11 Segni che sta mantenendo aperte le sue opzioni

Non parlare di etichette è diventata una specie di tendenza al giorno d'oggi.

Potreste trovarvi nella situazione in cui state frequentando qualcuno da mesi e non sapete ancora se siete esclusivi o meno.

That’s where assumptions kick in. You assume that if he is the only one you are seeing and you don’t need anybody else, that he feels and acts the same.

But without having “the talk”, you really don’t know if you are the only woman in his life. Don’t assume, and get to the bottom of things.

Verificate i segnali elencati di seguito e stabilite se sta mantenendo aperte le sue opzioni.

Keep in mind that these signs individually don’t mean much, but if he is ticking most of the boxes, you are probably not the only woman he is dating:

1. Si trattiene

He is still keeping you at an arm’s length. He doesn’t seem too eager to open up and let you closer.

You mostly talk about you or some other topics that don’t include him or the two of you as a couple. Whatever you have, it won’t progress any further until he lets you in.

La possibilità di condividere e confidarsi con qualcuno è ciò che distingue una vera relazione da un appuntamento.

Se vi siete aperti con lui sperando che seguisse il vostro esempio, ma non avete ottenuto nulla, è probabile che non sia come seriamente su di teu come volete che sia.

2. Scrive solo testi

It’s easier to use texts, especially during the initial phases of dating when you are still getting to know one another.

Ma se questo comportamento continua e se non ricevete altro che pochi messaggi qua e là, c'è qualcosa che dovrebbe farvi preoccupare.

Un uomo che tiene solo a voi prenderà il telefono e chiamerà per sentire la vostra voce o farà una videochiamata per vedervi di tanto in tanto.

It’s easier to bond this way and make more profound connections—that is if you want them.

3. Usa termini generici per descrivere i suoi piani

Of course, he’ll have other plans, and he won’t be glued to you 24/7. But pay attention to the way he explains his whereabouts.

More often than not, you have no clue what he is up to. He has “a family thing”, “something at work”, “some errands to run”, “something a friend needs help with”, etc.

Oltre a essere vago sui suoi spostamenti, non li racconta mai più in seguito.

He never shares where he’s been, what he’s done or how it went. It makes you wonder, doesn’t it?

4. Ha l'abitudine di cancellare i piani all'ultimo minuto.

Things happen. Fife is unpredictable, and it’s only natural that plans are going to get moved or canceled sometimes. Sometimes yes, but not most of the time.

If he is juggling a few women at once, it can be pretty hard to manage his schedule. That’s why he gets lost in all of it.

Prestate attenzione. Se gli altri comportamenti sembrano un po' fuori luogo, c'è sicuramente un motivo per essere preoccupati.

5. He doesn’t add you on his social media accounts

Si possono scoprire molte cose su un ragazzo sfogliando i suoi account sui social media.

That’s why a guy who is keeping his options open will try to leave you out of it. He will come up with some great and convincing story.

He might say he usually doesn’t add people he dates, that social media complicates things and creates jealousy or something down that lane.

The odds are he is trying to sell that story to other women, too, and it’s easier to date a few people at once when they have lesser chances of finding out about one another.

6. Non lascia mai il telefono incustodito

His phone has a better protection system than the Pentagon, and you wouldn’t be able to get in even if you wanted to.

Tuttavia, non ha mai lasciato il telefono vicino a voi e non ha mai lasciato la stanza.

He also never reads his texts or answers his phone around you. He doesn’t want you to see or hear anything you shouldn’t.

He’s also not too eager to give you his phone if you need to use it for some reason. A guy with nothing to hide wouldn’t act shady in these situations.

You don’t have to know how to unlock his phone, but he will have no problem leaving it around, answering calls or reading texts when you are by his side.

7. Scompare di tanto in tanto

Per un po' sarà carinissimo, attento e ti starà addosso, ma poi sparirà con te.

It won’t be forever. He’ll be back again, acting like nothing happened or having some lame excuse up his sleeve.

Questo tipo di comportamento è inaccettabile. Vi sta mancando di rispetto, vi sta prendendo in giro e potrebbe anche avere qualche ragazza laterale. Già questo è un buon motivo per scaricarlo.

8. Ha troppe amiche donne

Sure, he can have a few good female friends but they are all friends you know—or at least you will get to know—when things get a bit more serious.

But if he never talks about them, that’s a red flag right there—especially if you run into them and he introduces you as one more of his many friends. It’s more than obvious that something is off.

9. Things aren’t adding up

It’s just a matter of time before a man who multi-dates gets tangled up in his own web of lies.

Anche se lui imparato a mentire come una delle sue tante abilità, è destinato a scivolare prima o poi.

La prima cosa che farà saltare la sua copertura sarà il fatto che ha tutte queste versioni diverse di una stessa storia.

So one day he’ll talk about hanging out with his friends on Friday night, and if you ask him in a few days, he spent that same Friday night chilling at home watching movies.

10. Parlare di impegno è qualcosa che evita abilmente.

È così bravo con le parole e riesce a trasformare ogni situazione in un vantaggio per lui.

You might have even tried to have “the talk” with him, but he somehow managed to change the topic.

Potrebbe anche non dirlo direttamente, ma accennare al fatto che non è impegnato in qualcosa di serio in questo momento.

He has a wild nature and a free spirit. He doesn’t want to complicate things. He needs time, etc.

These indirect things are pretty direct if you look at them closely. Don’t allow him to lead you on.

11. Your gut is telling you that something’s off

Quante volte siete finiti in una situazione difficile perché avete scelto di ignorare il vostro istinto? Troppe volte, vero?

Don’t do it this time. If you think that something is off, talk to him directly.

Chiedigli se sei l'unica con cui si vede e se siete esclusivi o meno. La vita è troppo corta per fare il passo più lungo della gamba e giocare.

If you are not the only woman in his life as you thought you were, it’s time to wave him goodbye.