5 cose che succedono quando si lascia uno psicopatico emotivo

Quando si entra per la prima volta in una relazione con uno psicopatico emotivo, you have no idea you are dealing with a sick and dangerous man. Even when you realize you are not living the life you are supposed to live and which you deserve, you hope against hope you can ‘fix’ him and turn him into something he’s not.

Questo spesso vi porta a soffrire ancora di più di quanto già non facciate. Vi porta a sprecare il vostro tempo e la vostra giovinezza con qualcuno che vi usa e vi prosciuga emotivamente.

At first, you don’t get that you are in an abusive relationship. Only when you escape, you realize you’ve been emotionally abused.

Throughout your relationship with a psycho, you start to accept his destructive behavior towards you as standard—as something completely normal. You think it’s your fault he treats you like that. You think you have to change yourself.

This can seriously damage you. This can seriously damage and have a bad influence on your personality. This can change you after everything if you don’t escape in time.

If he succeeded in messing with your head, don’t feel lost. Once you were a strong woman. There’s no doubt that you will get that confidence and independence back.

Ti ha scelto per un motivo. He could easily have chosen someone who was weak, someone who was an easy prey. But that wasn’t challenging. He needed you, a strong woman, to hurt and try to destroy. Only then was he going to feel like he achieved something—like he won. But you fucked up his plans.

You broke free from his cold chains that left bruises on your neck. You took control of your life and you left him. But that doesn’t mean being with him didn’t leave any consequences. It did. You needed to go through hell and back to be able to heal and trust someone all over again.

1. Imparate a volervi di nuovo bene

It’s the first and most important step of healing. If you want to move on with your life and not to be crippled with the pain he caused you, you have to discard all he has done to you and start afresh. You slowly start to realize you are the most important person to yourself right now.

You’re slowly starting to see that you deserve the best. You deserve everything he’s not. You realize that you need to show yourself some respect because you are first spending the rest of your life with yourself, and then with someone else.

2. Ci si blocca davanti a un muro emotivo

You reach the point of total emptiness. You don’t know how to handle all these new feelings that are taking over you. If you meet someone who is interested in you and treats you the way you deserve, you get lost.

Non siete abituati a non essere manipolati. Non siete abituati a far sentire la vostra voce. Non siete abituati ad essere quelli che contano.

3. Si guarda ad ogni minimo dettaglio

You cannot relax. It’s hard. You expect bad things to happen. Ti aspetti che un altro idiota entri nella tua vita con l'intenzione di distruggerla. That’s why you start to overanalyze people and their actions.

You break situations into small fragments and examine them one by one until you are sure it’s safe to move on. Because of this fear, you keep your distance from everybody, because you are scared of going through the same thing all over again.

4. Avete problemi di fiducia

Of course, this one goes without saying. How can you trust anyone after you’ve been used and almost destroyed? You played with fire, you know it, and you got burned. It’s true that you could have left him the moment you realized something was wrong, but you hoped you could fix him.

You didn’t. You got burned. But sometimes you need to get burned to Imparare la lezione. Il fatto è che avete pagato questa lezione di vita molto più di quanto avreste mai potuto immaginare.

5. Vedete la vita senza confini

Niente più minacce, niente più giochi mentali, niente più scuse per tutto, niente più bugie. Tutto questo non c'è più. Vi è finalmente permesso di vivere la vostra vita come volete.

You get to live a life with no boundaries, no red signs and no dead-end streets. You are the one who calls all the shots now. And even if you screw up, you’ll know it’s because of something you did and not someone else.

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