Ser la otra mujer me enseñó valiosas lecciones que cambiaron mi vida

¿Has sido alguna vez la otra mujer? O al menos, ¿alguna vez has estado enamorada de un hombre que estaba enamorado de otra o que estaba tomado?

Yes? Then you’ll get me. Other people who haven’t been through it will never be able to sympathize with us, and there will always be judgemental looks.

It’s okay. In the beginning, it was so difficult for me to go outside and to confront people, but I learned how to live with it. I still get those awkward judgemental looks, but the thing is that I don’t care anymore.

Was it a mistake? Did I hurt innocent people who didn’t deserve it?

Sí, y por desgracia, sí otra vez. It was the biggest mistake of my life. But still, I’m so thankful to God for that temptation because later, it turned out to be the most valuable lesson of my life.

Lastimé a otros, pero a quien más lastimé fue a mí mismo.

Afortunadamente, reuní la fuerza necesaria para perdonarme a mí misma y comprendí algunas de las lecciones vitales más valiosas que me enseñó esta experiencia y, con su ayuda, finalmente seguí adelante.

Los errores también forman parte de la vida

Yes, I made a mistake. So what? We’re all human, and we all make them. The important thing is what we learn from that error y si alguna vez lo volvemos a hacer.

Aprendí la lección. No volveré a hacerlo porque sé lo doloroso que fue, a cuánta gente perjudicó y las secuelas que me quedaron.

Most importantly, I’ll never do it again because I know I’m so much better than that.

Should I let that one mistake ruin my entire life? No, I shouldn’t, and I couldn’t accept that. I regret it, and only I know how much I suffered because of it.

I repented sincerely to God, hoping He’ll forgive me too, and I left it all behind. I accepted it as a mistake and moved on with my life.

Debo perdonarme por amar al hombre equivocado

It wasn’t my fault that I didn’t know he was tomado cuando nos conocimos. Me enamoré sinceramente de ese hombre, y sólo quería ser amada de la misma manera.

Al principio me culpé a mí misma, pero más tarde me di cuenta de que tenía que perdonarme para seguir adelante. Para sanar, tenía que perdonar a mi corazón por amar al hombre equivocado, por amar a alguien que lo rompió en mil pedazos.

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All men aren’t the same

Even after this awful experience, I know that all men aren’t the same. To be honest, in the beginning, I didn’t even think that way.

I locked my heart and promised myself that I’d never again allow anyone to find the key to it. Pero ahora me doy cuenta de que sería injusto.

I deserve a man who’ll love me honestly. Mi corazón está desbloqueado de nuevo y esperando al indicado.

I’ll never trust a man’s words again because their actions are what really counts

He was the one that played with us both. In the beginning, I didn’t even know that there was another woman in his life. He wanted to make me fall in love with him before I found out, and he managed to do that.

Sabía que me resultaría más difícil dejarle. Era sólo uno de sus juegos enfermizos. Una vez que me enteré de que Yo era la otra mujer, he swore that he’d leave her and that I was the only woman he loved.

He used my honest emotions to manipulate me. I did make a mistake for believing in his false promises, but I swore to myself that I’d never again believe in a man’s palabras if they aren’t backed up with his actions.

I’ll never again allow other people’s opinions to bother me

La gente que sabía todo lo que pasaba sólo me culpaba a mí. Me aislé completamente del resto del mundo.

I didn’t have the strength to go outside and confront all the judgemental looks that followed me everywhere I went.

Afectó mucho a mi autoestima. Me sentía un completo fracaso. Tenía muchos pensamientos oscuros y pensaba que nunca volvería a ser feliz.

Fortunately, I overcame it all. My biggest mistake was allowing other people’s opinions of me to control my life. That’s something I’ll never allow again, for sure.

Perdono a la gente que me hace daño, pero sólo para conseguir la paz que merezco

I perdone him and all the other people who hurt me. I know they don’t deserve it, but I also know that I would never be able to leave it all behind until I forgave them.

Forgiving them is my closure to everything. It’s how I’m leaving this story and this awful experience in the past.

El Karma está de mi lado

Many people asked me if I plan to take revenge on him. No, I don’t want that. Trust me, that is the last thing I would do right now.

Creo en karma, and I’m letting it do its job. I’m sure it will do a better job than I could. The last message I sent to that man was, ‘What goes around comes around…’ and I truly believe that.

I deserve to be someone’s only choice

Even though this was one of the hardest and most painful experiences of my life, I’m not letting it destroy my faith in true love.

I’m still convinced that there is a right man for me somewhere out there, and I still believe that our paths will cross one day.

I know I deserve it. I deserve someone who’ll show me what true love looks like. I don’t only deserve to be someone’s first choice, I deserve to be their one and only choice, and I won’t stop until I find a man like that.

Sé que existe, y sé que me está esperando.