Vi sentite insicuri sul matrimonio? 7 pro e contro per capirlo

These days, marriage has become a real debate in which everyone has their own opinions on who is a “real candidate” for it and who should not get married due to some assumptions or prejudice. But, not in my case.

For some unknown reasons, I’ve always felt unsure about marriage and never was one hundred percent for or against it.

Ne parlavamo spesso e a volte eravamo d'accordo, ma a volte le nostre opinioni si scontravano e uno di noi era totalmente contrario.

So, I’ve figured it out that the only way to find the right answer is to create a list of pros and cons that will help us decide.

And, believe me, it did help us. And if you’re having the same dilemmas as we did, I warmly recommend to read the following list of pros and cons of marriage to figure things out.

7 PRO E 7 CONTRO DEL MATRIMONIO

LE CONSIDERAZIONI

You’re influenced by others’ expectations and rules

Getting married is not just saying: “Yes, I do” to the l'amore della tua vita e poi vivere per sempre felici e contenti.

There are also some annoying legalities you need to deal with once you’re in marriage waters. You are no longer left to your own decisions.

I vostri piani e i vostri risparmi influenzano direttamente i piani e i risparmi del vostro partner, e sarà sempre necessario prendere in considerazione numerosi fattori e firmare numerose carte per soddisfare le leggi.

When you’re single, you don’t have to think about things like this which are in most of the cases draining as hell.

Il matrimonio sembra superato

Il matrimonio ha perso il suo fascino in generale. Prima era qualcosa che ogni coppia faceva senza ripensarci a causa delle pressioni della società, della sicurezza finanziaria o delle affinità. Oggi abbiamo un'immagine diversa.

Siamo liberi di vivere con il nostro ragazzo o la nostra ragazza senza essere giudicati per questo o senza subire pressioni da parte di altri per sposarci, il che è fantastico.

So, why would we rush things if we don’t have to yet? The decision to live together as a couple sounds pretty inviting. As a matter of fact, it’s the same thing as being married, only that you haven’t signed anything.

I matrimoni sono un vero e proprio onere finanziario

La preparazione di un matrimonio può essere un vero e proprio calvario finanziario. Chi ci è passato può confermarlo con certezza. Oltre al vostro lavoro e alle altre cose che fate attualmente nella vita, dovrete fare spazio nel vostro budget anche per la preparazione di un matrimonio.

And if you’ve always had pictures in your head of your perfect wedding day, you will have to do everything in your power to make it come true.

If your current finances can’t support your wishes, you will not be content and your wedding would turn into a disappointment.

Il tasso di divorzio è aumentato in modo significativo

And it is still increasing. There’s this epidemic of divorced couples, single moms and single dads and I’m sure you already know a few of them in your circle of friends and family.

While it doesn’t have to mean that you’ll end up being divorced, there is still some percentage proving that you might.

If your guts are telling you that you’re not ready yet or if your partner might not be the best marriage material, it is better to wait until you have better insight and perspective on how thinally are.

La fobia dell'impegno è una vera e propria lotta

Choosing one person for the rest of your life sounds a little bit scary, right? It is like going to a chocolate factory where you’re “forced” to choose only one type of chocolate that you’ll be eating till the rest of your life.

Are you capable of doing that? Are you capable of discarding all of the other flavors to devote all of yourself to the one you’ve chosen? If not, you know what you ought to do because commitment phobia is not something you should dare per scontato.

Il matrimonio potrebbe cambiare le cose

Sometimes marriage can influence your happiness and change the good you’ve had before while you were unmarried.

For example, married people have this tendency to relax a little bit too much than they should because now they’re married, and it’s the end of the story.

So, sometimes they forget to fight for their partners and work on themselves because they think that they should be accepted as they are because they’ve signed the sacred “contract” of loving each other at their good and bad (which comes as a perfect excuse).

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Le domande sull'avere figli non finiscono mai

So, let’s say that you’ve decided to get married, but you still don’t want children or you haven’t even thought about having them. Now, how will you explain this to all of these people who will constantly keep bombarding you with questions regarding your future offspring?

I’m sure you already have a few of them in mind who might fit the role of being “a pain in the ass” and who keep living other people’s lives and worrying about what they certainly shouldn’t.

I PRO

1. Gli altri capiranno meglio il vostro stato di coppia

Your relationship status will no longer be the biggest enigma the world has seen or to be exact your grandma and grandpa who still can’t deal with how things function today.

You will no longer have to think of what to say before introducing yourself and your partner to others because now you will know exactly what to say proudly and out loud: “I’m her/his husband/wife”.

2. Ottenete l'assicurazione e le sovvenzioni fiscali

Forse non è la cosa più appropriata a cui pensare in questa situazione, ma essere sposati ha anche dei vantaggi economici.

So, if you’ve always thought about making some changes in life but couldn’t afford it, when you get married these will be much easier for you to accomplish when your budget is improved.

3. Con le nuove etichette di marito e moglie, si ottengono nuovi ruoli di vita

During our lives, we go through different roles from being a daughter/son, sister/brother, granddaughter/grandson and now you’re about to become someone’s wife or husband!

Hooray!! Doesn’t it sound exciting to proudly share your new labels with the rest of the world?

Doesn’t it sound exciting to share your love with the rest of the world? It surely does because it is one of the most beautiful roles one could have during his lifetime, so think about it.

4. Se avete l'opportunità di scegliere di sposare l'amore della vostra vita, sfruttatela.

In passato, le persone erano massicciamente costrette a contrarre un matrimonio combinato e a seguire le regole tradizionali della loro famiglia o del loro credo (e questo accade ancora oggi, ma in numero minore). Oggi siamo per lo più liberi di scegliere di sposare l'amore della nostra vita, quindi perché non approfittarne?

Perché non lasciare che l'amore che portiamo nel cuore per un altro essere umano fiorisca?

Molti di coloro che sono stati o sono costretti a sposare qualcuno per motivi diversi dall'amore avrebbero ucciso per avere la possibilità di fare altrimenti. Quindi, siate saggi e riconoscenti.

5. Organizzare un matrimonio è creativo e divertente

Organizzare un matrimonio è la scusa perfetta per dare sfogo alla propria creatività e cimentarsi nell'impossibile.

Dai palloncini, ai coriandoli, ai fiori in migliaia di colori e altro ancora, sarete voi a scegliere come sarà il vostro giorno perfetto.

You have the opportunity to make it a real fairy tale (if that’s what you always wanted) and you have the opportunity to have lots of fun while doing it.

Especially if you’re a creative maniac, now is the perfect time to shine.

6. Vi dà l'opportunità di elogiare la vostra relazione

I believe that every relationship deserves to be crowned at some point because five years or more spent together definitely deserve a special celebration. All of these hardships you’ve survived together, all of these happy moments, kisses, tears deserve to be praised by a celebration called marriage.

It is a perfect opportunity to say to the world and to yourselves that you’ve gone through a lot, you’re still together, you still amarsi no matter what. It’s just beautiful.

7. Se nel profondo del vostro cuore lo volete davvero, allora perché no?

If you can’t think of any specific reason why not and you’re still having second thoughts about it, then ask yourself why not? If deep down in your heart you know you really want to do it, but you somehow keep making excuses not to do it, then just do it.

After all, you only live once, and if you’re sure that you’ve found the love of your life, someone who will be there for you in your bad and at your good, someone who will share joy and tears with you, then do not wait.

Enjoy the moment of saying: “Yes, I do” and becoming someone’s friend, lover, and life companion just as I did myself (and I didn’t regret it).