5 promemoria per una ragazza che non ha visto arrivare il suo cuore infranto

Avete mai avuto una relazione con un ragazzo che non potevate nemmeno sognare che vi facesse del male?

Con qualcuno che pensavi fosse la tua persona per sempre e che ti ha fatto credere che avrebbe preferito morire piuttosto che spezzarti il cuore?

However, after a while, that was exactly what he did—shattered it to pieces without thinking twice. 

Well, the worst part about this case scenario is the fact that you didn’t see your heartbreak coming. You didn’t expect it and it just hit you out of nowhere. 

So now, you’re not only devastated by the pain of your ex leaving you, you’re also in a state of shock. What actually happened and when did things start going downhill?

If this is something you can relate to, please don’t forget these 5 things. 

1. It’s not your fault

When we get betrayed by someone we trusted the most, the first thing that goes through our mind is that we’re guilty of allowing this to happen in the first place. And you’re no different.

You can’t believe that you picked the wrong guy, that you let him into your life and heart and that you gave him the opportunity to hurt you.

You can’t believe how you could have fallen for his lies and wonder whether there was something you could have done to prevent all of this from happening. 

Come hai potuto essere così sciocca da pianificare un futuro con qualcuno che ovviamente non ti ha mai amato abbastanza?

Come avete potuto credere alle sue vuote promesse e aspettarvi un risultato completamente diverso?

Well, let me tell you that you’re not to blame. He is the only one responsible for breaking your heart and you’re nothing but his victim. 

No, you’re not stupid and there was no way for you to predict this outcome.

You were (and probably still are) just in love and the intensity of your feelings didn’t let you see things clearly. 

2. Tutto questo fa parte della vita

This might not be comforting but you’re not alone in this pain. You’re not the only person in the world who is going through something like this. 

Yes, I know that the fact that other people are suffering as well won’t ease your pain but it will definitely make you feel like less of a fool, if nothing else.

Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that all of this is a part of dating and that there probably doesn’t exist a single human being who hasn’t experienced something similar at some point. 

After all, you can’t expect your life to be all sunshine and roses. You have to go through a few failures and a few break-ups before finding the real deal. 

Pertanto, smettete di vedere il vostro cuore spezzato come la fine del mondo. Vedetelo invece come un'opportunità per un nuovo inizio. 

3. It won’t break you…

Another thing you must have in mind at all times is that luckily, this man hasn’t succeeded in rompendoti solo perché ha trovato il modo di spezzarti il cuore.

Even if you don’t see this now, you’re much stronger than you appear and than you might think. 

Despite all the pain you’re feeling at this moment, he didn’t break you beyond repair.

Ti ha danneggiato in una certa misura, ma le tue ferite alla fine si trasformeranno in cicatrici e guarirai. 

Riuscirete a dimenticare il vostro ex e risorgerete da questa esperienza come una fenice dalle ceneri.

And when that happens, you’ll be more powerful than ever.

Vi prometto una cosa: andrete avanti con la vostra vita. Ce la farai senza di lui e sopravviverai! 

4. …but it will teach you a lot

I’ll be honest here; I’m not saying that your heartbreak didn’t change you.

Yes, you still remain the same person you’ve always been in the essence of your soul but something like this would leave a mark on anyone. 

Tuttavia, invece di permettere che l'oscurità vi inghiotta e che tutto questo vi renda negativi, amari e emotivamente non disponibilevedono questo cambiamento come un'opportunità per essere e fare meglio.

See all of this as a valuable experience that will shape you into the woman you’re destined to become. 

Osservatela come una prova di forza e di fede, come un'opportunità per imparare a non ripetere gli errori. 

Guardate le cose da un punto di vista più luminoso: la verità è che questa volta il vostro cuore spezzato vi ha colto di sorpresa.

Ti ha sorpreso e ti ha lasciato sconvolto, oltre a farti a pezzi. 

Tuttavia, vi assicuro che la prossima volta sarà tutto molto diverso.

Now, you’re richer for one experience more and you have the ability to see the signs that something is off before you get backstabbed. 

You’re wiser and smarter now and you’ll be able to spot all the red flags you should run away from. And that was never possible before. 

Un'altra cosa che imparerete è a scegliere meglio e ad essere più attenti a quelli a cui date accesso.

You will understand that you don’t need anyone to give your life meaning and that you can keep on going without all those you thought you needed. 

Not only that—you will also master the art of healing.

Farete molta introspezione e troverete i modi migliori per aiutarvi quando attraversate un periodo difficile, indipendentemente dal fatto che sia legato all'amore o meno. 

5. You’re not unlovable

Just because one guy ditched you, it doesn’t mean that your personal history will repeat itself.

Just because he failed to see your worth, it doesn’t mean that you won’t be enough for some other man who will know how to appreciate you. 

Just because your ex didn’t treat you the way you deserved, it doesn’t mean that all the men you meet will be like him.

Just because he turned out to be a manipulative jerk and a liar, it doesn’t mean that you won’t run into an honest, nice guy who will conquer your heart all over again.

Most importantly—just because one douchebag didn’t care for you, it doesn’t make you non amabile o non è più in grado di uscire.

This guy doesn’t represent all the men out there and you shouldn’t allow your past traumas to prevent you from having a bright future and a happy love life. 

Please, don’t let him diminish your worth and kill you spiritually. Don’t let him destroy your optimism and faith in love.

Don’t let him convince you that you’ll never find someone who will love you wholeheartedly. Because you will. 

E fino ad allora, fino a quando non arriverà l'uomo giusto, amarsi al meglio sarà più che sufficiente.