4 cose che avresti dovuto ricordare prima di spezzarle il cuore

Quando si fa del male a qualcuno, non si pensa alle conseguenze delle proprie azioni.

You don’t think about whether it’s the right thing to do and whether you should be a little more considerate in your words and deeds.

Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying you should remain in a loveless relationship just for the sake of the other person.

Tuttavia, c'è un'enorme differenza tra lasciare il partner e spezzargli il cuore.

And that’s exactly what you did to your ex-girlfriend: le hai spezzato il cuore in un milione di pezzi.

Hai scelto di essere un stronzo egoista who doesn’t give a damn about her feelings and only looks after his own well-being.

Basically, you planned that you’ll get out of all of this unharmed while her pain was none of your business.

Ebbene, è proprio qui che vi siete sbagliati.

1. It won’t make you feel any better

One of the first things you should have kept in mind before you decided to hurt this girl is that causing someone else pain doesn’t heal yours.

It doesn’t make you a badass or a player, and it’s definitely not something you should be proud of.

Humiliating someone else won’t wipe out your insecurities and it won’t boost your fragile ego.

Thinking that you’re above this girl won’t make you think more of yourself and it certainly won’t give you the self-confidence you desperately try to build in all the wrong ways.

It won’t make you more appealing to other girls, nor will it cause envy in other guys.

Invece, tutti vi vedranno per l'idiota che siete in realtà.

Most importantly – sooner or later, you’ll start seeing yourself as a selfish person who doesn’t care about other people’s feelings.

Before you know it, you’ll regret the fact that you were a jerk toward the last person who deserved it.

2. It’s your loss

Quando hai abbandonato questa ragazza, lei ha pensato che perderti fosse la cosa peggiore che potesse capitarle.

She was convinced she’d never recover and the devastating pain would haunt her for as long as she breathes.

Tuttavia, entrambi avete evidentemente dimenticato che in realtà sei stato tu a perdere tutto, mentre lei ha guadagnato moltissimo.

After all, she lost a man who never cared for her for real – a man who didn’t deserve her unconditional love.

Tuttavia, avete perso il vostro migliore amico e amante, tutto in una volta.

You’re sentenced to a life without the only person you could trust, the only woman who was ready to make sacrifices for your sake, and the girl who ti ha amato più di quanto abbia amato se stessa.

Quindi, chi è il vero perdente?

Chi ha più possibilità di passare il resto dei propri giorni a rimpiangere le proprie scelte e chi ha più probabilità di trovare il proprio "vissero felici e contenti"?

Un uomo senza scrupoli, incapace di amare?

O una ragazza dal cuore altruista che sa combattere per ciò che ama?

3. You won’t break her

Despite all odds, when you crushed this girl’s heart, you didn’t manage to crush her entire being as well.

Invece, l'avete solo resa più forte e più resistente.

Vedete, questa ragazza è riuscita a ricostruire se stessa e a incollare di nuovo il suo cuore in frantumi.

È riuscita a uscire da questo dolore più forte che mai e lo ha usato a suo vantaggio.

I know you hoped that she’d spend the rest of her life missing you and begging you to come back.

That she’d forever remain hurt, in tears, and never really get over you.

Well, you thought wrong. Obviously, you forgot everything she’s capable of and how much she can take.

And that is your biggest defeat: the fact that you’re completely forgotten and that you haven’t left a permanent mark on this girl, despite giving her a massive heartache.