Esta es la razón por la que siempre debes ser la persona más grande
When your real friends tell you to be the bigger person, they’re saying that you should always find the fuerza en tu corazón para perdonar a los que te han hecho daño, y elévate por encima de todas tus experiencias negativas.
Ser el persona mayor significa que, por mucho que alguien te haga daño, no guardas rencor hacia él.
You’ll find some kind of justification for those who have broken your heart, made your life miserable, or even abused you in any way.
It doesn’t matter whether we’re talking about your ex, high school friend, coworker, or family member, the bottom line is pretty much the same: You should take the moral high ground and let positivity take over you.
You’re more than someone who wants revenge for all the pain you’ve suffered. You’re above holding grudges or giving someone a taste of their own medicine.
Instead, whenever another person does you harm, you should understand them in a way, move on, and get over whatever it is they’ve done to you.
Un siendo el persona mayor quote says: “Don’t treat people as bad as they are. Treat them as good you are.”
Sounds almost perfect, doesn’t it? However, what happens when the person who hurt you doesn’t deserve you treating them this way?
¿Qué ocurre cuando tu agresor ve en tu perdón una luz verde para seguir quebrantándote? Cuando ven que aceptas el buen camino como una aprobación de su comportamiento tóxico?
From one point of view, you behaving like this should have a therapeutic effect on the other party as well. They’re expected to admire your reaction, which will make them ashamed of their own actions.
En este caso, el sentimiento de culpa se comerá vivo a quien te ha destrozado la vida. Acabará pidiendo perdón por sus fechorías o, como mínimo, se apartará de tu vida.
Sin embargo, por desgracia, las cosas pueden tomar un cariz completamente distinto.
En lugar de tener un enorme respeto por tu capacidad de perdonar, en la mayoría de los casos, la persona tóxica empieza a considerarte un tonto al que puede seguir haciéndole cosas malas.
En darte por sentado y esperan que les perdones, te hagan lo que te hagan. Al fin y al cabo, tu amor incondicional por ellos es evidente.
Una vez que experimentas algo así, también empiezas a verte a ti mismo como un estúpido.
All this time, you’ve been always the forgiving one – the one who’s walked away from arguments and tried to understand whoever’s hurt you – without looking for ways to pay them back.
However, rarely has anyone appreciated it. Instead, they’ve kept playing and using you. So naturally, you’ve given up.
You’ve decided that the only way to survive this harsh world is to blend in with the masses. You have no other options but to become just like everyone else in your surroundings.
You simply have no more strength to give away your unlimited forgiveness to those who have never deserved it. You’ve stopped accepting the non-apologies and praying for your heart to soften up.
Well, I’m here to tell you that you’re making the mistake of your life if you don’t change your ways. In fact I’m begging you: Be the persona mayor, no matter who or what you’re dealing with.
At first, you may think you’re doing all of this for the sake of the other party with a toxic vibe.
You want to show them that you’re above them and would never stoop to their level, despite the fact that you’re the damaged one.
Naturally, you think to yourself that your positivity and forgiveness are the last things they deserve. After everything this person has put you through, no one’s expecting you to wipe their slate clean.
Excepto que esto es exactamente lo que deberías estar haciendo. Por supuesto, perdonar es una cosa y olvidar es otra.
Nobody is telling you that you have to welcome them back in your life and pretend that everything is in perfect order. Instead, just be the better person and don’t play their game.
Don’t misunderstand me. I’m not giving you this advice because the personas tóxicas en tu vida deserve it. Don’t be the bigger man to make things easier for them.
Don’t behave like this because it’s the right thing to do either. Don’t do it because it’s expected of you or just because you want to prove a point to someone else, including the one who hurt you.
En cambio, hazlo por ti, ya que es una de las pocas cosas que diferencian a las malas personas de las buenas.
Do it because it will serve as proof that you never had the same vibe as them and that they didn’t manage to pollute you with their evil.
Como prueba de que nunca podrán alcanzar su altura moral.
Most importantly, be the better person because, at the end of the day, it’s the only way to free yourself from their chains – the only way for you to finally start your process of dejarse llevar y seguir adelante sin ningún equipaje que te lastre.
It’s the best thing you could ever do for your self-esteem.
Hazlo porque te liberará de su toxicidad. Porque te purificará y te traerá paz.
Verás, siendo el persona mayor doesn’t mean becoming someone’s felpudo. Instead, it’s about not allowing anger, resentment, and other negative emotions to take the best of you.
It doesn’t mean being blind or stupid. In fact, it means being smart enough to choose your battles wisely and know how to get rid of pettiness.
It doesn’t make you a coward who backs out. On the contrary, it makes you a hero. It makes you emotionally intelligent to the point where you can redirect your energy in the right direction.
It’s about not allowing the bitterness to turn you into someone you essentially aren’t. About not giving this person even more importance by allowing them to change the core of your personality.
Confía en mí. Este es el camino a seguir. En el fin de la jornada, tomando el buen camino es la única manera en que tu conciencia será cristalina.
It’s the only way for you to leave this painful situation being proud of yourself and of the fruits of your trabajo propio. La única forma de sentirte mejor y de reforzar tu autoestima.
That said, your real friends will never blame you if you don’t have the strength to be the bigger person just yet. After all, you’re just a human being and it’s perfectly normal to have a vengeful part of yourself.
Nadie te juzgará por no ser capaz de controlar tus impulsos y emociones en todo momento. Sin embargo, ser el mejor hombre es algo por lo que debes esforzarte.
