10 consigli per superare la paura di perdere qualcuno

Avete paura di perdere il vostro partner e questo vi spinge a concedervi più di quanto dovreste. Iniziate a vedere come la vostra vita sarebbe miserabile senza di lui e che avete bisogno di lui a qualsiasi condizione.

This mindset can become really depressing at times and it makes you forget about how valuable you are as a person and that you’re an individual who can do really well all by herself.

Of course, I’m not trying to tell you to leave him so you can experiment if you could live without him, I’m just giving you ways in which you can prevent yourself from thinking about it so much that even the most simple thought about it makes you cry.

Rendetevi conto che la vostra paura è del tutto normale

First of all, let’s get this clear—your fear is something normal and if you love him, your reaction to the thought of losing him and the sadness you feel are normal reactions.

Il problema inizia nel momento in cui inizia a consumare l'utente.. When you can’t be happy while being with your partner because of the constant bug in your head, your relationship can’t progress in the way it should.

You’re stuck with that idea and you simply can’t let go of it. Remember that the fear of losing a loved one is normal and we all experience it, but you don’t need to worry about it to the point where you stop enjoying the present moment!

Mettete il vostro partner al secondo posto

You should be your own priority. You should never give up something you love because of him and you shouldn’t be dedicating all of your time and energy into the relationship. You need it for yourself!

With the urge for self-improvement, you will completely forget about your fear because you will be the one who is the most important person in your life. Even if your partner does leave you, you’ll know that you didn’t give up on your dreams for him.

By the way, this doesn’t mean to be selfish and to forget about him or your relationship, to never have time for him, etc, it just means that you will be more aware of the fact that even if he leaves, you will still have a fulfilled life.

Trascorrere del tempo da soli

Questo va di pari passo con il consiglio precedente. Quando si trascorre più tempo con se stessi, si acquista un senso di indipendenza.

You will know that your happiness isn’t in the hands of someone else, but rather in your own. Simply relax and stop running after him.

Scrivetelo

Ogni volta che sentite la paura insinuarsi, prendete un quaderno e scrivetela, perché vi assicuro che a un certo punto inizierà a sembrarvi sciocca. In questo modo diventerete più consapevoli della paura e la riconoscerete quando arriva.

Scrivetelo semplicemente per sapere quale situazione ha scatenato questa paura e come evitare queste situazioni.

For example, if you’re home alone and your toxic thoughts are consuming your mind, you can sit down and write, then after, forget about that topic and set your mind on thinking about a project you have at work and how to deal with it or put on a movie that makes you laugh your heart out. These things helped me a lot.

Parlare con il partner

Because I’m speaking here out of personal experience, I know for sure that communication can vi risparmierà molte notti passate a piangere.

By talking with your partner, he will know how much the relationship means to you and that you appreciate him. He can even reassure you how something like that won’t happen and it will make you feel at ease.

Realize that you can’t control everything

If someone’s going to leave, they will leave. You can’t keep them by your side if they don’t want to be there. Why would you even want someone like that in your life? There is nothing they can give you anymore.

Lasciate che se ne vadano. Può essere difficile e può lasciarvi il cuore spezzato, ma nessuno sarà felice se il vostro partner parla di lasciarvi e voi non fate altro che piangere e urlare per convincerlo a restare.

If he doesn’t want to, he probably doesn’t love you, so why bother?

You’re not the only one dealing with this

In this world, there are so many people who were left by their loved ones. It can even happen on a daily basis! This means that you won’t be the first or the last person who is being left by someone who is very important in your life.

I know that this isn’t the advice you were looking for but it’s the truth. There are so many women who are happy with being alone and who don’t need someone to remind them that they’re beautiful.

Fate il possibile per trarre il meglio da questa situazione

Non lasciate che la paura di perderlo vi impedisca di dimostrargli quanto sia importante per voi! Trascorrete del tempo con lui e ditegli tutto ciò che vi serve per farlo sentire amato. Se lui vi ama, farà la stessa cosa per voi!

Questo rafforzerà il vostro rapporto e, anche se dovesse finire, avrete dei bellissimi ricordi da conservare.

Fiducia nella propria capacità di superare il dolore del cuore

You are a strong woman who has dealt with many situations where people would leave you and you’re still alive. You overcame all those times qualcuno ti ha rotto and you’re still around. You can overcome anything!

If it gets to this point ever again, you need to trust yourself enough to know that you can deal with it and that it’s nothing to be afraid of. Life goes on and you will need time to heal but it’s going to be worth it!

Non possono mai abbandonare del tutto la vostra vita

Even if someone you love does leave you, they still live on in your memory and you had an amazing time with them even if they’re not by your side anymore.

Sono loro che vi hanno fatto diventare la persona che siete oggi e dovete essere grati che siano stati lì a rendere la vostra vita più ricca.