5 modi duri per smettere di amare qualcuno

Se avete mai provato a smettere di amare qualcuno, sapete quanto possa sembrare impossibile.

But although it is a process that takes time, energy and patience, it is far from impossible. Although love is an emotion that can’t be controlled, there are some ways that can help you kill all the feelings you have for someone.

Eccone 5:

1. Affrontare la realtà

When you feel like you’ve lost yourself to a heartbreak, the hardest but most necessary thing is to accept the harsh truth. Whether your relationship is over or the man you love just doesn’t love you back, if you want to stop loving him, the first thing you need to do is to face reality, no matter how painful it can be.

You need to get rid of all the hope that this man will be yours, because hope is exactly what is keeping your love for him alive. I am not saying this will be the easiest thing to do—I know it is painful but it is just something you need to do if you really want to move on with your life.

I know you can’t tell your heart what to do but the first step you have to take is consciously deciding that you will stop loving him.

2. Abbracciare la tristezza

Di solito le persone hanno la tendenza a fare qualsiasi cosa in loro potere per sfuggire alla tristezza, perché pensano che questo le renda troppo deboli. E io sono qui per dirvi che questo è uno dei più grandi errori che possiate commettere.

Non c'è nulla di male nell'esprimere i propri sentimenti e nasconderli a se stessi può essere più dannoso di quanto si pensi. Se avete voglia di piangere, piangete. Se avete voglia di urlare, sentitevi liberi di farlo.

Fate tutto il necessario, solo concedetevi il tempo di guarire. La cosa peggiore che possiate fare è fingere di stare bene quando è evidente che non è così. È meglio concedersi un periodo di lutto piuttosto che lasciarsi prendere da queste emozioni negative prima o poi.

3. Pensate a tutte le qualità negative di questa persona

Quando amiamo qualcuno, di solito guardiamo questa persona attraverso occhiali rosa.

You probably think of this man as better than he really is and you fail to see his numerous flaws. But if you want to stop loving him for real, you’ll have to start looking at him differently. I am not saying that you should start hating him but maybe it’s time to focus on his negative qualities.

This way, you’ll see that he is only human and that he has his imperfections as well. Every time you start to think of this man, force yourself to think about the things you don’t like about him and that will help you change the image you have of him.

4. State lontani da questa persona

If you really want to stop loving someone, you need to keep him out of your sight. And that means that you should avoid all form of contact with this man—you shouldn’t call him or answer his calls, you should avoid going to the places where you think you might meet him.

If it is necessary, block his number or change yours and block him on all social networks. This may appear like an impolite thing to do and you may think it is too harsh, but trust me—it is something you need to do if you want to get over him.

With time, you’ll see the results of this step, because there will be fewer and fewer things reminding you of him and causing you to think of him.

5. Tenersi occupati

While you are in a grieving period, you think you’ll never stop loving this man. You can’t make yourself do anything except cry for this guy. Your friends and family bore you and there is nothing that can keep your attention for long enough.

Invece di uscire in pubblico, preferite rimanere a letto a piangere la vostra perdita. E questo è uno dei peggiori errori che possiate fare. Se volete davvero smettere di amare qualcuno, dovete fare di tutto per non pensare a lui. E la cosa migliore da fare è tenersi sempre occupati.

It will be hard in the beginning but with time, you’ll see that you are slowly starting to focus on some other things.