6 cose che non dovresti mai dire al tuo ragazzo riguardo alla tua ex

Quando si inizia una nuova relazione, è normale voler condividere tutto con l'uomo che si sta frequentando, sempre di più con il passare del tempo.

Vi avvicinerete sempre di più e vorrete raccontargli il più possibile di voi stessi e viceversa.

But sometimes, it’s necessary to have boundaries. It’s amazing when you find a guy who makes you feel like there’s nothing you can’t tell him but when it comes to the ex-files, there is such a thing as oversharing.

Clearly, you both have a past and you’ve both dated other people, so it’s normal to explore that and familiarize each other with your past experiences.

Ma ci sono alcune cose che potreste voler evitare di dire al vostro ragazzo quando si tratta del vostro ex, ed ecco questi casi:

Qualsiasi tipo di confronto tra il suo attuale compagno e il suo ex.

Guys have feelings, too. You don’t want your man to feel like he constantly has to live up to your expectations based on how your ex handled certain situations, right?

So, don’t tell him about your ex in terms of him doing something better. It will only make him feel less than. After all, there’s a reason you broke up. Let your man pave his own way to your heart.

Any intimate details regarding your sex life or your ex’s manhood

This is really simple. Your current boyfriend does not want to know about anyone else’s intimate relationships with his girlfriend (you).

Naturalmente, dovete essere sinceri se c'è qualcosa che deve sapere sulla vostra salute sessuale, ma per favore, risparmiategli i dettagli.

He doesn’t need to know the size of your ex’s thing or how often you did it. All he is interested in is making you and your joint life a happy one and anything else is unnecessary information, really.

I dettagli di come vi siete conosciuti

Your BF doesn’t want to hear all about the day when you fell for some other guy. It doesn’t matter that it’s over, he still doesn’t need to hear you lovingly tell him about the romantic way your ex swept you off your feet.

It won’t sit well with him, so unless he specifically asks, avoid telling that story.

Qualsiasi cosa sulla sua situazione finanziaria

Questo è un argomento delicato per i ragazzi. Non importa quanto fosse stronzo il vostro ex, se raccontate al vostro ragazzo quanti soldi ha guadagnato e dei regali costosi che vi ha comprato, gli darete solo un'impressione sbagliata.

Why would you have been dating a guy you didn’t like who was also a jerk? It will make it seem like you only stayed for his money and you know that’s not the case. Just drop any money-related comparisons and it’ll be fine.

Piace ai tuoi amici

Probabilmente sta già cercando di lasciare una buona impressione ai vostri amici, quindi la sua fiducia sarà colpita solo se sentirà che il vostro ex andava d'accordo con tutti loro.

It’s already hard enough for him, because he really wants your girls to like him, so hearing about how much they liked your ex will do no good.

Let him get to know your crew and develop a nice bond with them organically. He doesn’t need to feel like he has to compare with your ex in every field.

Parlare male del proprio ex

This is never a good idea. First, if you keep talking about him (whether it’s good or bad) it will leave the impression that there are some lingering feelings there.

So make sure to tone it down. Even if you’re trying to make a funny remark about your ex in any way, make sure it’s not too harsh.

Your current BF is not going to like the fact that you’re talking trash about someone you once dated. How is he to know that you won’t do the same if you two ever break up?

Keep the ‘ex talk’ to a minimum and focus on the guy in front of you. There’s a reason your ex is in your past.