¿Te sientes inseguro sobre el matrimonio? 7 ventajas e inconvenientes

These days, marriage has become a real debate in which everyone has their own opinions on who is a “real candidate” for it and who should not get married due to some assumptions or prejudice. But, not in my case.

For some unknown reasons, I’ve always felt unsure about marriage and never was one hundred percent for or against it.

Hablábamos mucho de ello, y a veces estábamos de acuerdo, pero otras veces nuestras opiniones chocaban y uno de los dos estaba totalmente en contra.

So, I’ve figured it out that the only way to find the right answer is to create a list of pros and cons that will help us decide.

And, believe me, it did help us. And if you’re having the same dilemmas as we did, I warmly recommend to read the following list of pros and cons of marriage to figure things out.

7 PROS Y 7 CONTRAS DEL MATRIMONIO

LOS CONS

You’re influenced by others’ expectations and rules

Getting married is not just saying: “Yes, I do” to the el amor de tu vida y luego vivir felices para siempre.

There are also some annoying legalities you need to deal with once you’re in marriage waters. You are no longer left to your own decisions.

Tus planes y ahorros influyen directamente en los planes y ahorros de tu pareja, y siempre será necesario considerar amplios factores y firmar numerosos papeles para apaciguar los trámites legales.

When you’re single, you don’t have to think about things like this which are in most of the cases draining as hell.

El matrimonio parece anticuado

En general, el matrimonio ha perdido su encanto. Antes era algo que todas las parejas hacían sin pensárselo dos veces por las presiones de la sociedad, la seguridad financiera o las similitudes. Y hoy tenemos una imagen diferente del mismo.

Somos libres de vivir con nuestro novio o novia sin ser juzgados por ello ni presionados por los demás para casarnos, lo cual es increíble.

So, why would we rush things if we don’t have to yet? The decision to live together as a couple sounds pretty inviting. As a matter of fact, it’s the same thing as being married, only that you haven’t signed anything.

Las bodas son una verdadera carga financiera

Preparar una boda puede ser una auténtica odisea financiera. Los que han pasado por ello pueden confirmarlo con seguridad. Aparte de tu trabajo y otras cosas que haces actualmente en la vida, también tendrás que hacer un hueco en tu presupuesto para preparar una boda.

And if you’ve always had pictures in your head of your perfect wedding day, you will have to do everything in your power to make it come true.

If your current finances can’t support your wishes, you will not be content and your wedding would turn into a disappointment.

La tasa de divorcios ha aumentado considerablemente

And it is still increasing. There’s this epidemic of divorced couples, single moms and single dads and I’m sure you already know a few of them in your circle of friends and family.

While it doesn’t have to mean that you’ll end up being divorced, there is still some percentage proving that you might.

If your guts are telling you that you’re not ready yet or if your partner might not be the best marriage material, it is better to wait until you have better insight and perspective on how thinally are.

La fobia al compromiso es una verdadera lucha

Choosing one person for the rest of your life sounds a little bit scary, right? It is like going to a chocolate factory where you’re “forced” to choose only one type of chocolate that you’ll be eating till the rest of your life.

Are you capable of doing that? Are you capable of discarding all of the other flavors to devote all of yourself to the one you’ve chosen? If not, you know what you ought to do because commitment phobia is not something you should dar por sentado.

El matrimonio podría cambiar las cosas

Sometimes marriage can influence your happiness and change the good you’ve had before while you were unmarried.

For example, married people have this tendency to relax a little bit too much than they should because now they’re married, and it’s the end of the story.

So, sometimes they forget to fight for their partners and work on themselves because they think that they should be accepted as they are because they’ve signed the sacred “contract” of loving each other at their good and bad (which comes as a perfect excuse).

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Las preguntas sobre tener hijos son interminables

So, let’s say that you’ve decided to get married, but you still don’t want children or you haven’t even thought about having them. Now, how will you explain this to all of these people who will constantly keep bombarding you with questions regarding your future offspring?

I’m sure you already have a few of them in mind who might fit the role of being “a pain in the ass” and who keep living other people’s lives and worrying about what they certainly shouldn’t.

LOS PROS

1. Los demás entenderán mejor tu situación sentimental

Your relationship status will no longer be the biggest enigma the world has seen or to be exact your grandma and grandpa who still can’t deal with how things function today.

You will no longer have to think of what to say before introducing yourself and your partner to others because now you will know exactly what to say proudly and out loud: “I’m her/his husband/wife”.

2. Obtienes un seguro y subvenciones fiscales

Puede que no sea lo más apropiado en esta situación, pero estar casado también tiene sus ventajas económicas.

So, if you’ve always thought about making some changes in life but couldn’t afford it, when you get married these will be much easier for you to accomplish when your budget is improved.

3. Con tus nuevas etiquetas de marido y mujer, obtienes nuevos roles vitales

During our lives, we go through different roles from being a daughter/son, sister/brother, granddaughter/grandson and now you’re about to become someone’s wife or husband!

Hooray!! Doesn’t it sound exciting to proudly share your new labels with the rest of the world?

Doesn’t it sound exciting to share your love with the rest of the world? It surely does because it is one of the most beautiful roles one could have during his lifetime, so think about it.

4. Si tienes la oportunidad de elegir casarte con el amor de tu vida, aprovéchala

Antes, la gente se veía obligada masivamente a contraer un matrimonio concertado y a seguir las normas tradicionales de su familia o creencias (y sigue siendo real aún hoy, pero en menor número). Hoy en día, la mayoría somos libres de elegir casarnos con el amor de nuestras vidas, así que ¿por qué no aprovechar la oportunidad?

¿Por qué no dejar que florezca el amor que llevamos en el corazón por otro ser humano?

Muchas de las personas que se han visto obligadas a casarse con alguien por motivos distintos del amor habrían matado por tener la oportunidad de hacerlo de otro modo. Por tanto, sé prudente y sé agradecido.

5. Planear una boda es creativo y muy divertido

Planear una boda es la excusa perfecta para volverse locamente creativo y probar a hacer lo imposible.

Desde globos y confeti hasta preciosas flores de miles de colores y mucho más, tú eliges cómo será tu día perfecto.

You have the opportunity to make it a real fairy tale (if that’s what you always wanted) and you have the opportunity to have lots of fun while doing it.

Especially if you’re a creative maniac, now is the perfect time to shine.

6. Te da la oportunidad de elogiar tu relación

I believe that every relationship deserves to be crowned at some point because five years or more spent together definitely deserve a special celebration. All of these hardships you’ve survived together, all of these happy moments, kisses, tears deserve to be praised by a celebration called marriage.

It is a perfect opportunity to say to the world and to yourselves that you’ve gone through a lot, you’re still together, you still amaos los unos a los otros no matter what. It’s just beautiful.

7. Si en el fondo de tu corazón realmente lo deseas, ¿por qué no?

If you can’t think of any specific reason why not and you’re still having second thoughts about it, then ask yourself why not? If deep down in your heart you know you really want to do it, but you somehow keep making excuses not to do it, then just do it.

After all, you only live once, and if you’re sure that you’ve found the love of your life, someone who will be there for you in your bad and at your good, someone who will share joy and tears with you, then do not wait.

Enjoy the moment of saying: “Yes, I do” and becoming someone’s friend, lover, and life companion just as I did myself (and I didn’t regret it).