ellos hicieron lo mismo inmediatamente después. Tú sonreías y ellos también (de forma totalmente instintiva).

Need I say more? This is one of the cutest signs of a great connection. When you do things like this by accident, there’s definitely something cooking there.

Tu cita sugirió que a su grupo de amigos les ENCANTARÍAS

Who wouldn’t love hearing this? Say you were talking about some of your crazy adventures, and they just stopped you mid-sentence to say: “I just have to tell you that my crew would really dig you.”

Clearly, you’ve already got him thinking about potential hang-outs. How awesome is that?

Tener a sus amigos como tú sin duda ayuda mucho.

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Ustedes dos caminaron a casa ya que ambos querían ese tiempo extra juntos

Aww, how cute is this? When you don’t even want to call an Uber because you really want to squeeze any additional time you can have together. How often does that happen?

This means you’ve realmente clicked. Walking together after a great date and talking like you’re already a couple is the dream.

De forma natural, pasaste de las conversaciones triviales a los temas más profundos.

Abordaste temas como la salud mental, tus anteriores relaciones serias, tus antecedentes familiares y todo lo demás.

La conversación avanzaba de forma natural. En un momento estabais contando chistes y en otro hablabais de vuestra hermana mayor, que se había ido a vivir a otro país, y de cómo os había afectado.

Small talk is really important because you can’t always be serious. But when you can just naturally cross over, that’s pretty rad.

You couldn’t help but smile the whole time

It seems like you can finally kiss online dating bye-bye, as this person made you smile throughout the entire date. And it’s not just their cool sense of humor.

Hablar con ellos era agradable y relajante. Estabas justo donde querías estar y la sonrisa no te abandonaba en ningún momento.

Sólo te diste cuenta cuando llegaste a casa y te dolían los músculos faciales de sonreír toda la noche.

Inmediatamente después, NECESITAbas compartirlo todo con tus amigos

And finally, it wasn’t about something that went wrong because the date rocked!

Y sólo necesitabas tu mejor amigo para saber lo bien que te lo has pasado.

Esta es una de las señales más bonitas de una buena primera cita. La necesidad de compartir tu alegría inmediatamente después lo resume todo.

Su cita le envió un mensaje de texto en 24 horas

Could they be real? Yup! And they also suggested some awesome second date ideas (omg) which is one of the best signs they’re really into you!

You already know how big of a deal this is. If they didn’t like you, they wouldn’t bother texting, especially so soon. But if you heard from them within 24 hours, you’re golden.

You can’t get them out of your head

To me, first impressions are everything. And when you can’t get this person out of your head after the date, you conozca hicieron algo bien.

I’m the kind of person who can’t stop replaying stuff in my head for days and even weeks on end. But I don’t mind it!

If you have a good thing going, of course you’re going to think about it! Why deny yourself the joy and excitement?

You weren’t similar, but you still appreciated your differences

Here’s some really good dating advice. Just because you two aren’t two peas in a pod, doesn’t mean you wouldn’t be great together.

People have complicated lives, complex family members, demanding jobs, and different beliefs, but if there’s a strong click, it means you can work through it.

And it seems like you’re on the right track.

You know what you’re after, and so far, they totally fit the criteria

Hasta ahora, parecen el tipo de persona que buscas como pareja. Parece que por fin has terminado con el swipe a la izquierda en los sitios de citas, ya que este lo tiene todo.

You don’t want to jinx it of course, but if the dating experts are on your side, how could you not be happy?

Después de varias citas malas, te mereces a alguien que se fije en los pequeños detalles.

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Os abrazasteis o incluso os besasteis al final de la noche

Y por último, cuando la cita llegaba a su inevitable final, había un abrazo o un beso que querías que durase horas.

Temías este momento, pero cuando llegó, te pareció tan natural y te produjo un cosquilleo.

Terminar la cita con una buena nota es muy importante. Y esto me parece el mejor final para una cita gloriosa.

Si ésta ha sido sólo la primera, ¿cómo de estimulante será la segunda?

Cómo triunfar en la segunda cita

Now that you’ve got the first one under your belt, let’s focus on having even more fun on the following date.

Here’s how you can make sure to grab (and keep) their attention the second time around!

Sáltate el restaurante y opta por algo totalmente diferente

Ir a un restaurante elegante o a una cafetería de moda suele ser la mejor opción para empezar a salir. Pero, ¿por qué no cambiar de aires?

Sugiere una idea totalmente diferente. ¿Quizá podrías probar con los karts?

Or have a picnic if it’s a nice day? If you live near a beach and the weather allows it, go catch some waves!

You know what I’m talking about. Try different things. I assure you it’ll be more fun than your regular romantic dinner date.

Relájate, ¡sabes que les gustas!

Relax, if they didn’t like you, there wouldn’t be a second date, now would there? So, you’ve got that working for you.

Concéntrate en ser una persona segura de sí misma y desprende positividad y alegría.

You’ve already got a pretty solid picture of what they’re like so you know what to expect. Plus, the firsts are always the worst.

Now’s the time to kick it up a notch. Show them your fun side and why dating you would be basically like winning the lottery.

Pregúntales todo lo que no te atreviste a decir en la primera cita.

It’s understandable that on the first one, you didn’t feel comfortable delving into particular topics. All in due time, right?

So now that you’re going for round two, you may feel free to dig a little deeper. I’m not saying ask them about their entire family’s complicated history.

But you can definitely start asking about more intimate stuff now. After all, you have to figure out if you’re a good fit, right?

Así que no hace falta decir que algunas preguntas simplemente hay que hacerlas.

Intenta elevar aún más la conversación

And I’m not talking about the deep stuff here (not necessarily anyway).

But try to discuss an array of different things just to see what they’re into and what doesn’t que hagan flotar su barco.

This way, you’ll get a much clearer picture of them as a person.

What they find funny, what sets them off, what can make them LOL in the worst of moods – that type of thing.

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Don’t be afraid to crack a joke or two (sense of humor is SO important)

You may even prepare a joke beforehand, but definitely don’t recite it in a way that lets them see you practiced it at home.

If you’ve got a good sense of what can make them laugh, then you can definitely casually throw in a short, witty joke to make them laugh.

There’s nothing I love more than LOL-ing at the most unexpected moments.

Habla de las cosas que te inspiran y pregúntales por sus pasiones

Esta es una parte muy bonita de las citas. Averiguar todo sobre sus esperanzas, sueños y ambiciones, y ver cómo hablan de ello apasionadamente.

Las personas brillan de forma diferente cuando hablan de las cosas que aman.

And afterward, you can do the same, and if they’re as good of a date as you think, they’ll let you talk without interruptions.

Puede que le pregunte dónde quiere estar dentro de cinco años para ver a qué atenerse si todo sale bien.

Show them you’re into them (don’t be mysterious in that regard)

Don’t hide how you feel. That’s not cool anymore.

You don’t have to outright blurt it out on the first date, but you can definitely show them with your body language.

Be open, inviting, interested, and somewhat eager. Don’t put all the cards on the table at once, but definitely leave the impression that you’re into them.

Recuerda cualquier pequeño detalle que tu cita haya mencionado para cortejarle

A la gente le encanta saber que realmente se le escucha. Cualquiera puede asentir y esperar su turno para hablar. Pero no todo el mundo escucha por el mero hecho de ser escuchado. audición.

So be that person! Listen, soak it in, and try to remember. It shows that you’re not superficial or narcissistic.

And when you casually mention that thing they had no idea you kept in mind, they’ll be in awe.

Flirtea como si tu vida dependiera de ello

Las segundas citas consisten en ligar como un loco.

Bromea, guiña un ojo aquí y otro allá, sugiere algunas ideas ligeramente atrevidas, pero luego ríete de ellas y deja que se pregunten si realmente estabas bromeando.

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Tócales la mano, apóyate en su hombro (ya entiendes)

Physical contact is the best (if you know your limits of course). It’s all about doing it subtly but seductively.

Don’t be afraid to touch their hand here and there (it’s hot, trust me).

If you’re standing in a row or something, grab their hand or lean against their shoulder.

It’s cute as hell and shows your interest.

If you’re feeling bold, suggest an exciting third date idea

Why not? If you’re having a wicked good time, and you get the sense that your date is just as into it as you are, go for it! Fortune favors the bold.

Su reacción le dirá todo lo que necesita saber.

If they’re eager, they’ll be elated at your suggestion, and if they’re really not feeling you, they’ll be caught off guard and not know what to say.

Still, that actually tells you everything. But vibes don’t lie! If the good times are rolling, I guarantee you they’ll say yes.

Si te gustan, díselo (la sinceridad es un soplo de aire fresco).

¿Cuándo dejó la gente de decir las cosas abierta y honestamente? ¿Por qué se ha convertido en algo tan difícil de hacer?

A veces, siento que las citas de la vieja escuela eran las mejores.

People like to hear things like that. You shouldn’t keep playing coy and hope they figure out what’s in your head.

All that’s going to do is chase them away.

It’s so simple. If you dig this person, say it! You can never go wrong with being honest, especially about something so positive.

Señales de alarma en las primeras citas que debes tener en cuenta

Y por último, aquí tienes las principales señales de alarma que nunca debes ignorar en una cita. Si reconoces a esta persona en alguna de ellas, piénsatelo mucho antes de volver a verla.

They can’t form an original opinion and agree with whatever you say

If there’s one thing I can’t stand in a person, it’s their inability to form an opinion. I don’t need you to agree with me, I just need to hear that you actually have something to say.

So yeah, if your date just keeps nodding along, without stating any opinion, that’s definitely a deal-breaker for me.

How can you communicate with someone who can’t argue their point? Communication is key, and this is plain embarrassing.

Tienen la audacia de pedir por ti (no, gracias)

Umm, no thank you. I know what I like and I’m perfectly capable of speaking for myself. People who have the audacity to think you’d actually be impressed with this need a reality check.

It’s one thing if this was your long-term partner who knows what you like/dislike. I can live with that. But for a first or second date, not so much. It’s presumptuous and, frankly, plain rude.

Cero contacto visual (no dejan de mirar a la habitación)

This is a red flag that you definitely need to run away from. If they can’t concentrate on you and your conversation this early on, can you imagine them a few months into the relationship?

Find yourself someone who’ll look you in the eye and pay attention to you as you’re talking. That’s a good sign of a person who’d be a good partner.

If they’re eyeing the room, they can watch you leave it.

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They say things like: “I’m not like all the other guys/girls” (which makes them EXACTLY like them)

This is definitely not one of the signs of a good first date. Quite the opposite actually. It’s a cheesy statement that people say when they want to appear special and “different.”

If they truly were nothing like most people, they wouldn’t feel the need to say so. They would just be that way and you’d see for yourself. This is just a cry for attention.

Manifiestan signos de una autoestima muy baja

You don’t need someone who’ll constantly need you to hold their hand and tell them that they’re good enough.

You’ve got your own issues. If they’re self-deprecating this early, I wouldn’t see them again.

They are clearly trying to pretend to be someone they’re not

I can’t stand fakers. Just be your genuine self, for crying out loud.

How can you even fall for someone who so clearly has a mask on? If they want to impress you, this isn’t going to work.

Be true to yourself or let me find someone who is. But definitely don’t waste your time trying to figure out what’s under all that charade.

They’re clearly not comfortable with who they are.

You haven’t heard someone badmouth their ex like this in a LONG time

Una gran alerta roja. Hablar mal de un ex es un gran no-no. Este podrías ser tú algún día.

¿Cómo te sentirías si supieras que tu ex está hablando mal de ti a sus citas? Apestaría, ¿verdad?

So don’t give this new person a free pass. There are two sides to every story.

And if they’re on a date with you, and their focus is an ex who they clearly have a grudge against, I’d leave them be.

…or generally, anyone (they have a superiority complex)

Nobody is good enough for them. They seem to think that they’re more capable, smarter, and know better than most. And they’re not afraid to show it.

If it were me, I’d just let them know they’re definitely no todo eso y dejar mi mesa (o donde quiera que estéis).

They make a scene in a full restaurant if they don’t like their food

Esto es un gran problema. ¿Te imaginas la audacia y la grosería? Si tienes algún problema, díselo a la persona.

Pero poner a alguien en evidencia tan públicamente es lo más feo.

I’d be embarrassed to be seen with them. Watch out for people with such poor manners and communication skills. You definitely don’t need this sort of person in your life.

Empiezan a hablar de un futuro demasiado pronto

What could possibly be inside a person’s head to make them talk about a future with a person they’ve known for two hours?

It’s kind of baffling to me. It’s okay to show interest and let your date know that you’re definitely into seeing them again.

But talking about a vacation or meeting the parents… I’ll pass.

Don’t foolishly think that it’s a good sign. It’s really not. They’re clearly in some sort of rush that leaves a bad primera impresión.

Llegaron tarde y no ofrecieron ninguna explicación (¿Perdón?)

Tu tiempo es precioso. Y si esa persona no puede respetarlo, ¿qué dice de ella?

It’s okay if there was a legit reason for their lateness. Things happen. But offering no explanation, seriously?

Avoid people of this kind. You deserve to be respected and this individual clearly doesn’t.

Si te obligaron a sentarte solo durante cualquier cantidad de tiempo y lo hiciste sin quejarte, lo menos que mereces es oír por qué.

Un poco demasiado cómodo compartiendo algunos detalles verdaderamente privados

Do you know those people who have no boundaries? Who will just share the grossest things as if it’s the most natural thing ever?

Yeah, I’m not a fan. I’m guessing you’re not either.

There’s a time and place for everything. And a first or second date is definitely not a good time to share gross photos from an elective surgery or any type of stuff that makes you feel uneasy.

Right now, your date should focus on impressing you with their kindness and humor. There’s time later for everything in between.

Hablan demasiado por teléfono durante la cita

In my opinion, phones should not even be on the table. If you’re on a date, that’s what you should be focusing on.

Let your friends know where you are and that they should only reach out if it’s an emergency.

That way, you get to have an uninterrupted date that you can dedicate your time to. And if they don’t share this sentiment, it’s a majorly bad sign.

How can you get to know them if they’re on their phone? Actually, that does say a lot about them. Just not anything good!

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They don’t let you get a single word in

They’re a total blabbermouth. They’ll talk over you, and constantly talk about themselves.

It’s come to a point where you’ve genuinely given up trying to get a word in. It’s pointless.

Like I’ve already mentioned, communication is vital for a successful relationship.

If they’re already showing signs of being really bad at this, trust them. You can definitely find someone who won’t make you feel unheard.

Intentaron hacerse un selfie juntos desde el principio

I love a good selfie. Goodness knows that I do. But again, there is a time and place for a joint selfie. This ain’t it!

You’re not even a couple yet. You’ve known each other for a few hours. Can you give it time, dude?

Y si realmente quieren publicar la foto en sus cuentas de redes sociales, sal de ahí.

I don’t really know what on earth they’re thinking, but it’s nothing smart, I can tell you that much.

Te pusieron un apodo cursi que NO te gustaba 100%

Los apodos molan. Demuestran un sentido del humor y una cercanía que sólo consiguen dos personas.

So, naturally, you only give nicknames to those you actually know, because otherwise, it’s meaningless.

Entonces, ¿qué podrías pensar de alguien que te pone un apodo literalmente después de aprenderse tu nombre?

No, it’s not cute. It’s weird, and you’re 100% not into it. All this can do is weird you out.

Parecen demasiado necesitados y pegajosos

It’s normal to want to spend time with someone and get to know them better. That’s the whole point of dating.

Pero estar demasiado necesitado no es, desde luego, uno de los signos de una buena primera cita.

Sure, you like this person, but you’re not going to be all over them and freak them out immediately, right?

If your date has manifested any signs of clinginess, I’d watch out. If you give them a second chance, be sure not to ignore this issue.

Whatever their problem is, it’s not for you to solve it.

No paran de interrumpirte aunque apenas puedas hablar

It’s one thing to be a blabbermouth right off the bat (still a bad sign), but interrupting you during the rare occasion you’re actually speaking?

Excuse me, but that’s a no from me, dawg.

Dating is 50:50. You’re not there to be someone’s sounding board who’ll just listen and admire them.

Mereces compartir tus propias historias y que te escuchen como a ellos.

If someone thinks that what they have to say is more important than what you have to say, don’t waste a second longer.

Su lenguaje corporal está apagado

Este tipo de comunicación no verbal dice mucho de una persona. Solo hay que prestarle atención.

For example, if their hands are crossed, and they’re looking around, eyeing the room, that’s bad, obviously.

When you notice these types of stuff, including acting like they’re bored, nervously tapping their foot on the ground, rubbing their nose, and a lack of eye contact, take it seriously.

Pick up on their unspoken issues and don’t ignore them.

Véase también: 7 señales reveladoras de que no le gustas

Critican tus opiniones e imponen las suyas

Here’s what I’ve realized recently. People who are overly critical are merely struggling with their own insecurities and need validation.

Suelen tener una percepción muy negativa de sí mismos que les lleva a menospreciar a los demás.

Firstly, you should never take it personally, as it’s not you. And secondly, you’re not here to solve anyone’s underlying issues.

You’re here to have a good time with someone who’s there to impress you and woo you.

You don’t need to deal with an overly critical person who just needs attention.

Durante toda la cita, todo lo que podías pensar era en correr hacia las colinas.

Oh-oh. ¿Tengo que explicarlo?

No es una pareja perfecta. Pero bueno, le diste una oportunidad y ahora puedes ir a buscar a alguien que valga la pena.

Life’s way too short to force yourself into something just because you deeply want it to work. Some things aren’t meant to be and this is probably one of them.

Steer clear of anyone who makes you feel like an utter waste of time. Goodness knows you’ve got better things to do.

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Si la primera cita parece una entrevista de trabajo, ¡renuncia!

If you can’t check most of these signs of a good first date off your list, there’s no reason to panic. Dating should be fun!

If there wasn’t a click early on, that’s okay. There’s plenty more fish in the sea. Wait until you meet someone who’ll actually make you want to see them again.

I promise you that it’s very possible. If all of these great signs seem too good to be true, it just means you haven’t found the right person yet. So, keep looking!

Además, no deje de leer nuestro consejos para volver al juego if you’ve been out of it for too long.

Y como extra, aquí tienes algunos picantes preguntas para citas rápidas que pueden ser útiles.

I’ve also got you covered on major red flags to avoid as well as how to mantener las cosas en marcha if there’s a second date.

Now, it’s up to you.

Whatever you do, always listen to your gut. A bad date can happen to anyone, just don’t let them waste your time twice.

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