6 cose da ricordare quando si vuole spegnere il cuore

Siete mai stati così stufi di delusioni, umiliazioni, false promesse, relazioni tossiche, fantasmi, rotture devastanti, giochi mentali e, infine, dolori di cuore?

Avete mai raggiunto un punto di rottura e non avete visto altra via d'uscita che rinunciare del tutto all'amore?

You’ve been trying your best to find the love of your life for so long but without any success.

So, after all those failed attempts, you started believing that you’re non destinato ad essere amato.

In parole povere: Hai deciso che era ora di iniziare a comportarti senza cuore.

If this is something you can relate to, I’m here to ask you to reconsider your decision.

Actually, I’m here to remind you of a few things you shouldn’t forget if you think that shutting your heart off is the thing to do.

1. He’s not worthy

Let’s be honest. You’re disappointed in love thanks to a certain douchebag who broke your heart and tore you to pieces. So, wasn’t that more than enough?

Haven’t you given this guy enough importance? Hasn’t he impacted your life enough?

Come potete pensare di dedicargli altre attenzioni? Pensate davvero che meriti altro tempo per voi?

Vedete, se decidete di privarvi della possibilità di trovare l'amore, sarà un segno che lui ha vinto.

Significa che ha contato così tanto per voi da riuscire a cambiare l'essenza della vostra personalità e a rimodellare la vostra intera vita.

And no matter how much you cared for this man, he’s not worthy of all of this. At least not after everything he’s put you through.

In fact, the only way for you to defeat him and overcome everything he did to you is to show both of you that you’re capable of moving on with your life, as if nothing happened.

It’s to show him that just because he broke your heart, it doesn’t mean he broke you.

2. You’ll be sorry

Another thing you need to keep in mind is that you’ll regret your decision of shutting down your heart forever.

Even though at this moment you’re probably convinced that this is the best decision you can make, trust me: After a while, you’ll actually start seeing it as the worst mistake of your life.

Whether you believe me or not, love is beautiful and it’s a pity to consciously kick it out of your life forever, especially because of some jerk.

Don’t get me wrong. There’s nothing wrong with ending up alone, if things happen that way. In this case scenario, you wouldn’t have anyone to blame but destiny.

However, if you make this choice, you’re going to be the only one responsible for your numbness, lack of emotions, and all other negative consequences shutting your heart off will bring you.

I assure you that once you get old, you’ll be sorry for not playing your cards differently and for not at least giving love a shot.

3. It won’t protect you…

The only reason you made the choice of shutting down your emotions for good is because you think it’s the only way to protect yourself.

Siete riusciti a convincervi che non avete altra scelta se non quella di non far entrare più nessuno come misura precauzionale.

After many failures, you concluded that you obviously have bad judgment skills and don’t know how to choose right.

Pertanto, avete deciso di rinunciare all'amore per evitare a voi stessi inutili grattacapi e sofferenze e per non dare agli altri la possibilità di continuare a farvi del male.

However, I have to disappoint you and tell you that this won’t protect you.

È possibile agire senza cuore as much as you want, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t have a heart that beats on its own.

Despite all your attempts, you can’t control your destiny and you never know what’ll happen next.

Therefore, all of your efforts will be pointless and if it’s meant to be, someone will hurt you again.

…but it will change you

Tuttavia, la cosa peggiore è che cercare di fare tutto questo vi cambierà per sempre.

You won’t only lose the ability to love the way you used to – which, that alone, is sad enough – you’ll also lose your kindness, optimism, and happiness overall.

There’s nothing wrong in building and updating yourself over time.

Nevertheless, this has to happen on your own terms and when you want it to, not as a consequence of someone else’s actions and behavior towards you.

4. Vi priverà della felicità

You see, you can’t decide on what kind of emotions you want to stop feeling.

Sì, la vita sarebbe perfetta se offrisse la possibilità di scegliere di provare solo gioia e altre emozioni positive e di spegnere tristezza, rabbia, risentimento e ogni altra negatività.

On the contrary, even if you succeed in this mission of shutting your heart down, it will kill all emotions you have, including the ones you don’t want to get rid of and would rather keep.

Vi renderà completamente indifferenti e insensibili.

It will make it impossible for you to open up to those who deserve it, have honest relationships, and fall in love ever again. The worst part is that it’ll deprive you from happiness.

On the other hand, if you keep putting yourself out there – I won’t lie to you – there’s a chance of your heart being broken once more.

But, there’s also a chance of you ending up happier than you’ve ever been.And I assure you that this is a risk worth taking.

5. Other people aren’t to blame

The thing many forget is that other people from their future shouldn’t suffer for the actions of those from their past.

What I’m trying to say is: there’s no point in you punishing the men you’re yet to meet and expect the worst from them, just because some douchebag didn’t treat you right.

Ricordate che non tutti sono come il tuo ex. There are plenty of other men out there who are the opposite of him, who’d give you what you want and deserve.

Quindi, vuoi davvero che questo bravo ragazzo subisca le conseguenze dei tuoi traumi passati con cui non ha nulla a che fare.