There’s a point in life when you just need to change things up in life. There are way too many things we think we have to do, when in reality they’re just unnecessary burdens.
Unfortunately, that includes people.
If you’re a person who cares deeply about people and loves to meet new people, you have probably come across people who were very hard to deal with.
I’m not talking about strong personalities and differences in opinion; I’m talking about people who put you down constantly or who make you feel bad about yourself even when you have done nothing to deserve that treatment.
Those kinds of people live off your energy because they’re too miserable to have their own.
They refuse to take responsibility, they’re often jealous and controlling and can’t be happy for other people.
They find problems in everything around them but don’t see the problem within themselves.
If someone you know is spreading negativity on a daily basis, always plays the victim, keeps disappointing you, blames you, criticizes you or wastes your precious time, you don’t need them in your life—you need them out as soon as possible.
Trust me, it’s going to be worth it.
I had to do it myself because I got tired.
I got tired of being taken for granted. I got tired of being someone’s punching bag. I definitely got tired of hearing how everyone and everything is always bad.
Not to mention their constant need to belittle everything you do. Nothing is ever good enough.
They always comment on the smallest flaws and don’t respect your boundaries and sometimes even make fun of them or get angry for no reason.
They seek attention in every way possible to satisfy their hungry ego. That’s why you need to remember you’re not here to entertain someone else and solve their issues when they don’t want to face themselves first.
I realized that some people just don’t change, no matter what you do. That’s when it dawned on me that in order to move on in life, you need to let go of the things that hold you down.
How do you do that?
Start with trusting yourself and your feelings. If something feels wrong, don’t do it, don’t engage with it.
Always say what you mean and not what others want to hear. Stay away from drama and trust your instincts.
Don’t be afraid to say no to people and don’t be afraid to part ways with the ones who don’t care about you and make you feel bad about yourself.
Cutting people off doesn’t mean you hate them. It just means you learned to respect and love yourself.
And that’s an important thing. Toxic people may cause you harm and pain but without them, you won’t learn to respect yourself more.
You won’t learn that the opinions of others don’t matter as long as you feel good about your decisions in your heart.
You won’t learn to just let go of the things that go against your nature, to walk away from things that are pointless.
You won’t learn how to always be yourself despite the pressure to change and pull back.
Don’t give up, don’t play small. Don’t waste your time playing someone else’s game instead of fully experiencing your life.
Focus on yourself, your goals and the people who love you.
There are many people in your life who deserve your attention and love, people who don’t play vicious games or avoid responsibility.
Those are the kind of people you need.
Reenergize yourself, spend time with yourself. Be kind to yourself when you’re tired, don’t sacrifice your happiness to make everybody else happy.
Know your limits and your self-worth.
Forgive everyone but don’t repeat your mistakes.
Most importantly, forgive yourself for dealing with people who didn’t deserve you.
You’re good enough as you are and no amount of toxicity could ever change that.